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choose2bsober08 · 06-05-2008, 11:01 PM

Hi there! I am fairly new to the site (less than a month) and this is my first time posting to this group. I originally joined as I had a problem with excessive marijuana use and am now 20 days sober. I am, however, overweight and have been for most of my life. I want so much to stop my obsession with food, but it is so difficult and it truly is an old friend of mine. Can anyone offer any advice about how to start loving myself and stop killing myself with food. Everytime I tell myself I am going to stop eating (especailly sweets are my downfall and i LOVE them), I find myself back at the store buying something. I don't know what to do. I know I can't and I know I shouldn't, but I just keep doing the same thing over and over day in and day out! I have 2 boys (4 and 1) and my 4 year old is starting to know the difference between fat people and skinny people. I am teaching him compassion but I hate myself for being one of the fat people. I hate that I can't "save" him from high places at the playground. I hate that I can't always keep up with him, and he will only get fast. Please, can anyone help me? I appreciate any advice. Thanks in advance!
Holly

cali · 06-06-2008, 02:35 AM

Holly-
I just wanted to welcome you! I am in AA for my alcoholism and for a time it helped me with my compulsive eating issues but I soon realized that I should try OA so I did, and I really enjoyed it--especially being with other people that understood, and that spoke openly about what happened to them and how they are getting better now. I don't go anymore only becasue it is a scheduling issue for me--there is only one OA meeting a week near me.
I have found that joining the "100 day OS" thread here has helped me a lot. It's checking in daily and learning a lot about myself and others. It's sort of like a meeting in and of itself. It would be a start-so come on over and join us!

dave47 · 06-06-2008, 09:51 AM

Welcome to SR Holly, with the sweet items I found after a couple of weeks the cravings went, and largely they have never come back. Saying that though, you still have to tough it out.
When your 4 year old is at school maybe take the little one out in the buggy for some long walks. I run a bit and cycle now but I walk a lot too, and thats how I started my exercising.

choose2bsober08 · 06-06-2008, 11:08 AM

Thank you so much Cali and Dave! I appreciate your welcoming and your advice and support! I know I will be on this site much more as I am ready to make a change!

06-05-2008, 11:01 PM	#1 (permalink)
choose2bsober08 Never give up! Join Date: May 2008 Location: Pleasanton, CA Posts: 17	New to this Hi there! I am fairly new to the site (less than a month) and this is my first time posting to this group. I originally joined as I had a problem with excessive marijuana use and am now 20 days sober. I am, however, overweight and have been for most of my life. I want so much to stop my obsession with food, but it is so difficult and it truly is an old friend of mine. Can anyone offer any advice about how to start loving myself and stop killing myself with food. Everytime I tell myself I am going to stop eating (especailly sweets are my downfall and i LOVE them), I find myself back at the store buying something. I don't know what to do. I know I can't and I know I shouldn't, but I just keep doing the same thing over and over day in and day out! I have 2 boys (4 and 1) and my 4 year old is starting to know the difference between fat people and skinny people. I am teaching him compassion but I hate myself for being one of the fat people. I hate that I can't "save" him from high places at the playground. I hate that I can't always keep up with him, and he will only get fast. Please, can anyone help me? I appreciate any advice. Thanks in advance! Holly

06-06-2008, 02:35 AM	#2 (permalink)
cali came-came to-came to believe Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: right here Posts: 762	Holly- I just wanted to welcome you! I am in AA for my alcoholism and for a time it helped me with my compulsive eating issues but I soon realized that I should try OA so I did, and I really enjoyed it--especially being with other people that understood, and that spoke openly about what happened to them and how they are getting better now. I don't go anymore only becasue it is a scheduling issue for me--there is only one OA meeting a week near me. I have found that joining the "100 day OS" thread here has helped me a lot. It's checking in daily and learning a lot about myself and others. It's sort of like a meeting in and of itself. It would be a start-so come on over and join us!
	__________________ I'll let go of what I was, accept myself for what I am- and become who I was meant to be! 2-15-08

06-06-2008, 09:51 AM	#3 (permalink)
dave47 Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: England Posts: 1,386	Welcome to SR Holly, with the sweet items I found after a couple of weeks the cravings went, and largely they have never come back. Saying that though, you still have to tough it out. When your 4 year old is at school maybe take the little one out in the buggy for some long walks. I run a bit and cycle now but I walk a lot too, and thats how I started my exercising.
	__________________ Into each life some rain must fall,some days be dark and dreary. The Difficult is that which can be done immediately;the Impossible that which takes a little longer.

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06-06-2008, 11:08 AM	#4 (permalink)
choose2bsober08 Never give up! Join Date: May 2008 Location: Pleasanton, CA Posts: 17	Thank you so much Cali and Dave! I appreciate your welcoming and your advice and support! I know I will be on this site much more as I am ready to make a change!

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