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roxiestone · 05-22-2008, 07:01 AM

Good morning all,

Please accept my thanks and gratitude for being so encouraging and supportive. I'm feeling a bit better today and hope each of you are doing well.

Peace.

ananda · 05-22-2008, 07:19 AM

thanks Roxie

Jack - you have really helped me ... I think...I'm headed in the right direction.

Back to lurking.

dave47 · 05-22-2008, 07:34 AM

As of May 21st:

CALI -95
MIKE -10
CONEZ -7
JACK -5
NINA -5
DAVE

On hiatus:

ANANDA
BARB DWYER
GOLDIE
ODAAT
PONY
ROXIE
SUGAR MAGNOLIA

Best wishes all.

ananda · 05-22-2008, 07:39 AM

OK guys - 15 hours and I'm going to build on that one hour at a time!!!!

Is that a plan!

If you don't hear from me at noon.....that's a bad thing. One craving at a time!!!!!:atv

roxiestone · 05-22-2008, 08:55 AM

Post here if it gets tough, ananda. We can be distracting if necessary

ananda · 05-22-2008, 10:41 AM

So far about 4 cravings but making it....then it occured to me that chips aren't sweet......But I'm not going to go there!!!!! I know they are particularly problematic for me so they are still on my OS list even if that doesn't make sense.

ARGGGGH

Fortunately busy enough to get off the craving ...Will check in a little later and thanks Roxie!

Today is full of good potential outcomes

ananda · 05-22-2008, 11:41 AM

In 10 minites I will return to work and I will not stop and get candy on the way. I will take some veggies and some yogart back with me instead....

ananda · 05-22-2008, 01:49 PM

just barely hanging in there.........

work work work....don't think....dont think.....

dave47 · 05-22-2008, 01:54 PM

Ananda, I always make sure I have fruit (apples, bananas, grapes), and low fat yoghurts. Also at work I try to keep some fruit as well. Sometimes I know that I just want to eat something sweet and these do the trick.
You mentioning the chips, I tried to give them up for New Year and fell after a couple of weeks- maybe another time. After I started on the OS thread I noticed that for the first few days I was eating crisps and salted nuts so I knocked them on the head as well. I thought these would become a very dangerous substitute and I try now to cut out or eat as little of possible of those things which I might overeat on.
Occasionally I have sugar free mints but they don't really do much for me.
I know it's easy to say but after a few weeks the cravings will go, then you just have to watch out for complacency or eating something on the spur of the moment.
Glad you are hanging in there and you keep coming back.

roxiestone · 05-22-2008, 02:12 PM

You can do this, ananda. You've done so well so far. Congratulate yourself on all the good decisions you've made so far. You are awesome.

ananda · 05-22-2008, 02:18 PM

thanks roxie - I just realized I have beef jerky on my desk and it's really spicey so i'm going to have a peice - that's got good strong flavor.

I can't believe I ran out of the house w/o the veggies and yogart....self sabatouge or just a mistake cause things are stressful at work?

I'll analize it in my 10th step work later...for now and eat the jerky.

Your really helping cause i was this close to caving in!

Thanks.

ananda · 05-22-2008, 04:51 PM

OK - i'm working on day 2 now.

Thanks all.

smiling jack · 05-23-2008, 04:49 AM

Congrats, Ananda, on day 2! I can get a wonderful feeling when I enjoy abstaining from the OS's. There are times when my stomach actually feels flatter. I love it when I feel that way.

roxiestone · 05-23-2008, 06:31 AM

Ananda, you ROCK!

May we all have a fabulous day. My plan is to get in some aerobic exercise over my lunch break - the elliptical machine mambo. I do know what when I let my committment to physical health slip, my overall well-being and ability to cope takes a dive as well.

Peace.

ananda · 05-23-2008, 07:17 AM

OK so far - working on day 2!!!!!

I think I'll pick up pickled okra and olives to have at work next week....seems to help curb the urge.

Eating my 4 meals/snacks a day would help too. Have to get in the habit of carrying treats to work. I do have some soups and veggies in the cabinet....I'll try those at about 9:30.

