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EyesWideOpen33 · 08-18-2002, 11:39 AM

"The Language of Letting Go" (Melody Beattie)

August 18

"Detachment involves present-moment living -- living in the here and now. We allow it to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We relinquish regrets over the past and fears about the future. We make the most of each day."
---Codependent No More

This moment, we are right where we need to be, right where we are meant to be.

How often we waste our time and energy wishing we were someone else, were doing something else, or were someplace else. We may wish our present circumstances were different.

We needlessly confuse ourselves and divert our energy by thinking that our present moment is a mistake. But we are right where we need to be for now. Our feelings, thoughts, circumstances, challenges, tasks--all of it is on schedule.

We spoil the beauty of the present moment by wishing for something else.

Come back home to yourself. Come back home to the present moment. We will not change things be escaping or leaving the moment. We will change things by surrendering to and accepting the moment.

Some moments are easier to accept than others.

To trust the process, to trust all of it, without hanging on to the past or peering too far into the future, requires a great deal of faith. Surrender to the moment. If you're feeling angry, get mad. If you're setting a boundary, dive into that. If you're grieving, grieve. Get into it. Step where instinct leads. If you're waiting, wait. If you have a task, throw yourself into the work. Get into the moment; the moment is right.

We are where we are, and it is okay. It is right where we're meant to be to get where we're going tomorrow. And that place will be good.

It has been planned in love for us.

God, help me let go of my need to be someone other than who I am today. Help me dive fully into the present moment -- the difficult ones and the easy ones, trusting the whole process. I will stop trying to control the process; instead, I will relax and let myself experience it.

**Ann** · 08-18-2002, 01:08 PM

{{{{Eyes}}} - I missed these posts when you were away. And you know how much I love this book.

One of my defects is that I waste too much time and energy feeling ovewhelmed by having too much to do, and in most cases it doesn't all have to get done in one day. And when I am overwhelmed, I sometimes don't do any of it...I just can't seem to get started. So I procrastinate...even worse.

I also waste time and emotional energy second guessing tomorrow, rather than enjoying the sunshine today. I have been working on that, and am getting much better at stopping myself.

I am going to read this post every morning for the next month and carry it with me through the day. I'll just bet it will help.

Thank you soooo much.

08-18-2002, 11:39 AM	#1 (permalink)
EyesWideOpen33 Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: California Posts: 65	LLG - Valuing This Moment "The Language of Letting Go" (Melody Beattie) August 18 "Detachment involves present-moment living -- living in the here and now. We allow it to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We relinquish regrets over the past and fears about the future. We make the most of each day." ---Codependent No More This moment, we are right where we need to be, right where we are meant to be. How often we waste our time and energy wishing we were someone else, were doing something else, or were someplace else. We may wish our present circumstances were different. We needlessly confuse ourselves and divert our energy by thinking that our present moment is a mistake. But we are right where we need to be for now. Our feelings, thoughts, circumstances, challenges, tasks--all of it is on schedule. We spoil the beauty of the present moment by wishing for something else. Come back home to yourself. Come back home to the present moment. We will not change things be escaping or leaving the moment. We will change things by surrendering to and accepting the moment. Some moments are easier to accept than others. To trust the process, to trust all of it, without hanging on to the past or peering too far into the future, requires a great deal of faith. Surrender to the moment. If you're feeling angry, get mad. If you're setting a boundary, dive into that. If you're grieving, grieve. Get into it. Step where instinct leads. If you're waiting, wait. If you have a task, throw yourself into the work. Get into the moment; the moment is right. We are where we are, and it is okay. It is right where we're meant to be to get where we're going tomorrow. And that place will be good. It has been planned in love for us. God, help me let go of my need to be someone other than who I am today. Help me dive fully into the present moment -- the difficult ones and the easy ones, trusting the whole process. I will stop trying to control the process; instead, I will relax and let myself experience it. __________________ Peace & Prayers, EyesWideOpen

08-18-2002, 01:08 PM	#2 (permalink)
Ann Forum Leader Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: By The Lake Posts: 29,851	{{{{Eyes}}} - I missed these posts when you were away. And you know how much I love this book. One of my defects is that I waste too much time and energy feeling ovewhelmed by having too much to do, and in most cases it doesn't all have to get done in one day. And when I am overwhelmed, I sometimes don't do any of it...I just can't seem to get started. So I procrastinate...even worse. I also waste time and emotional energy second guessing tomorrow, rather than enjoying the sunshine today. I have been working on that, and am getting much better at stopping myself. I am going to read this post every morning for the next month and carry it with me through the day. I'll just bet it will help. Thank you soooo much. __________________ Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky. ~Tagore

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