Love

[Biscuits]

Hi all

Just wanted to let people know that i have had a really hard time this week, all this valentines stuff really bugs me. We had a topic meeting this week entitled love and it really gave me alot to think about especially the reading "Infantile love follows the principle: I love because i am loved. Mature love follows the principle: i am loved becasuse i love" OA For Today - 14th Feb.

This has taken me back to me childhood feeling of not feeling loved by my parents, especially my dad - he was supposed to be my heroe and superman and unfortunatley he didn't live up to my expectations. Anyway done alot alot of reading and writing on it and feel a little better. Got through it all abstinently although i white knuckled it for a couple of days (Thank God for sponsors).

I have learned that love is an inside job and when i can love myself then i can love others so i guess i am growing up a little.

Thanks for being there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[renee18]

Thanks biscuit or sharing I have been feeling the same way you have been about my childhood with me dad. and what you said "he didn't live up to my expectations" that hit me hard. Expectation get in the way of being able to love ourselves and others. It is an inside job. One thing that i learned over the weekend at a Women's Retreat was that you need to forgive others and you need to forgive yourself. I know it is hard to do that but it is possible

Thanks
Shana