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[rahsue]

I was watching Oprah yesterday, bob green, one thing said was when your overweight you have a deep pain and that causes you to eat when you're not hungry or eat the wrong things.
do you think this is true? could I be fat because I think if I stay fat I won't repeat things I wish I never did when I was thin? sounds strange but hummm
and if this could be how the heck do I get over it?

[Nina Kay]

Hi rahsue and Welcome to the Eating Disorders Forum. I hope that you'll keep coming back here.
I didn't watch Oprah, so I didn't get the idea of the show, but that those of us who are overweight may or may not have a deep pain that causes us to overeat or eat unhealthy foods. Everyone is different with different circumstances and there are so many different levels of pain and so many different kinds of pain. Twelve step recovery programs are all about getting to the bottom of what is leading us to make the choices that we make and how to recover from our self defeating ways of thinking and living. It's a healing process that will take time and willingness.

I know that there will be others who will be along to share their ESH with you too.

[Neagrm]

Hi rahsue,
I didn't see the show. Thanks for relating those ideas. I don't know the answers, but have wondered the same things myself. Is the extra weight a form of self-protection too, from things I subconsciously am avoiding? Or perhaps there's an element of self-punishment. Or maybe it's simply developing bad habits over time.

I'm sure it's a combination of things. Even though I can't always pinpoint the payoff, I've begun to learn to keep coming back to the program, continue learning more and more about the 12 steps and my self. I want to trust the process. I need to hear about how it's helped others.

I'll be interested in hearing more discussion. Thanks for being here!

[Biscuits]

Hi Rahsue

Thanks for your post, didn't see Oprah (love her shows though)

Just wanted to day that before i came into recovery i definetly used my fat to isolate from the world. Being overweight was a protection for me and it wasn't until i found OA that i realised that i self sabataged many attempts to regain a 'normal' body size.

I have suffered alot of pain in my life, and i didn't like peoples attention (especially men), so i just isolated myself with my false friend food and claimed i was happy with who i was - a total lie as many times i would sob alone after bingeing.

One day a time i have abstained from compulsively overeating and purging for 9 years,7 months and 12 days alot of this time i have wanted not to deal with the weight loss that came but my friends in recovery who had been here before me kept me coming back and healing the pain that i wanted to escape from.

Keep coming back for the miracles, i have experienced many in my recovery and still experience the wonder of abstaining from compulsive overeating one day at a time.

Love always
Biscuits

[renee18]

Welcome. I understand waht you are saying. I am overweight and it is a protection for me. 15 years of self protection. If you want to know PM sometime.

keep coming back

[Missymae737]

Originally Posted by rahsue

and if this could be how the heck do I get over it?

Hello and welcome,

By coming here, I think you will find great wisdom to help you to deal with your issues.

Keep posting, we are glad you are here.

[rahsue]

thanks everyone I will stick around