One Day...

[stormyautumn]

I is it just me or do we all dream about "one day" when we all be the perfect weight, the perfect look, the size, the perfect personality..is there just one day for everyone??? Is it just me that keeps looking for this perfection that never ever seems to come?? Do you sit up and watch commercials for ab lounge and all the other gadgets that are supposed to make us skinny and then just fold it up under the bed?

[cali]

stormy-
I have to admit that I obsess from time to time about this issue.......
the stark cold reality for me is that if I don't get "into action" and get some serious exercise, nothing will really change with me physical appearance despite all of the "healthy choices" I am making food wise today.

It's the same with my AA program.....if I don't get into action and work the program and the steps, that's the same as sitting idol and not exercising...I get flabby mentally and spiritually too......

I really needed to say these things out loud because I am doing just that.....sitting idol in every way and I will say that's why I am unhappy right now----thinking a new job-a "new this" or a "new that" will make it better.......WRONG! It's an inside job--
Thanks for helping me today and I hope you feel better.

[Nina Kay]

Hi Stormy,
I think that everything that Cali said is just so right and important. I did have that dream that I knew would come true "one day", but guess what?!, it never did, while I was still young. I quit dreaming that a long time ago, but I do know that it could happen for me and for all of us, if we do indeed, get up and take action. I now want to have this dream to become a reality for a healthy good full life.

I for one, do believe that we need to get with others regularly that are going through what we are going through and really encourage and help each other out with this, because the one thing that I've learned about myself is that I cannot and will not ever be able to stick with this and make it work, alone. I need others help, support, encouragement, and understanding. So keep coming back here and find a good 12 step meeting near you. Your dream can come true, if you work on this problem from the inside out, in a committed way, with others who are going through it too. (((((((((((((Caring Hugs)))))))))))))))

[kelliegirl]

That's a really good question, Stormy.

I have a "someday" dream. The struggle with my weight and trying to recover from sexual abuse are the realities I must battle every day. I used to hang onto the fantasy attached to my "someday" and I used it to push through one of the most hellish times in my life. What I didn't expect is that I want that fantasy to become a reality. I want and need to conquer the urges to sabotage myself so I can have a shot with my "someday".

[BeeBee]

Again, these adds are not addressing the core issues that we have with food. We can do a zillion different exercises, try a million diet products, have the courage, strength and hope of a gazillion people, but the bottom line is that until we deal with the core issues of our eating, we are simply on a merry go round of try and fail, try and fail. JMHO

[BigSis]

I found out by doing... when I was thin, nothing changed - except MY actions and reactions to the outside world. That tells me to "act as if"... when I can remember.

Thanks for the reminder!

[Done-With-It]

Originally Posted by stormyautumn

I is it just me or do we all dream about "one day" when we all be the perfect weight, the perfect look, the size, the perfect personality..is there just one day for everyone??? Is it just me that keeps looking for this perfection that never ever seems to come?? Do you sit up and watch commercials for ab lounge and all the other gadgets that are supposed to make us skinny and then just fold it up under the bed?

I used to but I've learned to stop looking at what I don't have and look at what I do have. When I keep looking at what I don't have it's impossible to see what I do have.

We miss so much when we are looking for something that we'll never achieve and the sad thing it's sitting right in front of us, but we usually lose it.