Here on the forum alone!!!!

[Pony]

Ok out there. Where is everyone? I feel like I have been abandon here. I know that there are more people out there with food issues. Let's get to chatting.

Need a topic, ok: How's this one?

"How do we cope with our food issues and losing weight when our mates aren't real supportive or just plain don't understand?"

Ok, I'm waiting...........

Pony

Hey Pony,

I've got some food issues now, "I can't eat!" I've been having some kind of stomach trouble since the beginning of the year, and there is hardly anything I can eat, AND, I'm still not losing any weight. Bummer.

I go for an Upper GI this Thursday, which will hopefully give some answers.

Juls

Doesn't really address your question though.

[Pony]

That's ok Juls, you didn't really have to answer my question. I just wanted someone to be out there and start writing on this forum. It's sort of dying out. All the past people who have been wrtig here see to have gone off somewhere.

I'm sorry to hear that your having such trouble. Even not being able to eat can be difficult to deal with. I hope the Doc's can find out what's up and fix it. Nothing more frustrating than not knowing what the problem is in order to even deal with it.

Goo luck and thanks for letting me know that someone is still out there.

Pony

[val]

Hi to you both, I have not been doing too well with my eating, there has been a lot going on and I have been eating my way through every problem that I have had over the past week or so.
I eat until I feel sick and then some more.
I am allready 30lbs overweight and I feel Big and Bloated all the time.
I can be really good for a week or so and then its like I try to sabotage all of my good work and stuff myself with all sorts of junk for a couple of weeks.
I get really lazy and can't be bothered to work at it for any longer than a couple of weeks.
Perhaps I could use this message board more, even just to report in and tell you all how I am doing. We could do it for each other.
What do you think?

Val

Glad to see you here. I can relate about the eating. Especially when there are so many stressful things to deal with, eating properly just takes a back seat.

Juls

[Pony]

Eating healthy is a real common problem for all people in all shapes and size.

Val, welcome here and yes please keep coming back here and post your progress, feelings, whatever you feel like. That's what we're here for. This is the place to get support from those of us that struggle from the same challenges day to day.
Myself, well yes I tend to do really good and then I find myself stuffing my face with bad stuff, then feel guilty so it goes on....
No easy answers but here we are for each other. Maybe we can all figure it out together.

Today I did good. Had a really great salad for dinner and a tall glass of water.

Pony

[val]

Hi Guys,

Didn't do so good today either, however, today was a bit better than yesterday.
I try not to give myself a hard time these days, as the guilt just makes it worse and then I eat some more to take the guilt away and it just goes round and round in a kind of a vicious circle.
I have however taken your advise and I have been drinking water every day and eating some fruit, and I went swimming last week for the first time in years, and it felt good. I am also working on the thing about leaving some food on my plate and it really does make me feel as if I have some sort of control when I do it.
Hope you both are feeling good and thanks again for being there.
Speak again soon,

Love and fellowship,

Val :-)

[Pony]

That's great Val, you're taking steps in the right direction. You're right not to beat yourself up over some slip ups. Habits are very hard to break, and I'm sure like the rest of us you didn't develope this one overnight. So it's going to take more that overnight to create a new healty habit. Just take it one day at a time, and deal with that day. Sooner or later you'll see that it's become a new way of life for you. And remember, YOU DESERVE IT!

Keep coming back

Pony

Hello Pony, My husband is out drinking again, and only last night did we have a good talk about keeping our goals in focus etc etc,. Well, I sat down tonight and ate another bar of chocolate that someone had left around. I'm overweight about 45 pounds I reckon and have been for years. Every time he goes drinking it makes me feel like nothing is worth fighting for, he's given in so why should I struggle on. This is totally stupid I know and I'm doing no one worse harm than myself but it's as if I just can't help it. All my resolve disappears, it's comfort food I know but I just feel worse and worse. Patience.Even this site seems worthless tonight. QUOTE]Originally posted by kidponyexpress:
Ok out there. Where is everyone? I feel like I have been abandon here. I know that there are more people out there with food issues. Let's get to chatting.

