Confused about ideal weight

[daydream]

I am so confused about what I should weigh! For years I have been struggling for answers and I'm no closer. There are so many height/weight charts out there and they're all different. Then to top it off, when I'm within the normal limits of those charts, people say I'm underweight. Friends try to "intervene" or back away completely. One girl even said she thought I must be on crack because I was so skinny. I do have an eating disorder and what I see in the mirror is much larger than other people claim to see. I can't rely on myself OR the damn medical charts. But how can it be that I'm underweight when medical charts say I'm not? Tonight I saw my shrink and I noticed he wrote down my ideal weight which is what I weighed a year ago when friends and family were freaking out on me. Please don't post weight charts for me, I don't want to trigger anyone or get myself even more irritated about the issue. Not sure what I want besides a chance to vent. This is my first post on the ED board.

[Pony]

Welcome Daydream....no medical charts here...lol

Well, perspective is very hard and very different for everyone. hard to say without saying that consulting a DR. on this is really the only safe way. Maybe what you should do is figure out when you were happy and comfortable at any given time and weight. If that is possible. I know that we can be the hardest on ourselves and never learn to be happy with what we see in that mirror. It's the opinion of others that usually starts us down that unhappy with ourselves road.

Staying on a regular healthy eating patteren and a exercise routine....everything in moderation.......your body could just adjust to where it is a healthy weight. Take into account that eveyrone has different body types...so what is good for one doesn't neccessarily mean it's good for another.

[best]

Charts say I should weigh 20 lbs less then the weight I felt the best at.
At 10 lbs under the weight I felt good at, I started to feel sick.

Proper exercise, healthy eating, and fat to muscle ratio I think would be more important then what number the scale stops on.
Proper exercise and healthy eating, would tend to bring all other things in line. No scale should be needed

[bikewench]

No scale should be needed

Exactly..
Throw the dang thing away... ;o)


That's what I had to do anyway...
I haven't weighed myself for more than 5 years... and have no idea what I weigh...

but.. I can tell easier now when I'm putting on weight... and when I'm losing too much ... because I'm more in tune with my body... and not some pieces of metal and plastic and some numbers that go round and round



like Best said...
eat healthy... get moderate aerobic exercise ... drink adequate amounts of water... and treat oneself with love and consideration...

[best]

Originally Posted by bikewench

... and treat oneself with love and consideration...

Yes very important. Thank you

[silverbull]

Good day Who cares Knowbody cares about meee

[Pony]

Silverbull, I am sorry that you are having such a rough go of it now, but your reply here has a rude tone to it and not appreciated. We are all here seeking our support and friendship. Please have respect of those posting here as you would like and have received on your thread here.

Thank you.