#6 100 Day Goal - Abstainance from Obvious Sweets - Want to Join? Please Do!

[Nina Kay]

Dave, please remove my name again, as I bombed out a few days ago. I really can't ever trust myself. I don't know, just put me on hiatus for now if you don't mind. Everyone else is doing so well and I'm so impressed with Cali's success of 100 days !!!! Wow!!! Way to go Cali !!!!

[Nina Kay]

Well, I just finished getting caught up on my reading of this thread. Everything that each of you said was so enlightening. Thanks so much to each of you whom have shared your daily struggles, so that we can all learn from each others ESH and so that we can give and recieve each others support.
(((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))

[cali]

(((Nina))) miss ya here! Whatever the status, please post--we need you!!

Yeah, the "daily" struggles with life...the everyday in and out stuff...
it's everything I drank over and surely ate over....and hands down, "relationships" I don't care what kind they are, or how they are related, are extremely difficult for this addict...
the trials I am going through with one person (family member) in particular can send me to "shut down mode"....self preservation......I tend to not eat at all when it flares up...
That's just not healthy either.....
"Acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today"......
Good Lord it's tough at times....

So-it brings me back to the reality that I can only take care of me-I have no control over how others choose to behave....even though they like to try and "suck me in"...
someone once told me that "you don't have to join every fight you're invited to".

<<deep breath>>
have a good day!

[roxiestone]

"You don't have to join every fight you are invited to."

I think I'm going to embroider a throw pillow with that saying on it. :rof Thanks for posting, Cali.

Nina Kay, please keep hanging with us.

I'm very thankful to report that I successfully completed day 1 yesterday and will work on day 2 today.

I am grateful to all who post and share here - both the triumphs and the trials.

Peace.

[smiling jack]

As you say Roxie, there are triumphs and trials. Dave, please start me over. I chose to eat what had sugar as the first ingredient on the packaging. For me, for now, I will start again today. This is the fallout from not establishing and protecting my boundaries.

From the fall, I will get up and try again. It worked on learning to ride my bicyle, it worked when I lost 3 jobs in 3 years, and I believe it will work on building my recovery.

[dave47]

As of May 28th:

CALI -102
MIKE -17
CONEZ -14
ANANDA -3
ROXIE -1
JACK -working on 1
DAVE

On hiatus:
BARB DWYER
GOLDIE
NINA
ODAAT
PONY
SUGAR MAGNOLIA

Sorry you slipped up Nina and Jack, but know you both will keep battling.
Welcome back Roxie, and best wishes all.

[ananda]

roll me back to one in the morning.....I didn't turn down a cookie

Am starting right back on track...one food choice at a time right?

[cali]

Yes-you've got it girl-, one food choice at a time! DON'T discount all the progress you are making, despite a cookie.
You are pulling yourself up by the boot straps and starting where you stand.
Good job!!

So I guess I am still "grieving"....I really thought it would be over by now, then all of a sudden it flares up. I think it's strange like this because our relationship was strange, and periodic...if that...
There is a big tray of assorted gourmet brownies in my kitchen from a party Wednesday. I can see that not everyone eats like I did (and still could) because that would be SO gone by now if I was on the old rampage....
Just like sobriety, this is the hardest and most rewarding thing I am doing for me, ever!
Enjoy this day all!

[smiling jack]

Tlhis thread continues to provide me with rational support. Your experiences, strenth and hope for a better today help me believe that I can have a better life through recovery.

My older brother died at 42 with an alcohol-rampaged life. He had chances at recovery, but didn't believe he wanted recovery. I do...today. Thanks for the inspiring words, all.

[dave47]

As of May 29th:

CALI -103
MIKE -18
CONEZ -15
ROXIE -2
ANANDA -1
JACK -1
DAVE

On hiatus:
BARB DWYER
GOLDIE
NINA
ODAAT
PONY
SUGAR MAGNOLIA

[dave47]

Finished work at lunchtime and went out on the bike. I deliberately got a bike that would make me work hard, especially on the hills and boy was it hard graft. This is what I want though, a bit of energetic exercise. Nevertheless I am pleased to see that the house is empty so I can get a chance to relax.
I am working tonight and tomorrow morning and even though the kids have been on half term this week, I haven't been able to spend much time with them. Maybe tomorrow as long as they have done their homework.
Thanks to all for the posts which I greatly appreciate, enjoy the rest of the day.

[roxiestone]

I am grateful for the sanity and peace that I am experiencing today. I am grateful for each and every one of you and wish you peace.

I got in some nice exercise yesterday, but work obligations will keep my from it today.

Peace.

[ananda]

So far so good - not even tempted (ok - not much)

You all have a good day...and if you aren't around on the weekends...have a good weekend.:ghug

[dave47]

As of May 30th:

CALI -104
MIKE -19
CONEZ -16
ROXIE -3
ANANDA -2
JACK -2
DAVE

On hiatus:

BARB DWYER
GOLDIE
NINA
ODAAT
PONY
SUGAR MAGNOLIA

Best wishes all.

[smiling jack]

Originally Posted by roxiestone

I am grateful for the sanity and peace that I am experiencing today. I am grateful for each and every one of you and wish you peace.

