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SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information - Mental Health http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/ The Mental Health forum is for giving and receiving support for depression, bi-polar, and other disorders. Sat, 21 Nov 2009 02:32:20 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/images/misc/rss.jpg SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information - Mental Health http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/ Fractured (1000 Words) http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/188817-fractured-1000-words.html Wed, 18 Nov 2009 15:47:15 GMT Orders, Disorders and the Event of Fracture

No life can ever be deemed as "fair". Life is what happens to us each day we are alive. That life can seem hostile or that life can seem peaceful but little in life ever equates to "fair". The old phrase, " life is what happens while your making other plans" is a idea of what i am presenting. Expectations seem to keep us in a dream state of sorts while everything else goes on around us. As we find acceptance of life, as we realize God is not after us, we see the peace of heaven settle in around us no matter what our circumstances. If indeed addiction is a "craving" then what is it we crave and where did it come from?

The psychological ‘high’ experienced from certain activities may cause the person to crave the feeling again, emotions such as those felt when making a new purchase, winning a bet, or sleeping with a stranger or someone new can excite the senses and trigger a yearning.
Is there not an emptiness inside of caused by a wound or fracture. Was there not a separation that cased us to crave more love, more sex, more food then is humanly health. I know there was for me. Having no father, having a mother who was missing most of the time, there was a huge void deep inside that I tried to fill with everything from food, to masturbation, all of which left a giant pit of shame to transcend each time my self-esteem faltered.

Elizabeth Moberly is a British research psychologist : She believes that a temperamental predisposition contributes, but that the primary cause of male homosexuality is the failure of boys to bond with their fathers. Moberly opposes this idea to the "domineering mother" idea in Freudian psychoanalysis. Moberly believes that ALL homosexuality is a reparative drive, an attempt to repair a lack of affection from persons of the same sex.

* There really is no single cause for any disorder. Most kids who develop anorexia do so between the ages of 11 & 14 (although it can start early) Sexual experimentation the same age*

My own eating disorder started at the age pf 8 or 9 while my drinking and masturbation did begin at the exact time mentioned by the experts - 11-14. It was a fracture, a void I sought to fill with anything and everything I could. it was a hole, a God shaped hole but I had no one there to explain God to me. Oh they introduced me to religion and the bible but none introduced me to Christ.

In some families, the mother is extremely concerned about her daughter's weight, and that concern can lead to the child becoming over concerned as well, which then can lead to an eating disorder. Also in families, sometimes the father or brothers make comments or suggestions having to do with the daughter's weight, which can then make her want to look as thin as she can so that the rest of her family is satisfied.

The environment in which we grow up and are exposed to may be answerable for some addictions; continuous exposure to alcohol and heavy drinkers, might be experienced through living above a pub and may permit this addiction to seem easily accessible and exempt of blame or title.

The chemistry of the brain is accountable for many addictions as the receptors in the brain can cause the individuals to crave a substance such as heroine, and gaining control over these cravings can be a very difficult struggle. Personality can take a part in addiction as many people simply have the type of personality that becomes addicted to something.

The person tries to escape some physical or emotional pain by taking drugs. This could be a physical or emotional pain, or the discomfort of boredom, peer pressure, lack of social skills. The person finds that the drugs offer temporary relief, so continues to abuse them.

A Fracture must heal by exposure. It cannot be healed in the dark! We are as sick as our secrets!

" A Fractured Mind " starts off horribly, meanders into excruciating boredom, before turning out to be a surprisingly decent book. It’s the story of a very successful business man who was slowly destroying his life through drinking and bulimia. One day in therapy, the stereotypical angry alter comes out, shocking the therapist and leading us into the MPD diagnosis. Anonymous

Mental illness is highly misunderstood and difficult to admit. While it is as debilitating as any serious physical illness, embarrassment and denial make it a closet epidemic. While no one has a problem admitting that he has a broken leg, admitting that part of one’s brain or emotional abilities is broken is much harder. The uncomfortable silence that surrounds diseases of the mind leave those who suffer (and those who suffer with them) with few resources A Fractured Mind The Pain of Mental Illness By Anonymous

