What does it take...

[sadface]

I hear all these stories about people losing weight. I am constantly told if you really want it, you can do it. I am a strong person, patient and work towards what I want. I have been seperated for almost 2 yrs from my AH. I know now that I am better off without him and looking forward to see what my future has for me. Since the seperation I have gained about 40 lbs. I was already overweight to start with. I cannot get myself to stop eating, and start walking (which i used to like to do). I am going to be 50 yrs old next year, and I want a new beginning. I have so many plans and goals, but what is it going to take for me to lose weight. Any suggestions?

[His Wife]

I joined Weight Watcher and it has really paid off!

[Nina Kay]

Hi Sadface,
Welcome to the Eating Disorders Forum of SR. I'm so glad that you found us here. I am starting to lose weight, but it is very slow. I'm not worried about that so much though, since it's really my goal to feel and think healthy again. I've started coming here regularly a few months ago and then I started attended Overeater's Anonymous which is a twelve step program of recovery for my abnormal thinking about food and it's helping me to deal with my food addiction, which turns out to be steming from my not so healthy attitude toward myself and my life. I hope that you will find an OA meeting near you and go to it as often as possible. It is a group of people who can understand what you are going through with your weight problem and eating problem because they have experienced it, themselves. I hope that you'll keep coming back here and reading the posts and the past posts. There is alot of helpful information in the Stickys at the top of this page and at the top of the opening page of each forum here at SR. You'll get alot of support and encouragement from all of the wonderful people here. Right now it is a holiday weekend, so things are a bit slower around here, but come Tuesday Morning, everyone will be back here to support each other. So keep coming back.
((((((((((Welcome Hugs))))))))))))

[Pony]

Welcome sadface, to this forum. I don't think I could improve on what Nina had to say except to say that you are not alone. There are many of us here that struggle with the weight loss issues and motivation to "get going" on doing something about it.

I am one. I was doing really well for a while....watching my food, exercise program, keeping up with my support system and then I allowed distractions enter in and lost my way on my journey. Reverted back to old habits and behaviors and now I am having to start again. Sometimes it goes like that....but at least I can start again. It is never completely lost as long as we don't give up.

I think the first thing to remember is that "nothing changes, if nothing changes." We have to change our thinking and then our actions will follow. It has to be a lifestyle, not just a weight loss diet for instant success. Also I find that I have to keep my expectations within reality giving myself small goals....step by step....in order to achieve the big goal. If I concentrate on just the big goal, I get overwhelmed and set myself up for failure.

I hope that you keep coming back here. Welcome again.