Roxie - My arobic excersise right now is just taking the steps instead of the elevator. I do get a kick out of it when I remember that last year I could barely walk 2 feet without colapsing! Hope to work up a sweat gardening this weekend, but I think the weather may stop me.

S. Jack - Yeah - I'de like that nice skinny tummy back too.

cali · 05-23-2008, 07:51 AM

Quote:

ananda:
I know they are particularly problematic for me so they are still on my OS list even if that doesn't make sense.

yeah--that TOTALLY makes sense to me!!! In fact anything that I tend to over indulge in, or feel that "addictive crave" when I eat it, makes it to my list. I just know that if I go "there", to that "thing" that I eat compulsively, it takes me to that place.....

I am working SO hard on sobriety, and getting better. I am having realizations and awakenings that are just "happening".....
My awakening for today is that I could have tons of folks that support me, love me, and accept me unconditionally, but that one person that "snubs" me gets me every time....it's like knife jamming in my heart.......someone talked to me after the meeting this morning confidentially and I came to the realization that OMG that is SO what I have done with my father my whole life....I mean I had SO many people, family members that supported me and loved me-but the only thing that mattered to me is that my dad didn't....

I don't want to miss out on life anymore. I want to appreciate the people that are here for me now, and that love me "now"------not pine over what never was, most importantly will never be..
"Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today"..

roxiestone · 05-23-2008, 08:13 AM

Cali - thank you for posting this. I'm in EXACTLY that place right now - where I allow that one person can just bring me so down. I'd sort of stumbled upon that thought last night and it is helping me put things into perspective with my NPD Mom.

Everything else is going very well in my life and I have a TON of things to be grateful for - and somehow I just seem to forget all of that and wallow around in how ONE person feels about me. Why in the world do I give them so much power?

Thank you so much for posting and bringing this to my mind again today.

smiling jack · 05-23-2008, 09:18 AM

Thank you all for bringing up about that one person....god, mine is the one guy
at the volunteer fire department meeting last night...and I continue to give me too much space in my mind when I could be thinking of being happy, joyful and free today from my addictive behaviors that I am busting my butt trying to do.

Why in the world do I... Why in the world do I... Why in the world do I give that person so much power over me? What do I do? Please help me on this. I feel like I am going insane.

ananda · 05-23-2008, 09:35 AM

I went to a silent meditation once for 10 days. What I learned is that in the abscense of any feedback I assume I'm doing it wrong, Nobody likes me, I screwing things up for everybody else..........

Lots of growth needed in that area.

Just starting to white knuckle it a little....but a little easier than yesterday.

roxiestone · 05-23-2008, 12:31 PM

I'm cheering for you, ananda.

Just got back from the gym. Feel good about that.

Jack, if you get any insights, I'd be grateful to hear them.

cali · 05-23-2008, 12:59 PM

wow....I am comforted, SO comforted to know, once again, that I am not alone..
I can't believe how much you guys get what I am going through...

Quote:

Rox:
Cali - thank you for posting this. I'm in EXACTLY that place right now - where I allow that one person can just bring me so down.

Quote:

Jack:
Why in the world do I give that person so much power over me? What do I do?

you guys helped me so much thank you!!!

Jack--I will ask myself that SAME question next time I am feeling less than with my particular individual...

cali · 05-23-2008, 02:39 PM

I just wanted to add something--
this is the same individual that I have been going through this with for a while. When my father was in the hospital, and I was in New Hampshire, she left me a really nice voice mail on my phone-and we seemed to be over much of "this" whatever it is (or I thought it "was" no longer an issue)--anyway early this week I felt it from her....it starts with her acting like she doesn't see me when I walk in a meeting--I didn't think anything of it warlier in the week...but I tried talking to her as the week progressed and she barely gave me thie time of day...now I KNOW that her acting this was isn't my stuff--but it sure does hurt....but today I have been mulling over the fact that:

a. it is rediculous that she is acting this way, and if she can't come to me as an adult and let me know if I have done anything to offend her, then it's not a true quality friendship and one I am better off without.

and

b. I ask myself why do I care so much? because clearly this person doesn't have what I want as far as recovery is concerned....is it that I so dearly "care" about her or is it that I just don't like rejection, plain and simple.....I think the ladder....