Need a topic, ok: How's this one?

"How do we cope with our food issues and losing weight when our mates aren't real supportive or just plain don't understand?"

Ok, I'm waiting...........

Pony[/quote]

[firefly]

Hello Everyone,

I don't know how well I will fit here, as the issues I want to look at aren't about loosing weight, they're about Bulimia and Anorexia, although I am also a survivor of over eating too. Ironically, the thing that finally put over eating in check was a chronic digestive disorder, which I've now had for almost 10 years. I suddenly realized yesterday that I've maintained my current size since 1993, a feat I'd never thought possible. The digestive disorder occured not because of eating patterns, but because of a vicious work cycle I maintained for over 2 years. My body finally gave out.

I have worked hard at being comfortable in my own body. Events over the past year are leading me to take a hard look at factors that contribute to Bulimia and Anorexia, especially those on the emotional end. I can relate to an overall lack of support around all sorts of weight issues because that's what my family gave me in unending supply until I left. I don't know if walking out is the answer for everyone, and, I'm realizing more and more you can't walk out on what's inside of you. I don't want to walk out, I want to walk through what's NOT healthy for me, and help others in the process of survival if I can.

I don't know how much this follows the topic. Thanks for letting me say how I feel.


Peace, serenity and joy,

Firefly

[Pony]

Firefly I couldn't have said it better myself. You can't walk away from yourself. Oh and by the way, you fit in here jut fine. Food issues are just that, and support for addictions is always needed.

Addictions/over-obessive/compulsive behaviors is what brings us here. And the thought of others out there some where in the world who have the same struggles helps me feel not so alone. Feeling alone is a common feeling we all share when there are problems that we don't know quite how to deal with. The good news is that we don't have to do it alone when there are places like this forum that we can come to and share what we are feeling/ vent or whatever and have someone else there understand.

Patience, I to live with an actively drinking alcoholic. I can understand what you're going through, but I guess the question is; Why are you going through it? What I mean is, do you feel trapped that you have no other life to live? so you love this man that much that you stay? Are you trying to change him to fit what you feel life should be? These aren't questions that I want answers to, but rather more for yourself to look at and decided why are you there. You can't make someone change if they don't want to.
Have you ever gone to a 12-step program/meeting. The 12-steps are really helpful in learning to deal with our own issues reguarding our own choices.
I don't know you, but I would like for you to know that I believe that life is worth living and you deserve to live it happily. but only you can decide what that is for you. We are separate people outside our alcoholics and need to make choices for ourselves for peace within the chaos.

Hope this has helped.

we are here, and your not alone.

Pony

[firefly]

Hello Pony,

I'm going through what I'm going through because I've left it unattened for a long time. In private therapy, I looked at my family structure and DIS fun ktion, and skipped most of direct examination of my patterns of behavior around food and substances. In Al-anon, I looked at my father's drinking, my connection to other alcoholics as a child and my propensity to keep hooking up with men who were either active substance abusers or in a dry recovery ( ie: not using and still have all the other behaviors.) In other words, I've been dancing around the topic of my own denial for years and sometimes blaming others for my behavior. Over the past few years, different events around other's eating disorders have been occuring in my life, and it's making me take a step back
( finally.) My current partner is the most A M A Z I N G man I have ever met, and I truely feel blessed. He constantly encourages me to talk about how I am feeling, and, listens to me when I do. This can be VERY difficult for me because there are times when I can't even name my emotions, let alone talk about them. Especially when I'm feeling negative emotions. I was taught well it can be very dangerous to be vulnerable. I want to be able to say, " I'm feeling angry right now,' or "I'm feeling disapointed," or what ever, without holding all these negative things in until I explode in a verbal back lash. I want to do this most of all for me, because I want to be fully aware of what's going on within me, and, because I don't want to be ruled by emotional responces that are no longer useful.

Thanks for letting me tell some of my story,

Peace and serenity,
Firefly