http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/ Online Support Groups for Addicts, Alcoholics and their Family, Friends and Loved Ones. Fri, 20 Nov 2009 21:51:17 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/images/misc/rss.jpg http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/ http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/secular-connections/188976-ot-movie-question.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 21:18:17 GMT Okay...this is really stupid.

I'm trying to figure out from what movie a scene was in.


I don't remember much, except that I'm sure it was an 80's fantasy/adventure flick.

A group of individuals in an area that looks maybe like a prairie come upon a glass wall. I can't remember if the glass was reflective...I think it was. The group had to use something (maybe a rock? IDK) to smash the glass to proceed...and what was behind the glass was a much darker place.

Gah! ]]> Secular Connections Bamboozle http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/secular-connections/188976-ot-movie-question.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-daily-support-threads/188975-living-sobriety-part-25-a.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:56:46 GMT Old Part here :) http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-daily-support-threads/188177-living-sobriety-part-24-a-24.html D Old Part here :)

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...t-24-a-24.html

D ]]> Dee74 http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-daily-support-threads/188975-living-sobriety-part-25-a.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/friends-family-alcoholics/188974-off-topic-religious-laws.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:24:28 GMT Can I keep asking you unrelated questions for the rest of my life? LOL

Bf's grandmom is Catholic.

Bf tells me we may visit her. But that would mean going to mass and he would be teaching me prayers, as grandmom can't go out of her home and some little services are held at her home.

To attend mass one time is one thing, I am respectful, but to go there on Sundays and spend my morning and afternoon doing stuff to please someone else? My bf is not even Catholic but as she is from a very small town, he does those things to make her happy.

I am not sure where is the line between "fitting in" and being a codie again trying to please everybody. I don't want to be a chamaleon again.

My only "solutions" so far are

/ never meeting her grandmom
/ going, but briefly, for lunch or something and avoid the times I know they do religious activities.

Comments welcome........... ]]> Friends and Family of Alcoholics TakingCharge999 http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/friends-family-alcoholics/188974-off-topic-religious-laws.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/book-club/188972-jane-velez-mitchell-bio.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:58:33 GMT Has anyone read her bio. She's the one on cable, kinda like Nancy Grace. She's an attorney who reports all the bizarre criminal cases. She always talks about how she is in recovery and she has a new book out called "I Want".

Anyone read it. I think she's on CNN or whatever channel Nancy Grace is onl
She's better than Nancy Grace, because she doesn't act mean. I can tell she is in the program. ]]> The Book Club LegalLady http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/book-club/188972-jane-velez-mitchell-bio.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/women-recovery/188971-i-really-am-angry.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:25:32 GMT I posted this in the women's forum cuz I know there are lots of us here who are mothers. When I was in active addiction, I sent my eldest kid to live with his dad (he honestly, would have been better with his crackhead mother, cuz his dad's gf and his dad were both strung out on shyt too- and my son actually broke his dad's jaw when they got in a fight). And I let my second ex dictate how my time with our son went, because I thought I knew it was better for my kids and honestly, Mommy was choosing crack over her babies anyway.
So long story short. Almost 10 months clean. Court order says we SHARE parenting. I don't really want to drag my 13 year old son through court, but at the same time I do. I am not getting the time I want. Every weekend, it's the same f u c king shyt. "we've got plans". You name it. Anything this f u cker can make up, he does. I try on Mondays, to ask about the coming weekend. Too early to tell. Tuesdays. Too early to tell. Wednesdays. Let me get back with you. Thursdays and Fridays is "we've already made plans."
I am just f u c king tired of this bullshyt and I am going to cuss and rant and rave because there is nothing I can do about it except that and cry.
I am clean now. My SON WANTS TO BE WITH ME. He's said so. He said he wanted to spend THIS F U C KING WEEKEND WITH ME because I am going to Florida with my boyfriend next week and weekend. I am sick of this. I am just f u c king sick of this. Tired of the bullshyt lies. This weekend it's "He's going to Columbus with me to fix Aunt So and So's f u c king computer". Like a man with FOUR F U C KING COMPUTER DEGREES NEEDS HIS SON TO FIX THE COMPUTER. Do I look like I was born yesterday.. F U C K this shyt..
OMG I am so mad right now I want to scream. All I can do is sit here and cry. It's completely ruined my weekend. And I just wish I could do something about it.
This same dad was iffy before I started smoking crack. I had to fight to get school schedules, grades.. Always had to be right on top of him like stink on shyt. Class functions. He'd try to not tell me about parent/teacher conferences.
Ladies, if you're redneck/hillbilly/"low class" like me, never EVER EVER EVER marry a rich, spoiled, snobby, co ck sucker, single child who will NEVER be a man. Who gloats and does the "I told you so dance" when you do mess up like he's perfect and never done anything wrong. The freak. THE FREAK!!!!!!!!!
Neither one of my baby daddies were worth two cents. What was I thinking??
Sorry.. I am just so upset. I have no idea what to do, and I was already online when I talked to my youngest's dad.. So I came here. Sorry if I offended anyone or anything.. ]]> Women In Recovery CrackQuack http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/women-recovery/188971-i-really-am-angry.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188970-4th-step.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:14:57 GMT I did the fourth step....i think.....now, when i am done w/ it, i have to tell all this information to someone?
I don't get it.+ ]]> Newcomers to Recovery fenster67 http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188970-4th-step.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188969-weekend.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:06:29 GMT So another weekend is here. As a few of you may remember I have struggled the last couple of weekends but this has enabled me to get more strength and just get things more straight in my head (quite... So another weekend is here. As a few of you may remember I have struggled the last couple of weekends but this has enabled me to get more strength and just get things more straight in my head (quite a difficult thing!lol)

