Update

[Nina Kay]

Hey Everyone,
How's everyone else doing with their recovery from their eating disorders? Sure would like to hear.
Pony, I did the getting a drink thing that you suggested, when I got hungry too late at night & of course, it worked very well. Thanks so much.
I've been going to some of the online OA meetings at The Recovery Group site. And have found them very encouraging. So far, I'm in day 3 of my abstinence from compulsive overeating. But as I've said before, I really can't count this day as a success until it's over because I have the biggest fight with my problem at night.
Well, Thanks for listening. I would love to hear how any of you are doing today.

[Paulie]

I am glad you are better Nina. I am doing pretty good thanks. It is my bday weekend celebration. We have dinner plans the next 2 nights, but tonight and tomorrow at places I know have healthy choices. Sunday is my free day, my birthday celebration day. I won't overdue it but once a year on my bday I eat my favorite dessert (0nly once a year LOL) and that will be this sunday.

I have been doing well during the day, but hit a plateau this week that has me frustrated. I will get past it, I always do.

thanks for checking in.

[Nina Kay]

Hey Paulie,
Glad to hear that you're doing good, except for the plateau you hit. They say eat something different & a little more & it will knock you right off that plateau. I guess it's good timing for you to have the weekend Birthday Celebration & to get to eat your favorite Dessert. I think that you must being doing really well with your recovery program to only eat your favorite dessert only once a year. Happy Birthday !!!! Have lots of fun this weekend. {{{{{HUGS}}}}

[Paulie]

Oh trust me there are other times during the year that I eat things I shouldn't LOL, but I only allow myself Tirimisu one time per year...it has been this way for the past 4 years. All my friends know that is what I do for my birthday. LOL

[Nina Kay]

Paulie, What is Tirimisu? Never heard of it.

[Paulie]

An Italian specialty!! tiramisu cake is made with expresso soaked ladyfingers, surrounded by layers of sweet mascarpone cheese, expresso and liquors. Then it is dusted with cocoa powder and ladyfingers are placed evenly around the sides.

[Nina Kay]

Paulie, I know that I seem to know nothing about Italian desserts, but what are ladyfingers? Duh !!!!

[Paulie]

they are cookies, I don't know if they are Italian or not...but they are good.

[Nina Kay]

Paulie,

Now that I know what everything is & how it's put together, it sounds delicious !!!

Enjoy !!!!!! I learn something new everyday. LOL !!!

[wantneeda]

hey Nina, hey Paulie,, glad to see you's!!
I'm doing pretty good, if i had a scale i';m sure i'd be smilin' down on it..
Just finding the last week or so that i'm eating healthier,,really thinkin' about what i put in my mouth...and not stuffing myself when i do eat...downsized on my prortions,...helps that i've moved and can't stop at the store on the way home...my daughter was eating a burger last night...at midnight...smelling it..started drooling..oh...so i asked her for a bite instead of getting myself one...it worked..i was satisfied with that...i really hate going to bed with a full tummy...not only do i feel like crap the next day but i tend to have bad dreams when i do..
Now if i could just into some kind of excersise....i really hate it..never been one for it anyways..
Happy birthday Paulie!!! that dessert sounds wonderful..droolin' again..lol but liquers wouldn't do for me...
Just finished reading a good link on alcoholism and sugar and caffiene effects...to think of drinking herbal tea...ug. i just so like my coffe and vanilla cream..i did buy the low carb version last so...main thing is i guess i'm workin at it!!! have a great day!!!

[Paulie]

Thanks. I am glad you are doing so well. that is great.

[Nina Kay]

Hey wantneeda,
I'm so glad to hear that you're doing pretty good & eating healthier foods with smaller portions. That's exactly what I've been doing & I've lost 5 lbs. so far. I still have a long way to go, but that's a start. I haven't started the exercise part of my program yet either. I intend to walk everyday for 1 hour. That is what my Dr. told me to do. I'm going to start with 5 minutes for 3 days & then move up 5 min. every 3 days until I can handle an hour. I haven't been well for quite a while so I have to start really slow. I'm hoping to start soon. Maybe you could just walk too, since you're not big on exercise. It was sure good to hear how things are working for you. Please keep coming back & sharing with us. We can all go through this together.

