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Old 04-19-2015, 05:39 AM   #1 (permalink)
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"The Litany of Humility," by Rafael Cardinal Merry del Val

O Jesus! meek and humble of heart, Hear me.
From the desire of being esteemed,
Deliver me, Jesus.

From the desire of being loved...
From the desire of being extolled ...
From the desire of being honored ...
From the desire of being praised ...
From the desire of being preferred to others...
From the desire of being consulted ...
From the desire of being approved ...
From the fear of being humiliated ...
From the fear of being despised...
From the fear of suffering rebukes ...
From the fear of being calumniated ...
From the fear of being forgotten ...
From the fear of being ridiculed ...
From the fear of being wronged ...
From the fear of being suspected ...

That others may be loved more than I,
Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.

That others may be esteemed more than I ...
That, in the opinion of the world,
others may increase and I may decrease ...
That others may be chosen and I set aside ...
That others may be praised and I unnoticed ...
That others may be preferred to me in everything...
That others may become holier than I, provided that I may become as holy as I should…
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Old 04-19-2015, 05:44 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Old 09-26-2016, 03:38 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Bump.

This has really been smacking me in the face lately!
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Old 09-26-2016, 06:30 AM   #4 (permalink)
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What's going on in your life to make these thoughts front and foremost ?
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WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE
IS YOUR GIFT TO GOD


J - Jesus first
O - Others next
Y - Yourself last

John 14:6
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Old 09-26-2016, 07:03 AM   #5 (permalink)
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I can slip into the habit of showing off and seeking applause. I've caught myself a couple times lately. I need to not let the left hand know what the right hand is doing.
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Old 10-01-2016, 10:48 AM   #6 (permalink)
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For me this prayer is like an antidote to pride.
Our Lord doesn't cure me of pride.
It's a daily reprieve.
But, one day at a time, it helps keep pride at bay;
allowing acceptance of the will and grace of God
and increasing my gratitude.

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Old 10-01-2016, 12:23 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Well said! Instantly slashes pride--and at the same time puts me in the right spirit for giving and considering others higher than myself.
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Old 10-01-2016, 12:27 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Yes-oh-yes.
Have mercy on me a sinner dear Lord.
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Old 10-06-2016, 01:44 PM   #9 (permalink)
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I use this every morning. I need it, and it always helps me adjust my perspective ready to face the day. I've also started to use it as a starting point for my evening reflections sometimes. Most times I've have a bad day or am feeling a bit uncomfortable with myself, it helps me understand what went wrong.
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Old 10-06-2016, 06:48 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Hi, Berrybean! I told you I loved this prayer!

It really cuts through my crap!
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Old 08-13-2017, 04:45 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Bump.

This is just what the doctor ordered today!
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Old 08-13-2017, 04:56 AM   #12 (permalink)
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A corollary to the Prayer of St. Francis, perhaps.

grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console,
to be understood as to understand
to be loved as to love

for it is in giving that we receive
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned......

Thanks for the reminder Gilmer. At times I readily identify others ego issues but not my own - of course theirs are much more glaring.......
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Old 08-13-2017, 10:26 AM   #13 (permalink)
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I really like the original prayer posted in this thread, as much of it has to do with denying the ego. I can certainly admit that this is something I battle with. But what exactly is wrong with a desire to be loved? Just curious, if someone might care to explain. Thanks
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I don't believe that there is anything wrong with the desire to be loved. All people have it, I think: for one thing, I believe that we all possess a "God-shaped vacuum:" a longing for acceptance and meaning that only God can ultimately fulfill, because other humans are flawed and finite.

And human love relationships can be a beautiful and sacred thing.

They in themselves are not wrong; but chasing after them is wrong. We can elevate the state of feeling loved by others to too high an importance. It's not so much the pursuit of genuine love that's the problem; it's the insistence on having it that's the problem.

Our ultimate source of love affirmation, and self-worth should be the Lord.

Too often I either blow him off or take him for granted and chase after the approval of other humans instead. Even perfectly good human relationships can be misprioritized: God has to be the highest priority and merit the highest honor in our lives.

Another way to look at it is, "Let God be glorified, even if it means that I must take a back seat."

I don't think the author of the prayer intended to diss good, natural, innate desire for meaningful connection with others.

I think the real thrust of the prayer is "let me not elevate my own glory above God's--let him go ahead and use others instead of me if that brings him greater glory."
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Have mercy on me a sinner dear Lord.
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That was beautiful Gilmer.
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I think the real thrust of the prayer is "let me not elevate my own glory above God's--let him go ahead and use others instead of me if that brings him greater glory."
thanks I needed to hear this today.
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I don't believe that there is anything wrong with the desire to be loved. All people have it, I think: for one thing, I believe that we all possess a "God-shaped vacuum:" a longing for acceptance and meaning that only God can ultimately fulfill, because other humans are flawed and finite.

And human love relationships can be a beautiful and sacred thing.

They in themselves are not wrong; but chasing after them is wrong. We can elevate the state of feeling loved by others to too high an importance. It's not so much the pursuit of genuine love that's the problem; it's the insistence on having it that's the problem.

Our ultimate source of love affirmation, and self-worth should be the Lord.

Too often I either blow him off or take him for granted and chase after the approval of other humans instead. Even perfectly good human relationships can be misprioritized: God has to be the highest priority and merit the highest honor in our lives.

Another way to look at it is, "Let God be glorified, even if it means that I must take a back seat."

I don't think the author of the prayer intended to diss good, natural, innate desire for meaningful connection with others.

I think the real thrust of the prayer is "let me not elevate my own glory above God's--let him go ahead and use others instead of me if that brings him greater glory."
Thank you, Gilmer. That was explained very well.
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I'd like to add one little piece to this prayer that I believe is applicable to myself, and possibly to others as well.

That is.. "Lord, deliver me from my tendency towards apathy"

When all of these other things begin to become too difficult, or I am overwhelmed, stressed, sad, or disappointed, my personal default is to lean towards apathy and say "oh, to heck with it. I don't care anyway". I think over the years, that has become my personal safety valve or escape mechanism. And I am realizing that not caring or giving up too easily is not really the appropriate response or attitude to have either.
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