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07-18-2008, 09:22 PM
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WOW odaat...you are just doing so great! It really does get easier..for me at least.....bought my son candy bars at the store and didn't get but a small desire. I did ask that he not have the neslie crunches that I love and to please not offer me any. He doesn't get it but he agreed. It's so nice to have some support on the home front. |
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07-19-2008, 08:24 AM
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| One Day At A Time  Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: England
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I'm making sure I'm telling people what help I need. I hate asking for help, but have to keep telling myself that I do need it! A good friend who brings me donuts once a week has said he'll stop which is a big help - I always feel obliged to eat things offered, which is something I need to work on. I had a significant period of abstinence last year, and I keep thinking back to then. I'm assuming I need to treat today as a new thing, and not compare it to 'last time' don't I? I should keep in mind how on Bagel led to a complete collapse. Its so much easier to be abstient than to be unhappy.
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07-19-2008, 09:45 AM
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I figure that there is value in looking at past abstienince to see what worked from me then. Yes...alot of times what helps is when people don't offer, but it's hard for my friends to know what to do as sometimes I do eat the sweet...and it isn't really their job to keep me on track. I'm feeling pretty good about my no OS today....see how it goes Keep up the great work odaat. Hope to see you all later this weekend!  |
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07-19-2008, 05:33 PM
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well.....left the meeting at noon and wanted sugar and a nap...typical of me...so instead I took action on what was bothering me...and the sugar isn't drawing me as much now. Can anyone relate to kinda wanting to "eat sweets AT someone"? That seems really wierd to me...it's like i'm pissed at you, i'll show you, i'll eat some icecream....even though I actually don't find that it makes me feel better anymore...  |
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07-19-2008, 10:37 PM
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As of July 19th: CALI -154 PONY -18 ROXIE -14 JACK -13 LILY -11 ANANDA -4 ODAAT -4 DAVE On hiatus: BARB DWYER GOLDIE MIKE NINA Best wishes all.
__________________ Into each life some rain must fall,some days be dark and dreary. The Difficult is that which can be done immediately;the Impossible that which takes a little longer. |
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07-20-2008, 04:41 AM
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Shopping was just delivered, and the house is stocked with lots of nice, healthy, filling foods. The fridge is full of bright colours instead of the usual beige mess!
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07-20-2008, 08:22 AM
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| came-came to-came to believe  Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: east coast
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HI Guys!! Ot's beautiful here and there is a computer so I am checking in! I have the opposite problem odaat--I tell people right off that I am not eating "that" (whatever is offered that I cannot have) I feel allienated right away...like I feel they look at me like I am trying to be "better than" which is SO not the case... not so much anymore--but I know that that is the better way for me--to say "no thank you" and close the door on it. As long as I am curteous about it, its not me problem if they ore "ok" with it or not. Any way have a good day everyone!! 
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07-21-2008, 05:12 AM
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I find people can be a bit strange when it comes to me declining something. Whether it be cakes or alcohol, if I say" No thanks", then some do seem to take it personally. Never mind, I don't let it bother me either. Been to work, out on the bike for a bit and after I have a coffee then it's back to work. Probably ate too much at the weekend, but most of it okay- no OS. Hope the hols are going well Cali. Hope you are okay Jack. Not heard from Nina for a long time, hope you are okay as well.
__________________ Into each life some rain must fall,some days be dark and dreary. The Difficult is that which can be done immediately;the Impossible that which takes a little longer. |
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07-21-2008, 05:15 AM
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As of July 20th: CALI -155 PONY -19 ROXIE -15 JACK -14 LILY -12 ANANDA -5 ODAAT -5 DAVE On hiatus: BARB DWYER GOLDIE MIKE NINA Best wishes all.
__________________ Into each life some rain must fall,some days be dark and dreary. The Difficult is that which can be done immediately;the Impossible that which takes a little longer. |
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07-21-2008, 06:45 AM
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| came-came to-came to believe Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: east coast
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Yes Dave the holiday is sailing right along! We are right on the Bay-the boats are so peaceful to watch. I over-ate again yesterday. This tells mje a few things--I am not eating enough of the right things--or at the right time so I fanish myself out. Today I will restructure and try to do a better job. Still OS free though I don't know what the plan is today but whatever it is I am sure it will be lots of fun! Have a great day all!
__________________ I've let go of what I was, I accept myself for who I am today- I continue to become who I am meant to be! |
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07-21-2008, 07:46 AM
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Happy Monday everyone. I've been doing well with my new exercise regiment and following my eating plan. Unfortunately I showed a gain today, which is bumming me out. I KNOW it's just my body holding on for a bit, and I KNOW that all progress isn't linear, but I feel like I'm back where I was five days ago. Oh, well, I'm doing the right stuff and will continue to do the right stuff and the scale will be what it will be. As for the declining stuff, I just say "No thank you" and if pressed, just say it again. I don't go into any explanation. It's been my experience that people will "argue" with me if I give them a "reason" why I don't wish to eat something. Luckily, I don't encounter very many food pushers in my circle. I think asking for help and asking for what you need is a very important step - to me, it shows a healthier self-esteem - that you feel you are worth it. Way to go! Peace. |
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07-21-2008, 10:43 AM
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I don't know if its sugar withdrawl or what, but I don't have feel psyhically ill. Hopefully it'll wear off quickly! On to Day Six, and it feels 'nice'. Occasional cravings, but I'm working on the spiritual side of the program. Got three driving lessons booked this week. Once I pass my test, I can get to OA meetings!