[wantneeda]

And may God bless and keep You!!!
i hope you feel better soon...intentions...i'm soooo good at procrastination!!!!
If i could get away from the computer i might be able to go for a walk......lol
Since i moved i now have to walk about 5 long blocks home from the bus...that is helping,,not to mention i'm on my feet when working,,chasing 5 ladies to the bathroom and out again...i work at a personal care home...though i still think i need more.
when i think of a walk for 5 minutes it seems i think well, whats that gonna do me?? but yes, we gotta start somewhere...from sitting during the day i'm sure my rear is spreading!!!! Squats? leg raises? what the heck are those?.....lol
Thing is how i feel; and i how i think i look is on my mind 24/7 i swear!!! really sick of wanting to be something else...soemtimes i say to myself....just be who and what you are right now, right this minute Wendy, and be ok with it...fact is i'm not...am trying to fool myself...think...maybe i'll never be anything but what i am this very moment...that's not enough for me...rambling, but that's what goes on in my mind...
psychological critic tells me i'll never be all that i can/want to be...same critic that tells me i can't stay in recovery...my mantra...go lay down by your dish!!!!
Workin on my 311th day clean and sober. I'm just tired, every day...somehow i've acquired an internal alarm clock, by the time i get to work at 4 pm i'm a nap waiting to happen...sigh...but being tired of being tired beats being sick and tired of being sick and tired!!!!
One moment, one day ata time. safe and somewhat smilin!!! \\//

[Nina Kay]

Wendy,
Congratulations on being clean & sober for almost a year !!!! That is so wonderful. I hope my son will be able to say that some day. I did start walking today. I walked for 5 clock minutes. And then a few minutes later I found myself in the backyard talking on the phone & ended up walking for an hour or more, very slowly though. I hope that I can keep it up. I Know, One Day At A Time!!!! And I will think of that everytime, because of how bad I feel & how hard it is for me to go for a walk at all. About 4:00 or 4:30 everyday is when my body also says it's naptime. Right now I don't have a job so I can take one if I really need to. Hope to hear from you again soon. {{{{{{Supportive Hugs}}}}}}

[star911960]

Hi all,

I just joined the forum and just started going back to f2f meetings after 15 years. Tonight will be my 2nd meeting. I'm really looking forward to it. I'm on day 3 of being abstinent and it feels very good. I'm still working step 1. I have some readings and questions that I'm working through. I want to progress slowly instead of fooling myself into thinking that I'm progressing quickly. "Slow and steady wins the race..."

Keep on keepin on... (I really like that slogan. It has stuck with me.)

Lori

[Nina Kay]

Lori, I'm so sorry that I didn't reply to your PM, yet. I've not really been with it alot lately, but I've been going to alot of online meetings at TheRecoveryGroup.org
I really like them. I've never done online meetings before this week. They're great !!! I'm so glad that you are going to f2f meetings. They help so much. I've only been to a few about a year ago. I don't live close enough to one to be regular. We are in process of moving to the place that I'll be close to them. I'm really looking forward to it. I am also glad that you are coming here to this forum & I am also looking forward to getting to know you better. We can do this together. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

[Nina Kay]

Wendy,
It sounds like you get plenty of exercise with all of the walking & physical things that you have to do everyday. I walked 30 minutes today. I then slept hard for 3 hrs. I'm just not well completely yet, so I guess I'll be able to work up to an hour everyday gradually. Oh well. Progress; Not Perfection, right?!?!

[wantneeda]

welcome Lori!!! Hope yo stick around, you have found THE best pace for recovery!!!!