I will pray for her--for peace, health and well being...--
I just want to "get on with my life" and let the unhealthy "stuff" lay where it lies!!thanks again for listening

ananda · 05-23-2008, 03:41 PM

Well - I successfully ate lunch like i'm SUPOSE TO....amazing how that helps keep me from craving the sugar

Have been about ready to hit people over the head all afternoon (not for real) but I think that is just because it is a deadline day and i didn't properly prepare for this in the last 2 weeks. So probably has nothing to do with the lack of sugar

This is kinda exiting...in 20 minites I will have been 48 hours with out OS!

cali · 05-23-2008, 05:11 PM

Well-you guys are already this far into the issue, may as well tell you what happened a few minutes ago...and I need to say this THIS is the stuff I could compulsively eat over, so I guess I gotta get it out!

That person called me a short bit ago.....I wasn't going to pick up the phone but then I thought I need to face this...so we talked, and after I few minutes I said look-I feel like you are upset with me-did I do anything that upset you? She said no, but this is why I am upset............................................. ..............
and then proceeded to tell me why she has been upset.
She also said that a couple of her close friends mentioned that they felt similar things with her and she said she needs to work on that etc.....I thought ok-that's honest....

So there it is......but still part of me feels like I want to "sheild" myself so I don't get hurt again..........

I am just proud of myself for facing it and picking up the phone and being able to tell her the truth.
AND I didn't lose my abstinence over it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ananda · 05-23-2008, 08:34 PM

One of my sponsors use to tell me you can trust others to be true to who they are. I have to try not to expect people who are sick in some way to act like they aren't. Just as they can trust that in my sick areas I will probably behave that way....but then again I do need to allow other people to change and get better (and my self too).

That situation would be hard for me to deal with. Some self protection seems to be important for me, yet I also can want safety at all costs, and that just locks me up in a jail of my own making.

Keep us posted on how this goes....I could certainly learn how to deal with this type thing better.

Thanks.

Yipee - working on day 3!!!!

05-22-2008, 07:34 AM	#28 (permalink)
dave47 Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: England Posts: 1,675	As of May 21st: CALI -95 MIKE -10 CONEZ -7 JACK -5 NINA -5 DAVE On hiatus: ANANDA BARB DWYER GOLDIE ODAAT PONY ROXIE SUGAR MAGNOLIA Best wishes all. __________________ Into each life some rain must fall,some days be dark and dreary. The Difficult is that which can be done immediately;the Impossible that which takes a little longer.

05-22-2008, 01:54 PM	#34 (permalink)
dave47 Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: England Posts: 1,675	Ananda, I always make sure I have fruit (apples, bananas, grapes), and low fat yoghurts. Also at work I try to keep some fruit as well. Sometimes I know that I just want to eat something sweet and these do the trick. You mentioning the chips, I tried to give them up for New Year and fell after a couple of weeks- maybe another time. After I started on the OS thread I noticed that for the first few days I was eating crisps and salted nuts so I knocked them on the head as well. I thought these would become a very dangerous substitute and I try now to cut out or eat as little of possible of those things which I might overeat on. Occasionally I have sugar free mints but they don't really do much for me. I know it's easy to say but after a few weeks the cravings will go, then you just have to watch out for complacency or eating something on the spur of the moment. Glad you are hanging in there and you keep coming back. __________________ Into each life some rain must fall,some days be dark and dreary. The Difficult is that which can be done immediately;the Impossible that which takes a little longer.

