Anger and Resentment

[Biscuits]

Hi all

Had a fantastic meeting last night on the above topic and it reminded me of the crazy person i was before i came into recovery. I never knew is was an angry or resentful person before i came into the rooms i just thought alot of bad stuff about people but they deseved it lol. They never treated me how i thought they should so i felt justified to think loads of crap that was not true.

For me today i realise that when i am angry its usually fear based, if something or someone makes me angry today i step back and look at what its affecting in me because ususally it means that it threatens something in me. Its not normally about the person who has triggered it but a deep rooted fear that needs healing. Today i am greatful that i recognise these feelings and am able to work the program on them, it means i live a much more harmonious life. giving back what i have been given.

Luv and hugs

[Pony]

Thanks for sharing this Biscuits. It is something to think about within ourselves. Anger and resentments are definately something that can eat away at you. It can change a person's personality and attitude to very bitter.

[BigSis]

I am curious, Biscuits, if you don't mine sharing - do you have some tips on how to heal the resentments (or whatever it is that is hurting)?

I am getting better at recognizing what hurts... but not so good at getting it better.

Thanks!

D

[Biscuits]

Hi Bigsis

I am really lucky that during my many years of recovery i have had some amazing teachers who shared their E.S. and H with me about how to work this program in my everyday life.

Resentments for me always led me back into this desease until i started dealing with what the root cause of them was for me. For me today resentment crops up when things are not going my way, either someone is not doing as i want them to do or something is happening that i want to control.

Whenever i get a resentment i write it down as soon as i can, and honestly look at the cause of it. I then look at what it effects in me (self esteem, security, ambitions, sex relations and fear), most of my resentments always seem to come from fear, my biggest fear has always been of rejection and not being loved enough - stuff that comes from way back in my childhood.

I then look at if i have played a part in causing the resentment, have i been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking or frightened - if i have then i have an amends to make.

When i have the cause of the resentment, what it affects in me and my part in it then i pray to my higher power. I pray that i can be healed and i pray also for the someone or something that has caused the resentment and also for the courage to make any amends that i need to make. Most resentments are about me and not the someone or something that has triggered the feeling, this has taken a long time to work out and i had alot of support and help along the way.

I hope this helps but if not then ask around because thats something else i learnt in this program there is no right or wrong way of doing things as long as the results lead you into serentiy and a way of living free of this addiction.

Love and hugs

[BigSis]

Thank you, Biscuits... I am printing this out to read again... very useful, insightful post.


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