Multiple personality disorders (MPD) have come in for a lot of bad press over the years. Some in the medical community don't believe they exist at all, many believe they are over-diagnosed, and some baulk at the suggestion that they are caused by the need to suppress memories of significant childhood trauma, - Book Browse

Although medical and mental experts do not want me to claim this, I claim that all mental disorders, all personality disorders and most addictive disorders stem from the same fracture. It is a common cause early in childhood and may be mild or something a harsh as incest, we just never really know. Like cutting, choking and other self - mutilation events, eating disorders, addictive disorders and sexual disorders are all a part of CONTROL. The person is question feel or sense a lose of control and thus try any means possible to regain that control only to their own demise. ]]> Mental Health GotItFirstTime http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/188817-fractured-1000-words.html Accepting I may just have issues. http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/188663-accepting-i-may-just-have-issues.html Mon, 16 Nov 2009 15:16:21 GMT I was diagnosed with bi polar disorder 2 a couple years ago, as well as depression. I thought they were full of it. Because to me it seems like everyone is being diagnosed with both now a days. ... I was diagnosed with bi polar disorder 2 a couple years ago, as well as depression. I thought they were full of it.
Because to me it seems like everyone is being diagnosed with both now a days.
And maybe I dont want to admit I have issues.
Who wants to be labeled as having mental disorders? Its bad enough I am a drug addict.
I am pretty sure the mental things came as a result of the drug use than being the other way around. I have been doing drugs since I was 12. I dont remember feeling like this before that time.
The up and down moods and sadness I get at times. I started noticing that when my drug use became an uncontrollable addiciton.
I go to treatment denying all of that. Theres nothign like that wrong with me. Your juts seeing me coming off the drugs. It is amplified after using. But I do have the same symptoms long after I have not used. Just not as extreme.

Maybe I need to just stop trying to pretend there isnt anything wrong and just get the help I need. It may help with the drug use too.

Has any of you had a hard time coming to terms with these things? Denying it or even believing you didnt have mental problems?
I have no problems admitting I am an addict. That I know. But I dont know if I dont want to believe I have depression and bi polar or I dont see it or maybe I dont. Maybe I need to stop thinking I know it all. That I do know. ]]> Mental Health Aysha http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/188663-accepting-i-may-just-have-issues.html blind sided by feelings http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/188467-blind-sided-feelings.html Fri, 13 Nov 2009 11:28:59 GMT battling mood and Ana is just plain hard work some days and I don't feel up to the challenge today...Ick!! ]]> Mental Health mxchaos http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/188467-blind-sided-feelings.html Just been diagnosed http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/188420-just-been-diagnosed.html Thu, 12 Nov 2009 19:58:35 GMT Hi, so I went to see my CPN today and have been diagnosed, as well as having possible bipolar disorder and depression and anxiety I have now been diagnosed Borderline Personality disorder and... Hi,

so I went to see my CPN today and have been diagnosed, as well as having possible bipolar disorder and depression and anxiety I have now been diagnosed Borderline Personality disorder and emotional intensity disorder (or are they the same thing?)

anyways I don't know how I feel...I suppose it's good that i've got a diagnosis but I just don't care anymore...my community Psychiatric nurse (CPN) wants me to see a psychologist and wants to review and change my meds so maybe this will be the start of something new??? It's hard to be optimistic about my mental health sometimes and I suppose this is one of those times lol

anyways hope all you people out there are holding strong and are all right!!

much love and hugs to all of you xxx:ring ]]> Mental Health RockyGirl http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/188420-just-been-diagnosed.html coping mechanisms for depression without medication. http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/188401-coping-mechanisms-depression-without-medication.html Thu, 12 Nov 2009 15:22:14 GMT Hi.......my names shaun. diagnosed with clinical depression since 17......now 42. Im told it may have a s.a.d........element to it. mild mostly with occasional deep lows becoming manic at times.... Hi.......my names shaun.

diagnosed with clinical depression since 17......now 42.
Im told it may have a s.a.d........element to it.
mild mostly with occasional deep lows becoming manic at times.

