Checking in and saying ello!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Biscuits]

Hi all

Sorry haven't been here much lately, hell of a lot goin on at home. My daughter turned 16 last week and we went away for a few day to celebrate.

I'm really struggling at the moment with the letting go of the little girl and allowing her to become an adult and learn from her own mistakes. She is having friend and boyfriend trouble at the moment and i want to go in there and tell her how she should fix things so she feels no pain. Its so hard to watch someone you love going through emotional pain, i just want to take it all away and make her feel better but i know from experience that she has to feel it and grow through it.

I know that it is her journey and that its good and healthy for her to be feeling her feelings, hell i didn't at that age i was well and truly stuck into this desease and was dealing with my emotional pain with compulsive overeating and bulimia. Still it hurts like hell to watch my baby suffer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

On the positive she did great in her exams, got the results on her birthday and she was ecstatic with how well she had done, although now all she can think about is how fearful she is about starting college. I know she'll be okay, she has some wonderful people and role models in life who show her how to live life and take care of herself.

Me, apart from all that goin on i am doing fine, my food is great and life is good. It's not until i talk about what life was like for me before recovery that i realise how good life is today. I had the chance to twelfth step a newcomer the other day and its a truly amazing gift being able to share my experience, strength and hope with another sufferer of my desease.

Anyhow hope to be checking in more often than i have now that the school holidays are coming to end and my routine of being back at work will be re-established.

Lots of love to all my friends here XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

[Pony]

thanks for checking Biscuits....I am happy to hear that things are going well for you.

the daughter thing.....yep, been there three times already and heading in for the forth time as my youngest is 10 1/2 and growing fast. But I understand about the letting go and letting them learn about life but wanting to protect them from the pain. I have three, now adult daughter's that I still have to practice letting go....hands off....policy, and let them grow up and learn how to work through stuff.......but then still know when it's OK to step in and help out. Cause even at their ages...sometimes they still need "mom"