05-23-2008, 02:39 PM	#47 (permalink)
cali came-came to-came to believe Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: east coast Posts: 1,005	I just wanted to add something-- this is the same individual that I have been going through this with for a while. When my father was in the hospital, and I was in New Hampshire, she left me a really nice voice mail on my phone-and we seemed to be over much of "this" whatever it is (or I thought it "was" no longer an issue)--anyway early this week I felt it from her....it starts with her acting like she doesn't see me when I walk in a meeting--I didn't think anything of it warlier in the week...but I tried talking to her as the week progressed and she barely gave me thie time of day...now I KNOW that her acting this was isn't my stuff--but it sure does hurt....but today I have been mulling over the fact that: a. it is rediculous that she is acting this way, and if she can't come to me as an adult and let me know if I have done anything to offend her, then it's not a true quality friendship and one I am better off without. and b. I ask myself why do I care so much? because clearly this person doesn't have what I want as far as recovery is concerned....is it that I so dearly "care" about her or is it that I just don't like rejection, plain and simple.....I think the ladder.... I will pray for her--for peace, health and well being...-- I just want to "get on with my life" and let the unhealthy "stuff" lay where it lies!!thanks again for listening __________________ I've let go of what I was, I accept myself for who I am today- I continue to become who I am meant to be!

05-23-2008, 05:11 PM	#49 (permalink)
cali came-came to-came to believe Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: east coast Posts: 1,005	Well-you guys are already this far into the issue, may as well tell you what happened a few minutes ago...and I need to say this THIS is the stuff I could compulsively eat over, so I guess I gotta get it out! That person called me a short bit ago.....I wasn't going to pick up the phone but then I thought I need to face this...so we talked, and after I few minutes I said look-I feel like you are upset with me-did I do anything that upset you? She said no, but this is why I am upset............................................. .............. and then proceeded to tell me why she has been upset. She also said that a couple of her close friends mentioned that they felt similar things with her and she said she needs to work on that etc.....I thought ok-that's honest.... So there it is......but still part of me feels like I want to "sheild" myself so I don't get hurt again.......... I am just proud of myself for facing it and picking up the phone and being able to tell her the truth. AND I didn't lose my abstinence over it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! __________________ I've let go of what I was, I accept myself for who I am today- I continue to become who I am meant to be!

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05-22-2008, 07:01 AM	#26 (permalink)
roxiestone Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 393	Good morning all, Please accept my thanks and gratitude for being so encouraging and supportive. I'm feeling a bit better today and hope each of you are doing well. Peace.

05-22-2008, 07:19 AM	#27 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 10,103	thanks Roxie Jack - you have really helped me ... I think...I'm headed in the right direction. Back to lurking.

05-22-2008, 07:39 AM	#29 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 10,103	OK guys - 15 hours and I'm going to build on that one hour at a time!!!! Is that a plan! If you don't hear from me at noon.....that's a bad thing. One craving at a time!!!!!:atv

05-22-2008, 08:55 AM	#30 (permalink)
roxiestone Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 393	Post here if it gets tough, ananda. We can be distracting if necessary

05-22-2008, 10:41 AM	#31 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 10,103	So far about 4 cravings but making it....then it occured to me that chips aren't sweet......But I'm not going to go there!!!!! I know they are particularly problematic for me so they are still on my OS list even if that doesn't make sense. ARGGGGH Fortunately busy enough to get off the craving ...Will check in a little later and thanks Roxie! Today is full of good potential outcomes

05-22-2008, 11:41 AM	#32 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 10,103	In 10 minites I will return to work and I will not stop and get candy on the way. I will take some veggies and some yogart back with me instead....

05-22-2008, 01:49 PM	#33 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 10,103	just barely hanging in there......... work work work....don't think....dont think.....

05-22-2008, 02:12 PM	#35 (permalink)
roxiestone Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 393	You can do this, ananda. You've done so well so far. Congratulate yourself on all the good decisions you've made so far. You are awesome.

05-22-2008, 02:18 PM	#36 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 10,103	thanks roxie - I just realized I have beef jerky on my desk and it's really spicey so i'm going to have a peice - that's got good strong flavor. I can't believe I ran out of the house w/o the veggies and yogart....self sabatouge or just a mistake cause things are stressful at work? I'll analize it in my 10th step work later...for now and eat the jerky. Your really helping cause i was this close to caving in! Thanks.