My drug regime over the years has been varied.....activan...prozac...many others....with little to no effect.......or complete flat on my back effect.

Complicated with active alcoholism the drugs probably didnt do the job they were intended for.
i havent drank or taken medication for nine years.......and have developed some coping mechanisms......that have helped hugely.
cultivating my faith.........forcing myself out of bed and into the countryside.
walking....and other excercise.

i wondered if any others had found coping mechanisms and tried to deal with this illness without medication......and what were the benifits.
is there something you do to reach the other side?

lastly i am not suggesting that any reader go without prescribed medication.
Nor am i judging anyone that takes medication.
thanks ]]> Mental Health trucker http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/188401-coping-mechanisms-depression-without-medication.html question about personal growth http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/188339-question-about-personal-growth.html Wed, 11 Nov 2009 16:45:16 GMT Hi, I talked with my therapist today about my drinking and how I used it to control or numb out emotions like pain, anger, despair, frustration, resentments, confusion, lonliness etc. I added it... Hi,

I talked with my therapist today about my drinking and how I used it to control or numb out emotions like pain, anger, despair, frustration, resentments, confusion, lonliness etc. I added it is the anger that I really am scared about and used the booze to keep it in check. He told me that it is valuable for me to keep sober and allow these emotions to surface and be expressed or processed since this will lead to my personal and emotional growth. I "think" I understood what he means, but I am really not sure. I always associated the aforementioned emotions with negative personal charateristics, so I am not sure how they can help one grow?

Pat ]]> Mental Health Patk http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/188339-question-about-personal-growth.html i want to hurt myself http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/188147-i-want-hurt-myself.html Sun, 08 Nov 2009 21:16:07 GMT first of all if the mods think this post is innapropriate then they should remove it - if so i appologize in advance for posting unappropriate material on SR.

my dad's making me so unhappy at the moment (see other threads, if your interested) that i just want to hurt myself :a043:
i was shaving last night and i ssooo wanted to cut myself or soemthing. but i resisted.
i've never cut before. years ago i've burnt (cigarettes) and stuff, but never cut. i ssooo want to see some blood though. i don't know if it will make me feel any better though.:wtf2 ]]> Mental Health aldo1980 http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/188147-i-want-hurt-myself.html i hate myself . . . again. http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/187891-i-hate-myself-again.html Thu, 05 Nov 2009 15:18:34 GMT i make the same interpersonal mistakes over and over.
and suffer the same emotional pain.

waiting for tomorrow to work with EAP counselor. this time, i don't care what happens . . . i'm sticking with whoever we can find who takes my insurance.

i am done.:scorebad::headbange: :c020: ]]> Mental Health skid650 http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/187891-i-hate-myself-again.html Dra http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/187865-dra.html Thu, 05 Nov 2009 02:24:53 GMT Soon I be off to my DRA (http://draonline.org/) meeting. By far this program is best fit for me when it comes to 12-step type meetings. I do need a place where I can share openly without fear of... Soon I be off to my DRA meeting. By far this program is best fit for me when it comes to 12-step type meetings. I do need a place where I can share openly without fear of criticism about my mood stabilizing medication and secular beliefs. DRA understands about why some people in DRA need to work a program that is free of spiritual principles (DRA: The Spiritual Dimension and What if I don't believe in God?)...like myself. I feel very conformable and secure working a secular individual program within the fellowship of Dual Recovery Anonymous.

So I'm thinking I'll buy the work book and work my DRA program on this thread. Join me if you wish no matter what duel addiction treatment program you work. All are welcome. ]]> Mental Health Zencat http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/187865-dra.html Stress eating http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/187793-stress-eating.html Wed, 04 Nov 2009 06:17:42 GMT I've just been through something awful. I am eating tons and spending my money on alot of food. It's stress eating. I want to stop but I'm so nervous all the time right now. I am alone all day and my neighborhood is dangerous. Only yesterday I dared to walk to the market and some kids were yelling at each other across the street and then one of them shot a gun. Just another day I suppose. ]]> Mental Health deerwalk http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/187793-stress-eating.html anyone taking Trazodone? http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/187675-anyone-taking-trazodone.html Mon, 02 Nov 2009 17:11:56 GMT Greetings all so as in my other post. i started taking Trazodone. I stopped taking St Johns Wort. But i am developing a problem now and want to ask others that were or are on Trazodone. Dont... Greetings all

so as in my other post. i started taking Trazodone. I stopped taking
St Johns Wort.

