hello I am a newbie and need some advice

Hello Everyone,
I am new to the forum and this site.So I'll tell you a little about myself.I am kinda young and have been struggiling with anerexia and bulimia for about 3 years almost and don't know what to do.I thought about getting help,but I don't know about all that.About six months ago I told my mom and this is how she replied:well you better not do that crap(she used another word though) again and she has ignored it ever since.It's like I am not allowed to have problems or to make mistakes.Most parents get on to there kids for making mistakes,but my mom doesn't allow me to mistakes and if I do she ignores it..I guess she doesn't relieze I am human...I just want some advice and comport if anyone has any.Also if anyone thinks they could help me..please repond..and thanks...

[antreeta]

Hi Kwissy,
Welcome. I have a binge eating disorder.
People don't understand, even the ones who love you. We use food to punish other people, whether we eat it or not. They think we should just snap out of it.
Just this morning, I had alot of anger at my husband and my daughter. I went out and bought a box of Ho Ho's. I ate almost the whole box, I feel like getting rid of them right now. I am so miserable. But my anger is stuffed away, under all those ho ho's. My first bite the anger was no longer noticeable. I did it just to show them, they couldn't control my life. (I have diabetes,too). I was rebelling against my anger and all my inadequacies just to show what control I could have over something. (Ha)
The truth is how much it has over me.
Your mom sounds like she doesn't know how to handle this problem. She is not able to help you with this at this time. Are you still in school? If so, could you talk to a counselor? Or a minister of a church? Or the local crisis line? Overeaters anonymous helps with this issue.
Of course, we would love to see you come back and talk to us. We may not respond all the time, I was not online for a few days.
But we are here and writing does help.
Just try to keep it to one day at a time.
Welcome......

[dorjes]

Hello kwissy,
I am the mother of a 13 year old who was on the verge of anorexia. We worked with a dr who was able to help her. from the tone of your post it seems that you do understand that your mom isn't there for you because of her issues. and, you are a very astute person to realize that you have these issues and need help. is there a guidance counselor, doctor, clergy person or some other adult you can turn to? please do this for yourself right away so they can help you get better. good luck!! also, if you need an adult to e-mail with please feel free to contact me at dorjes@aol.com and put from kwissy in the subject line so i don't delete you by accident.

Thanks to all those who have replied and have given me supports although you all don't exactly know me.Ever bit of your support and advice truly counts to me becauase really here I don't seem like I have a lot of support.I have my mom,but she has a perspictive about me that I am suppose to be perfect and can't make mistakes,but I am neither of that:I am not perfect and I am going to make mistakes...people make mistakes and I don't see why she can't accept that.I do have a youth minister and a very sweet lady at church who check up on me and ask me how I am doing.I also have my boyfriend who know lives hundreds of miles away.So I am just gratefull for the support I do have although I am missing the one I need the most:my moms.Thank you to all of yall and best wishes.

[Paulie]

Kwissy -

We all support each other, we are friends and we do not judge. Keep posting, we want to get to know you better.

Soemtimes we have to give ourselves what we don't get from others, in this case for you it is acceptance. (I did not make that up myself, I heard Dr. Phil say it ).

My point is, accept yourself and do the best you can each day to feel better. What about outside help? Can you go to your counselors at school and ask for help? That might be a good idea.

Keep posting here my friend.

[criscee]

I too suffer from bulimia. i have now for over 3 years since i got sober. it's hard and even those i've told have a great deal of trouble understanding where i'm coming from. and i watch dr phil too and it's true that sometimes you have to give yourself what others can't. i have to accept that too. i have tried to identify what triggers me to binge and purge. i do not always succeed. i have found that the frequency of those instances is less since i've been writing here. you do what you gotta do. i work a 12 step program in alcoholics anonymous and try to take those principles over into my food addiction. keep coming back. we understand. there is a lot of support here till you can find the support you need wherever you are.