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07-21-2008, 09:08 PM
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Its going quite well...but..... New I needed to post this......I am convincing myself to "make a decision" to have a very small slice of cake at my homegroup birthday party to "be polite" since it's my birthday and they are trying to be nice. I'm goin way down the road in my head and although I don't yet have a strong desire to stop the thinking I'm doing, I see how crazy this is and I need to be honest about it here. The party isn't until Saturday, and I usually take watermelon...so I have some time to come to my senses. Sorry to be so you know! gosh:wtf2 |
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07-22-2008, 06:46 AM
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Good luck with your decision, ananda. Odaat, I hope today finds you feeling good. And way to go on your driving lessons - that is a brave and awesome thing that you are doing! I'm still locked in mortal combat with my scales - which is rapidly heading towards some real stinking thinking. I need to figure out where I need to be mentally and emotionally as I try to move myself towards maintaining a more healthful lifestyle. It seems like everytime I try to do this, the ED beast roars back to life. I'm trying to focus on the positives - things I can DO to make me more healthy, rather than all the negatives, don'ts and negative self-talk. It's a tough cyle to break, and keep broken. I came across this quote somewhere on the web and find that it is true for me: The more I live IN my disrespect for myself, my weakness, may lack of stick-to-itiveness, the more I want to eat, simply to soothe those bad feelings and the pickle I've gotten myself into. I'm trying to move away from blaming myself for letting things get this way and stay focused on the positive action that I'm taking to change. Peace. And treat yourself kindly. |
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07-22-2008, 09:30 AM
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Rox - Thanks for the quote: "The more I live IN my disrespect for myself, my weakness, my lack of stick-to-itiveness, the more I want to eat, simply to soothe those bad feelings and the pickle I've gotten myself into." My self-respect comes from being AA sober, getting regular exercise, being self-employed, and trying to help others. My self-disrespect is not being sober in other areas inc. OS, procrastinating on where to invest my savings, and carrying a short anger fuse with the ones I love. I am starting over today. I ate cake at an AA meeting last night. I will have more self-respect if I practice eating positively. Thanks al. To all, thanks. I've read the posts |
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07-22-2008, 12:31 PM
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Jack, it's good to see you back and I hope you are well. With regards to the cake you ate, and Ananda's situation; I think if I could eat one cake and know that enough is enough, then I wouldn't be here- I am not willing to put it to the test yet though. I think part of the reason I am doing well with the weight is that I don't like to use weighing scales too often. I feel that if I eat better and exercise then I don't get obsessed about pounds here and there. I have had a good few bad days when I don't think I would have wanted to know what the scales said. But also in my mind is what Roxie is saying and I wouldn't want to be disheartened if I was trying hard and the scales weren't recognising that. It's a glorious day today and I have just been out on the bike. It's 7.30pm but there are plenty of people on the beach and strolling around, not to mention loads of people sitting outside the pubs while I'm giving it some in my t-shirt and shorts as I pass them all by. Have a good evening all.
__________________ Into each life some rain must fall,some days be dark and dreary. The Difficult is that which can be done immediately;the Impossible that which takes a little longer. |
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07-22-2008, 12:34 PM
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As of July 21st: CALI -156 PONY -20 ROXIE -16 LILY -13 ANANDA -6 ODAAT -6 JACK -working on 1 DAVE On hiatus: BARB DWYER GOLDIE MIKE NINA
__________________ Into each life some rain must fall,some days be dark and dreary. The Difficult is that which can be done immediately;the Impossible that which takes a little longer. |
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07-22-2008, 08:15 PM
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Hey everyone, haven't been keeping up with things. Eating all wrong including OS's. I need tp come off the list for a while and regroup. Need some time to get past some stuff and then I will be back on.
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07-23-2008, 06:47 AM
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As of July 22nd: CALI -157 ROXIE -17 LILY -14 ANANDA -7 ODAAT -7 JACK -1 DAVE On hiatus: BARB DWYER GOLDIE MIKE NINA PONY Best wishes all.
__________________ Into each life some rain must fall,some days be dark and dreary. The Difficult is that which can be done immediately;the Impossible that which takes a little longer. |
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07-23-2008, 06:52 AM
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Good morning all. I'm feeling a little stronger today. It's amazing how a decent night's sleep can help alter one's perspective. I appreciate all of you and wish you all strength and peace for today. I am a bit bummed, as I forgot my running togs today and I wanted to give it a go today, but I'll settle for the elliptical mambo. Peace. |
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07-23-2008, 11:17 AM
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I've had really bad naseau for the past few days. Luckily I'm not eating out of control and making it worse. Feel pretty rotten pyshically, but emotionally/spiritually, I'm happy
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07-23-2008, 06:16 PM
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I blew it....i'm gonna go off the list for a while...I need to regroup and recommitte...I seem to have the idea in my head that I am somehow going to manage to control my OS eating so that i can stop and go as I like....and it really doesn't work for me..... I'll continue to read this site daily and let you know when I can start counting again...on hiatus (is that how you spell it?) Love ya all! |
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