But i am developing a problem now and want to ask others that were or are on Trazodone. Dont really have any of the bad side FX so far. I have had some of the best sleeps in the last few days ..been years since i slept that good.

BUT .. i am now experiencing this annoying ringing in my ears...just want to know if this is a temporary side effect and will go away as i become accustomed to Traz... anyone else on an ssri that got ear ringing that went away over time? i think i could put up with it if i knew it was temporary other wise i am going to stop taking Traz before i get too far into it and have to go thru discontinuation syndrome. ]]> Mental Health GassyJack http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/187675-anyone-taking-trazodone.html personality disorder http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/187597-personality-disorder.html Sun, 01 Nov 2009 19:03:21 GMT i was wondering if anyone here may know of anyone, or may have "borderline personality disorder" ?
what your symptoms are,
and what kind of meds are there, or are you taking??? ]]> Mental Health crzylilmndfreak http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/187597-personality-disorder.html Therapy http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/187485-therapy.html Sat, 31 Oct 2009 04:25:52 GMT Just looking for experiences.

Does therapy work?

I feel a little mixed up about it sometimes. I think I am making progress...and I honestly believe I'd be dead if I hadn't reached out earlier this year.

I'm one of those people who needs help with recognizing distorted thinking and learning to love myself (trying...oh I'm trying so hard) .

Much of my therapy focuses on the present and how what I do now can help me to reach my goals. That may sound a bit like life coaching, but it goes a little deeper than that.

Anyone find that therapy doesn't work? What was wrong? What could be improved upon?

Just thinking...therapy is almost like having an expensive friend who devotes full attention for almost an hour at a time. I don't have any friends around here right now :), so having someone to sound off to who has to listen to me is nice. I wish I could get this for free.

It's really hard for me to build trust in someone and I don't make friends so easily. I thought about why this is the case and while I acknowledge that I'm not very outgoing, I am picky about with whom I associate. I only form deep attachments to people who are worth it. Right now that list is very small. Excluding family, I have one close friend who lives on the other side of the country.

Obviously my therapist is not my friend, but I do trust her. I think it’s important for me to be able to talk to someone about problems who will not betray that trust.

I wonder if therapy is only a substitute for what I really need. Maybe there is a bit of truth to that, but I do know I still need help, friends or no friends. :)

Some close face to face friends would be nice. ]]> Mental Health Bamboozle http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/187485-therapy.html The Impossible Dream http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/187471-impossible-dream.html Sat, 31 Oct 2009 00:54:18 GMT

Let's remember to have hope.
To continue to reach for that unreachable star!

Here's Peter O'Toole and Sophia Loren in
The Man of La Mancha
performing:

The Impossible Dream!

YouTube - The Impossible Dream-Man of La Mancha

Our dreams are not impossible,
as long as we continue to strive for them.
For, it is not the attainment of the dream, but,
the constant pursuit of it that matters.
That struggle to achieve the dream is what gives us life.
That pursuit is what keeps our hope alive. :amen

Shalom! ]]> Mental Health historyteach http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/187471-impossible-dream.html Enjoy the Ride http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/187386-enjoy-ride.html Thu, 29 Oct 2009 21:38:40 GMT This is a beautiful, short video presentation about life with an important message. Be sure to have your speakers turned on. enjoytheride (http://lshs64.com/enjoytheride.html) Enjoy it, but, more... This is a beautiful, short video presentation about life with an important message. Be sure to have your speakers turned on.
enjoytheride
Enjoy it, but, more importantly,
Enjoy the Ride! :c031:

Shalom! ]]> Mental Health historyteach http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/mental-health/187386-enjoy-ride.html