Seeing the struggle through and sharing about it, both on SR and at AA meetings, has enabled me to greater understand. I am pretty sure that I will be much better this weekend as I am totally resolute and gratefull that drinking ain't an option for this alcoholic. I feel proud that I am sober for 4.5 months and am totally aware that drinking would have done absolutely nothing for my life but to make it even more f*cked up than what it had become.

I am still really living one day at a time and not being able to really comprehend striking up any "outside" relationships. Though i may appear quite confident and for some moments I have much confident, I am still quite insecure and shy in my own skin and these uncomfortable feelings I have to deal with as part of my recovery. I used to use my binges to escape these feelings of uncomfort but when the binge was over they would be worse and I would be living for my next escape again.

I think I am slowly getting there one day at a time and I hope that as long as I remain sober then gradually my life will take shape and my confidence/self-love will gradually start to increase.

I am off to my Friday night AA meeting now as i find Friday night and Saturday nights particularly difficult and I can start projecting my thoughts badly about what others are doing and what I'm not doing.

Thanks for letting me share....

peace xxx ]]> Newcomers to Recovery NEOMARXIST http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188969-weekend.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188968-wishing-everyone-fun-thansgiving.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:05:42 GMT Still struggling, but I have been going to meetings, and reading, and praying. I drank a week ago and really started hard back to get motivated. Don't mess up a good day by drinking, don't make a bad day worse, by drinking. Google and study tips on handling cravings. Have a good holiday! :day6 ]]> Newcomers to Recovery Mcribb http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188968-wishing-everyone-fun-thansgiving.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188967-dreams.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 18:56:57 GMT Hello,

Today I have two weeks without alcohol under my belt (thanks my HP). Last night I had a weird dream (rather two). I can't remember the sequence in which I had the dreams but here they are...

1. I am in the family room with wife and kids and somehow I sensed that there is someone in the garage drying to get in the house. So I close the door between garage and hallway and lock it. All I hear is someone pushing the door and trying to open the lock but no sound. I am asking my wife to call 911 and she asked my son to call but no one is doing anything.

2. I am in my car in driving seat and I have one large brown bag that has lots of quarts of unopened alcohol bottles. I can see the brands that I drank in recent past in that bag. There is someone (can't remember who) in the passenger seat - he is asking what you doing with these. I said I am going to public trash site and throw them; I don't want to throw them in my home trash bin. At the same time - I feel that I am also seating in the back seat of my car and another me is having this conversation. I can see back of my head (me who is in the driver seat) and the brown bag. So in summary - there are two versions of me. One in the driver seat with the bag, another in the back seat listening quietly.

Also, garage is the place where I used to store my stash and I used to sneak to garage to gulp down some quick onces.

I woke up after the dream with a dry throat and got a glass of water and looked at the watch - it as 5.30am. Time to wakeup and go to gym.

Thanks for listening. I will really appreciate any feedback.

