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Saphie · 10-12-2009, 09:18 AM

Hi to all of you! I've only been a member of SR for 19 days. I'm an alcoholic and the support has been fantastic. I have also put on weight recently, but right now my alcohol recovery is more important. The reason I'm posting on here is that I need advise. Does anybody know if there is a support group for people living with/caring for morbidly obese people. My HB is around 600 lbs now, in heart failure amongst other health problems. I really need to know how to deal with this and the problems that arise with it. I'm scared for him and if I'm honest for me and the way I deal with it. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thank you.

kermit · 10-13-2009, 08:57 PM

I don't know of anything.. Have you tried talking with your Medical provider,,, Dr or insurance company maybe you can get some advice there..maybe they know of support groups in your area and can help you get the help you need.

KOOKS · 10-14-2009, 03:52 AM

Hi Saphie, Welcome to the forum. I don't have the answers for you but I hope someone will come along soon that can help you.

gritgirl · 02-02-2010, 10:21 PM

saphie: i was looking for just this conversation. there is oa-anon but there are very few meetings out there. i've gone to alanon myself to deal with this and am on an email group for oa-anon that has some activity.

my family is filled with food addicts. my sister and nephew are in the process of killing themselves with food and my sister almost died due to this and my nephew almost lost a leg due to his weight. neither went to oa.

i get so hurt, angry and sad watching them kill themselves and yet the only thing i can do is tell them i love them, that i'm scared for them, and that i don't want to lose them.

there's nothing quite as horrible as watching my loved ones kill themselves with an addiction and it is so frustrating.

i am attending AA meetings right now myself, but i also definitely need to get back Alanon. the principles in Alanon apply to living with or loving anyone with an addiction.

i'm so sorry to hear about your HB.

***Nina Kay*** · 02-02-2010, 11:55 PM

Saphie & Gritgirl.

National Eating Disorders Association has got a group that you might want to check out for family and friends of loved ones with eating disorders. You can click on it at the bottom of a Thread that Done With It posted a couple of days ago. And then at the top of that page is a tab for Programs & Events which then drops down a tab and you'll click on Parents, family & friends, I believe. I don't really know if it will be of any help to you or not but I thought it was worth a shot. I can only imagine how terrifying it must be to watch those you love, literally eat themselves to death. I have an eating disorder and I've noticed the progressiveness of it in my own life. I know you must need some advice and some commaraderie while dealing with all that you have to because of loving someone with this addiction. Maybe someone else here will come along with something more viable to offer you.

***Nina Kay*** · 02-03-2010, 12:21 AM

Eating Disorder Awareness Week Coming Soon !! by Done With It, is the thread that you'll need to go to for the Parents, Friends & Family Network.

intention · 02-04-2010, 12:46 PM

Hi Saphie
Has he ever considered Overeaters Anonymous?

10-12-2009, 09:18 AM	#1 (permalink)
Saphie Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: My world Posts: 379	FamilySupport Hi to all of you! I've only been a member of SR for 19 days. I'm an alcoholic and the support has been fantastic. I have also put on weight recently, but right now my alcohol recovery is more important. The reason I'm posting on here is that I need advise. Does anybody know if there is a support group for people living with/caring for morbidly obese people. My HB is around 600 lbs now, in heart failure amongst other health problems. I really need to know how to deal with this and the problems that arise with it. I'm scared for him and if I'm honest for me and the way I deal with it. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thank you.

02-02-2010, 10:21 PM	#4 (permalink)
gritgirl Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Washington, DC Posts: 31	saphie: i was looking for just this conversation. there is oa-anon but there are very few meetings out there. i've gone to alanon myself to deal with this and am on an email group for oa-anon that has some activity. my family is filled with food addicts. my sister and nephew are in the process of killing themselves with food and my sister almost died due to this and my nephew almost lost a leg due to his weight. neither went to oa. i get so hurt, angry and sad watching them kill themselves and yet the only thing i can do is tell them i love them, that i'm scared for them, and that i don't want to lose them. there's nothing quite as horrible as watching my loved ones kill themselves with an addiction and it is so frustrating. i am attending AA meetings right now myself, but i also definitely need to get back Alanon. the principles in Alanon apply to living with or loving anyone with an addiction. i'm so sorry to hear about your HB. __________________ Sober Date June 10, 2009 And it's all one day at a time.

02-02-2010, 11:55 PM	#5 (permalink)
*Nina Kay* Accepting Myself As Is Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Here @ SR. Posts: 2,855	Saphie & Gritgirl. National Eating Disorders Association has got a group that you might want to check out for family and friends of loved ones with eating disorders. You can click on it at the bottom of a Thread that Done With It posted a couple of days ago. And then at the top of that page is a tab for Programs & Events which then drops down a tab and you'll click on Parents, family & friends, I believe. I don't really know if it will be of any help to you or not but I thought it was worth a shot. I can only imagine how terrifying it must be to watch those you love, literally eat themselves to death. I have an eating disorder and I've noticed the progressiveness of it in my own life. I know you must need some advice and some commaraderie while dealing with all that you have to because of loving someone with this addiction. Maybe someone else here will come along with something more viable to offer you. __________________ Acceptance is key to my Serenity. Nina Kay

02-03-2010, 12:21 AM	#6 (permalink)
*Nina Kay* Accepting Myself As Is Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Here @ SR. Posts: 2,855	Eating Disorder Awareness Week Coming Soon !! by Done With It, is the thread that you'll need to go to for the Parents, Friends & Family Network. __________________ Acceptance is key to my Serenity. Nina Kay

02-04-2010, 12:46 PM	#7 (permalink)
intention Don't resist, allow Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: South East of England Posts: 1,522	Hi Saphie Has he ever considered Overeaters Anonymous? __________________ "Know that at any moment in your life, you have the choice. You can either be a host to God, or a hostage to your ego. It's your call. Stay inspired [in spirit]" Wayne Dyer All quotes from first edition of Alcoholics Anonymous

10-13-2009, 08:57 PM	#2 (permalink)
kermit When Pigs Fly Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: california Posts: 894	I don't know of anything.. Have you tried talking with your Medical provider,,, Dr or insurance company maybe you can get some advice there..maybe they know of support groups in your area and can help you get the help you need.

10-14-2009, 03:52 AM	#3 (permalink)
KOOKS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: scotland uk Posts: 290	Hi Saphie, Welcome to the forum. I don't have the answers for you but I hope someone will come along soon that can help you.

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