Eating disorder definitely defines me

[Laan]

Aw geez - I'm gonna try again to post this....sumthins wrong

Like I said in my other posts in 'friends and family of alcoholics' - I'm pretty new here.

I was moaning again about my eating problem to someone & she asked me a series of questions - one being - do you eat to comfort yourself because of your home situation?

Well yes, but I'm tired of using that as an excuse! Yeah, while I was stuffing my face with food (mainly chocolates) for comfort, I didn't think: "Hey, I'm destroying my body right now!"

Ok, so I've gone from yo-yo diets, to expensive gym subscriptions to not eating at all, and then to turning to pills like Thinz that make me see weird things coming at me from dark places!!!!!!

I've run up quite a bill to try to lose weight - but I feel like I'm just gaining, the harder I try.....

For the past 3 months or so I've decided to just adapt a 'eat healthy lifestyle with exercise and water'- all on a regular basis, but I would have hoped for at least a minute change.....but nothing. The opposite in fact....

Any advice? It would be greatly appreciated!!!!!!!!!!!

[Pony]

Making the change in your lifestyle to a healthy eating plan and incorporating an exercise program is the right step. If you are looking for a quick fix....so that is not it. It is a long term affect you need for it to work. Patience with yourself as your body re-adjusts it's-self to your new changes. It takes time to see results, sometimes. Some people it's faster, and others it's slower. Just keep on that track. You might want to check with a nutrionalist to make sure you are eating the right foods for your body type and metabolism. With exercising, make sure you are getting your heart rate up for about 15 to 20 mins. a day, to burn off any excess cal. and fat tissue. Lots of water to flush out your system.

[Laan]

Jay - someone to chat to - been waitin since 4 ever!!!! :P

Yeah, i know I can't expect instant results, it's just that I feel like nothing's happening!

To see a nutrionalist sounds like a good idea - I might be making things worse for myself than I know....? But I do try to eat stuff like I've been prescribed before by gym instructor: fish (obviously without the jummy butter and sauces), brown bread if any bread, fruits, lessening sugar and milk intake, oh and something that's so simple yet it actually works! I eat out of a small plate, then my food looks so much more (no - i do not cram it all like a mountain on a tiny plate) ag and there's so much more I try.

But like you say, maybe see someone about it - it's just a little frustrating now!

[Neagrm]

Hi Laan, I hear you loud and clear. My problems also. I notice when I'm very busy and keep busy and focused on many other things, it helps. I suppose it's using distraction. Or the activity addresses my needs better.

One of my difficulties now is having a chronic illness that really slows me down. So now I've got to get my mind working in my favor more as the eating has become the panacea, the habit.

I don't really have answers, just join you in the struggle and wanted you to know you're not alone.

I'm trying to learn to love myself just the way I am, accept myself as is and give myself compassion. With early conditioning that is the challenge of my life, to love and support myself just as I am, be my own best friend. It's a constant practice to remind myself and replace those inner tapes that tear myself down. In a less supportive environment, it's even more necessary and more challenging.

Let's hang in there, carry on with heart and perseverance, and never give up. Wishing you well,
Nea

[Laan]

hey there - thanks hey....it helps to know there are ppl out there that can understand!

it so difficult to stop those urges to just eat! i wish i could just snap my fingers to make it stop - but yeah, no luck (by the way - i have tried it :P)

keep posting & let me know what happens or helps you - i'll do the same. i work better in a team, so maybe we can encourage each other as we fully understand the dilemma...

[Seeker957]

I find that if I start my day out by having some protein for breakfast, that it sets the tone for the rest of the day and makes it easier to stay on track. I have also found that if I stick with 1500 calories a day M-F and then eat normally on the weekends, enjoying a special treat each day, that I am more likely to lose the weight more quickly. These things I do know. What I don't know, is how to prevent myself from comfort eating during times of stress.