Hi Nina, congrats on getting to that walk!!! Just at the end of my night here so i'm pretty tired. I think i'm going to try some changes in WHAT i eat..although i feel that i'm losing and smilin at that i've been thinking alot about carbs and sugar, my sister is supposed to be sending me a letter with a ton of info so as soon as i get it if you're interested i'll share.
Carbs and sugar raise our insulin levels and we end up to be a crash waiting to happen, i think maybe thats why i feel so tired and sluggish, no energy. For where i've been in my life i can't be too hard on myself but i think that its time to really consider what i put into my body.
ya, almost a year, hard to believe myself, SR has definitely been a helping hand
I was also reading in magazine about a walking schedule, let me know if you're interested and maybe we could do it together?

lol a kind of a song by Baz Luhrmann, called wear sunglasses....one of the lines in it is.....DON'T read beauty magazines...they'll only make you feel ugly!!

have a super day and bless You \\//

[Changeling]

Three days! That's 72 hours you've made it, girl! Good work. A nice cup of non-caffeinated tea might be good at night, too. Try starting a "treat me" evening ritual. A cup of tasty tea, scented candle or incense, warm bath, all of it, whatever would make it feel like a treat to you. After getting through another day of abstinence, you deserve it!

[Nina Kay]

Wow Changeling,
That's a really great idea !!!! Thank you for the support. Guess what; I've really blown my abstinence out of the water again today. I just don't know what to think about all of this. But I do love the"treat me" evening ritual idea.
Thanks. {{{Hugs}}}

[allicyn]

Hello everyone,
I would like to comment on Nina's email about cumpulsive overeating. I am one, and have been for about 5 years now. I NEED HELP! I watch my weight daily, overeat/binge and purge depending on my mood, and I am EXTREMELY self concious! I am 5' 6 and 146lbs and feel like a walking amazon woman. At only 21 I wear size 8-10 clothing and feel "out of my size range" in comparison to other thinner, more beautiful girls my age. People tell me I'm crazy for imagining myself as out of shape and too heavy, but I think there is a serious problem...and there is. I need help before this takes over my life because it is currently controlling my every thought and action. Advice? I live in San Diego...yes the land of barbie dolls, and I need to find out if there is a program I can attend for over eating. I really think that if I can conquer my intake, it will lead to a healthier lifestyle. Anyone relate? Hmmm....I am sitting here typing this right now with a stomache filled to the brim with various items and have been contemplating the "p" word for the last hour. I am trying to resist-therefore this email. Uggh. thanks for listening.

[Nina Kay]

Hey Allicyn,
http://www.oa.org/all_about_meetings...&Submit=Search

This is the site that you go to for the meetings in San Diego. Just click on this & it will take you to the list of meetings.

[Nina Kay]

Allicyn,
Ireally hope that you held off & didn't purge before I got back to you. I just now found your post. If you did though, it's okay, just try not to do it again. Do you have a Dr. or counselor that you can go to? If you do know of one please go as quickly as you can because, this can cause great & serious health problems. I knew of another young lady that had your same eating disorders & her Dr. told her to go to OA meetings regularly also. You can go to as many meetings as you have the time to. Go as often as possible at the first & then when you progress in your recovery you can start to pull back. Do You have any OA literature? If you do please start to work the steps using this literature. You could even go to the library & check out a lot of books on your particular eating disorders because knowledge is power. This is serious !!!! You are worth alot, so treat yourself well & take good care of yourself. My daughter is very beautiful & every one wants to look like her. She is 5' 5" & wears the same size clothes as you; size 8. You sound perfect to me. I know that you have to be the one to see yourself that way & believe it, so you are right, you need help. Don't mess around with this please. It is very dangerous & deadly. Please read the BIG BOOK of AA & replace alcohol with food & replace alcoholic with compulsive overeater. Also, it is very important for you to journal your feelings. Write them down just as you feel them. It is very important for you to be very honest with yourself. No one is going to read them unless you choose to show them to a sponsor. Get yourself an OA sponsor as quickly as you can. Please keep posting here. We need you & we will be interested in how you are doing. Keep coming back.

I am sending you {{{{{{SUPPORTIVE HUGS}}}}}}}}}

[allicyn]

Thank you for the link, I clicked on it a few minutes ago and am sure that I will attend as soon as possible. I will post my experience from my first meeting. I did not give in to temptation last night. I just climbed into bed and resisted. Tonight I took over the kitchen and made a large batch of veggie soup and bran muffins. I ate as much as I wanted with no guilt I appreciate what you said about your daughter and the seriousness of my problem. I do realize that I have some serious self image issues and of course over-eating. I need to learn to stop when I am full. Thank you for your reply and I have gotten into the habbit of visiting this website nightly and will continue to do so. Talk to you soon, A.