05-22-2008, 04:51 PM	#37 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 10,103	OK - i'm working on day 2 now. Thanks all.

05-23-2008, 04:49 AM	#38 (permalink)
smiling jack Rockin 'n' rollin' everyday Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Midwest Posts: 972	Congrats, Ananda, on day 2! I can get a wonderful feeling when I enjoy abstaining from the OS's. There are times when my stomach actually feels flatter. I love it when I feel that way.

05-23-2008, 06:31 AM	#39 (permalink)
roxiestone Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 393	Ananda, you ROCK! May we all have a fabulous day. My plan is to get in some aerobic exercise over my lunch break - the elliptical machine mambo. I do know what when I let my committment to physical health slip, my overall well-being and ability to cope takes a dive as well. Peace.

05-23-2008, 07:17 AM	#40 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 10,103	OK so far - working on day 2!!!!! I think I'll pick up pickled okra and olives to have at work next week....seems to help curb the urge. Eating my 4 meals/snacks a day would help too. Have to get in the habit of carrying treats to work. I do have some soups and veggies in the cabinet....I'll try those at about 9:30. Roxie - My arobic excersise right now is just taking the steps instead of the elevator. I do get a kick out of it when I remember that last year I could barely walk 2 feet without colapsing! Hope to work up a sweat gardening this weekend, but I think the weather may stop me. S. Jack - Yeah - I'de like that nice skinny tummy back too.

05-23-2008, 08:13 AM	#42 (permalink)
roxiestone Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 393	Cali - thank you for posting this. I'm in EXACTLY that place right now - where I allow that one person can just bring me so down. I'd sort of stumbled upon that thought last night and it is helping me put things into perspective with my NPD Mom. Everything else is going very well in my life and I have a TON of things to be grateful for - and somehow I just seem to forget all of that and wallow around in how ONE person feels about me. Why in the world do I give them so much power? Thank you so much for posting and bringing this to my mind again today.

05-23-2008, 09:18 AM	#43 (permalink)
smiling jack Rockin 'n' rollin' everyday Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Midwest Posts: 972	Thank you all for bringing up about that one person....god, mine is the one guy at the volunteer fire department meeting last night...and I continue to give me too much space in my mind when I could be thinking of being happy, joyful and free today from my addictive behaviors that I am busting my butt trying to do. Why in the world do I... Why in the world do I... Why in the world do I give that person so much power over me? What do I do? Please help me on this. I feel like I am going insane.

05-23-2008, 09:35 AM	#44 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 10,103	I went to a silent meditation once for 10 days. What I learned is that in the abscense of any feedback I assume I'm doing it wrong, Nobody likes me, I screwing things up for everybody else.......... Lots of growth needed in that area. Just starting to white knuckle it a little....but a little easier than yesterday.

05-23-2008, 12:31 PM	#45 (permalink)
roxiestone Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 393	I'm cheering for you, ananda. Just got back from the gym. Feel good about that. Jack, if you get any insights, I'd be grateful to hear them.

05-23-2008, 03:41 PM	#48 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 10,103	Well - I successfully ate lunch like i'm SUPOSE TO....amazing how that helps keep me from craving the sugar Have been about ready to hit people over the head all afternoon (not for real) but I think that is just because it is a deadline day and i didn't properly prepare for this in the last 2 weeks. So probably has nothing to do with the lack of sugar This is kinda exiting...in 20 minites I will have been 48 hours with out OS!

05-23-2008, 08:34 PM	#50 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 10,103	One of my sponsors use to tell me you can trust others to be true to who they are. I have to try not to expect people who are sick in some way to act like they aren't. Just as they can trust that in my sick areas I will probably behave that way....but then again I do need to allow other people to change and get better (and my self too). That situation would be hard for me to deal with. Some self protection seems to be important for me, yet I also can want safety at all costs, and that just locks me up in a jail of my own making. Keep us posted on how this goes....I could certainly learn how to deal with this type thing better. Thanks. Yipee - working on day 3!!!!

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