Jay ]]> Newcomers to Recovery jedipaulia http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188967-dreams.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/alcoholism/188966-90-days.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 18:40:04 GMT Big milestone for me... 90 days as of yesterday. I have been through just about every drinking challenge there could be, including a week in Key West, cruise ship work, and gigs and parties where... Big milestone for me... 90 days as of yesterday. I have been through just about every drinking challenge there could be, including a week in Key West, cruise ship work, and gigs and parties where alcohol is readily available. Most of the time it's not an issue... and if I have a craving I do find that it's gone within 5 minutes. My life is SO much less complicated without drinking...

Thanks for all the support here... SR is one of my sanity lifelines and just reading others' posts has been a big help and re-enforcement for me.

S ]]> Alcoholism sunrise1 http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/alcoholism/188966-90-days.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/friends-family-substance-abusers/188965-help.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 18:21:10 GMT I love this guy whom I met 2mths ago. We have great chemistry. He was on alcohol and cocaine but now has been clean for 1 year plus. He attends AA meetings regularly. Ok the thing is he also has... I love this guy whom I met 2mths ago. We have great chemistry. He was on alcohol and cocaine but now has been clean for 1 year plus. He attends AA meetings regularly.
Ok the thing is he also has other issues. One of them is his bad reputation with girls. He's been sued before for sexual harassment and slept with quite a handful in his wild party days. But I don't mind all these and also the fact that he was a recent divorcee.

2 weeks ago, he said he wanted me to stay away from him after a flirting incident. I saw him responding to the flirting from another gal at a club. He even brought that girl to his house at her requests and totally ignored my feelings and presence. Being a little drunk and very upset, I yelled at him and couldn't remember much details later. The next morning, he said that I was a bad influence on him and he almost wanted to touch alcohol the night before. I asked for another chance. He seemed resolute not to. But 2 days later, he called and we were back together again, meeting almost everyday like before.

However, now our relationship is casual according to him but it's not, since we make love often and see each other almost every day. He said he cannot commit and will not since he's not stable. Yet he behaves intimately with me.

I am torn. Does he love me at all? Is he worth hanging around with? I feel like I am at his mercy. Please advise:( ]]> Friends and Family of Substance Abusers yuki http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/friends-family-substance-abusers/188965-help.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/christians-recovery/188963-favorite-church-sign-sayings.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:57:36 GMT Please feel feel to add yours! :) Takers eat well Givers sleep well Please feel feel to add yours! :)


Takers eat well
Givers sleep well ]]> Christians In Recovery rayofsunshine http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/christians-recovery/188963-favorite-church-sign-sayings.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/friends-family-alcoholics/188962-anybody-living-active-loving-detachment.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:54:49 GMT Hi all,

just wondering if there are people out there that are currently living with an active a spouse and are making it work through loving detachment???

I know that AH's treatment isn't working because he is doing it for me - not him. I have also noticed that if I get all stressed out/ cold towards him it is very unhealthy for me and I believe it also bad for him - as he grabs to the bottle if there is emotional pain (I know it's not my responsibility to make him feel good, but I think it's part of our cycle - he drinks, I get cold toward him, he feels rejected and acts out, I get stressed out, etc.). So I am faced with either physically seperating or figuring out how to live with him, while detaching with love.

So to those of you practicing loving detachment (and living with active a), what are some practical tips you can give? I.e. regarding cleaning, financial issues, intimacy...? ]]> Friends and Family of Alcoholics Lotus2009 http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/friends-family-alcoholics/188962-anybody-living-active-loving-detachment.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/adult-children-addicted-alcoholic-parents/188961-new.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:54:49 GMT I am new to this and recently have been made aware through the beginning of long overdue therapy that I indeed am a text book codependent my life spun out of control because of it and now through... I am new to this and recently have been made aware through the beginning of long overdue therapy that I indeed am a text book codependent my life spun out of control because of it and now through much pain and destruction in my life from others and that I have recently caused I am here. Shut up in a room unsure of myself and trying to find away to live each day with a different mind set. I am glad to have found this site. ]]> Adult Children of Addicted/Alcoholic Parents lightinmypath http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/adult-children-addicted-alcoholic-parents/188961-new.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/alcoholism/188960-health-efforts.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:31:02 GMT Just curious.. once all drinking is done.. what steps are you alll taking to get your health back? What lifestyle changes have you made?
I know it'll take some time for me to get healthy again after 10 years worth of drinking.

I just want to make sure I'm going about it the right way. Just opinions.. I don't expect any medical advice.

Thanks!~ ]]> Alcoholism Krismutt1 http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/alcoholism/188960-health-efforts.html