I got in some nice exercise yesterday, but work obligations will keep my from it today.

Peace.

I couldn't say what I feel any better!. The only difference is I hope to get some nice exercise in today. My thanks to you all.

[ananda]

Hi jack and dave!

going ok so far. I wanted sweets real bad last night before bed...but since there were none in the house I at strawberries and yougart. It was very satisfying.

Today is birthday celebration at the noon meeting. need to go to suport my friends. I told a freind who is going that i am on day 2 and so it helps at this point to have someone there who knows what i'm trying to do....although sometimes in the past this just made me pig out afterwards in secret.

despite being in a pretty wierd space, i feel fairly comfortable about approaching this day without OS:ghug

[smiling jack]

Glad to hear you're OK Ananda. I got my exercise in...and then went to a memorial service for a guy who had 27 sober years in AA from my home group.

After the service, the chicken, casarol (sp?) spread and fruit, and dessert room were all there. I stayed away from the dessert room until after I had second helpings of the first three. I thought maybe there would be some more fruit there. There wasn't.

I stayed away from the OS's. It didn't bother me that others had bunches of the OS's. I was sober and glad of it. I hope I can maintain my OS sobriety for the rest of the day.
Take care all.

[dave47]

Good going Jack, well done with the willpower.
Hi Ananda, thats something I eat regularly and it does the trick.
I see quite a few of your posts and it is great that you keep coming back again and again- good to have you around.
Been out with my boy for a long walk and a bit of lunch. Dinner soon and then maybe out on the bike( or maybe not).

[ananda]

Hey - it wasn't too bad resisting the cupcakes...in fact my friends around me that know of my health issues were so sweet! they made a big deal (jokingly and with love) of passing the cupcakes by me, but not letting me physically touch them to pass them on. It was fun. Of course if i'm in a funk I would of grabed them and beligeranlty eaten one. But today it just sorta lightened things up.

I don't have to avoid the obvious sweets of my friends

Glad you're doing well jack - they use to call my dad smiling jack cause the department had 3 jacks in it.

thanks Dave.

tundling off to try on new clothes!

[cali]

ananda that's so cool about your dad being "smiling Jack"..
a family member of mine had a baby in April. His name is alsomjack and he has been smiling since he came out---he is also referred to as "smiling Jack".....now that's cool!

Dave-I read your words about "will power" to Jack....it reallt struck me (and this is only me and my experience).....
I try not to think that it is my "willpower" that keeps me abstinent...
I learned from another woman who is a recovering bulemic and compulsive over-eater, that what will spare me from relapse with food is working the steps and asking my HP for help.....will power won't keep me sober either. I just had to say that becasue if I start to think it's me, then I won't come here, and slowly I'll move away from the very things that help keep me sober (in more ways than one)..I've done it enough times that it's a real red hot warning light for me.
I was surrounded by junk all day long. I am glad to be home.

[dave47]

I think Cali that we have to accept we have different views on this.
With myself, I think it is mainly down to willpower. I do believe strongly in freewill and I can't accept the idea of handing anything over. But whatever works is cool and I hope it stays that way for all of us.
Going for a run in an hour or so, everyone asleep apart from the cats(3), who have all gone outside to cause mischief.
Best wishes all.

[dave47]

As of May 31st:

CALI -105
MIKE -20
CONEZ -17
ROXIE -4
ANANDA -3
JACK -3
DAVE

On hiatus:

BARB DWYER
GOLDIE
NINA
ODAAT
PONY
SUGAR MAGNOLIA

[cali]

like I said-it was only my experience--and I absolutely accept that we all have different views. Thats the beauty of it all!
I have 3 cats too...one will be 17 years old on July 4th and the sibling caks will be 4 this summer. They are indoor cats so it's a bit of work but they are great companions. I really hope to get out for a good walk today. Have a good everyone!

[ananda]

And I call it walking skillfully through your karma! :rof

trudge trudge trudge

Ok, got my walking shoes on to do this deal one more day. A couple of girls from my coffee group asked me at the noon meeting what they could bring that I could eat instead of sweets.....Fruits and Veggies!!!!!

I am having to deal with a lot of up and down emotions that I am not use to (I'm 10 mos sober), so i keep doing different things that aren't exactly great. The 2/3rds of a pecan pie was not real bright....and yesterday i bought 6 new dresses at dillards instead of picking up the 3 skirts i needed from walmart. I am hoping to loose the 20 lbs i gained so didn't feel i should buy "nice" clothes...but cheaper ones instead to get by on.

I am trying to be aware of these behaviors, but focus on the one i'm currently adding and leave the rest for later. So right now i'm focussing on the OS thing as it effects my health and self in a fairly substantial way (diabetic). then next november i plan to stop smoking....don't think about it too much as i'm not ready yet and don't need to overwelm myself.

So - feeling pretty comfortable about going into this day OS free.

Thanks guys

[Pony]

Sending out hugs to everyone. You all are doing so very well. it is great to read all the ESH that is being shared here. Right now I haven't much to share as I have been struggling too much with my food and life. But reading this thread is an inspiration to "get with it" and get back on track.

thanks all and keep up the good work