After almost 60 days... - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

Yesterdaysnumb · 06-02-2009, 05:16 AM

He relapsed.

I really don't know what to say. It's raining here today and it's almost prophetic of my day to come.

I felt like I got hit by a car when he told me.

I smelled it on him when he came to get me from work.

I asked him, "were you drinking?" And just as if I asked him what time it was, he said... "I had a beer".

And with those four words, my life seemed to stop. I always knew that relapse was a part of recovery. I thought that I'd prepared for this moment. My mouth was moving. I heard myself talking about rehabs, moving, and what we were going to do next... But my heart was asking myself if I were in a dream.

Believe808 · 06-02-2009, 05:56 AM

I'm sorry

NeedingHelp7 · 06-02-2009, 07:10 AM

Oh YN.....I hope you feel Gods love envelop you right now. I'm sorry to hear this.

CAPTAINZING2000 · 06-02-2009, 07:22 AM

I haven't been keeping up to date with your husband's recovery. Has he got a sponsor? Has he been going to meetings regularly?

Yesterdaysnumb · 06-02-2009, 07:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CAPTAINZING2000

I haven't been keeping up to date with your husband's recovery. Has he got a sponsor? Has he been going to meetings regularly?

Yeah, his sponsor is dying. So needless to say his sponsor hasn't really been all that attentive. However, my husband calls him daily. He'd been going to meeting daily before, but now his work schedule cut him down to about two meetings a week. *sigh* Oh well. It's over now so it doesn't matter anymore.

rayofsunshine · 06-02-2009, 08:11 AM

Sending HUGS and prayers ... I remember how hard going through this is...
Put the focus on you and the kids and let God take care of him.

***cmc*** · 06-02-2009, 08:11 AM

I'm sorry to hear that your husband isn't ready to stop yet. When he is ready, nothing will stop him- not an ill sponsor nor anything else -- will get in his way. Hopefully he will get tired of living this way and stop doing this to himself.

This life of loving someone who is active in their addiction or alcoholism can continue in such a destructive downward spiral taking innocent victims along for the ride. The trauma a grief are indescribable- as you already know, I'm sure.

I will pray for him, for you & the kids.

((YDN)))

CAPTAINZING2000 · 06-02-2009, 08:29 AM

Well, I was told, if I can find time to drink or drug, I can find the time for a meeting just as well.

Yesterdaysnumb · 06-02-2009, 08:40 AM

Yeah, I'm okay. Just going through a grieving time right now.

I enrolled back in school today. I'm moving on...It'll be alright.

rayofsunshine · 06-02-2009, 09:41 AM

Not to hijack... but what are you going to school for? I'm thinking of going
back too.....just not sure what I want to be when I grow up! LOL...

MrsMagoo · 06-02-2009, 12:40 PM

I am so sorry! Once upon a time, "I had a beer" would not have been an earth-stopping statement. Now -- it's everything. I hate this for you but I like and I'm encouraged that you have a plan. God has a plan too and this may be part of it. If it is, girl, you have better things waiting for you on the other side of this crushing disappointment.

pdsales · 06-02-2009, 01:21 PM

***cmc*** · 06-02-2009, 04:36 PM

Hello pdsales and welcome to SR. If you like, you might want to introduce yourself by starting up your own thread in this forum. This way more people will see your posts.

jsml1234 · 06-02-2009, 10:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Yesterdaysnumb

I enrolled back in school today. I'm moving on...It'll be alright.

((Hugs)) to you Y.
Strong work on your decision to return to school, I did it and so can you!

CAPTAINZING2000 · 06-03-2009, 08:29 AM

You know, only you and you alone can decide what, you're willing to put up with!!

06-02-2009, 05:16 AM	#1 (permalink)
Yesterdaysnumb Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 321	After almost 60 days... He relapsed. I really don't know what to say. It's raining here today and it's almost prophetic of my day to come. I felt like I got hit by a car when he told me. I smelled it on him when he came to get me from work. I asked him, "were you drinking?" And just as if I asked him what time it was, he said... "I had a beer". And with those four words, my life seemed to stop. I always knew that relapse was a part of recovery. I thought that I'd prepared for this moment. My mouth was moving. I heard myself talking about rehabs, moving, and what we were going to do next... But my heart was asking myself if I were in a dream. __________________ "For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places..." Ephesians 6:12

06-02-2009, 07:10 AM	#3 (permalink)
NeedingHelp7 Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: NY Posts: 1,058	Oh YN.....I hope you feel Gods love envelop you right now. I'm sorry to hear this. __________________ "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you." (Jerem 29:11-12)

06-02-2009, 07:22 AM	#4 (permalink)
CAPTAINZING2000 Psalm 118:24 Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: ILLINOIS Posts: 9,445 Blog Entries: 1	I haven't been keeping up to date with your husband's recovery. Has he got a sponsor? Has he been going to meetings regularly? __________________ LIFE IS GOD'S GIFT TO YOU WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE IS YOUR GIFT TO GOD J - Jesus first O - Others next Y - Yourself last John 14:6

06-02-2009, 08:11 AM	#6 (permalink)
rayofsunshine Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Wishin' I was on the Beach! Posts: 1,416	Sending HUGS and prayers ... I remember how hard going through this is... Put the focus on you and the kids and let God take care of him. __________________ Laugh when you can, apologize when you should, and let go of what you can't change! Never allow someone to be a priority to you when you are just an option to them.........

06-02-2009, 08:11 AM	#7 (permalink)
*cmc* Community Greeter Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: FL Posts: 13,698	I'm sorry to hear that your husband isn't ready to stop yet. When he is ready, nothing will stop him- not an ill sponsor nor anything else -- will get in his way. Hopefully he will get tired of living this way and stop doing this to himself. This life of loving someone who is active in their addiction or alcoholism can continue in such a destructive downward spiral taking innocent victims along for the ride. The trauma a grief are indescribable- as you already know, I'm sure. I will pray for him, for you & the kids. ((YDN))) __________________

06-02-2009, 05:56 AM	#2 (permalink)
Believe808 Miracles Happen Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 9,977	I'm sorry

06-02-2009, 08:29 AM	#8 (permalink)
CAPTAINZING2000 Psalm 118:24 Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: ILLINOIS Posts: 9,445 Blog Entries: 1	Well, I was told, if I can find time to drink or drug, I can find the time for a meeting just as well. __________________ LIFE IS GOD'S GIFT TO YOU WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE IS YOUR GIFT TO GOD J - Jesus first O - Others next Y - Yourself last John 14:6

06-02-2009, 08:40 AM	#9 (permalink)
Yesterdaysnumb Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 321	Yeah, I'm okay. Just going through a grieving time right now. I enrolled back in school today. I'm moving on...It'll be alright. __________________ "For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places..." Ephesians 6:12

06-02-2009, 09:41 AM	#10 (permalink)
rayofsunshine Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Wishin' I was on the Beach! Posts: 1,416	Not to hijack... but what are you going to school for? I'm thinking of going back too.....just not sure what I want to be when I grow up! LOL... __________________ Laugh when you can, apologize when you should, and let go of what you can't change! Never allow someone to be a priority to you when you are just an option to them.........

06-02-2009, 12:40 PM	#11 (permalink)
MrsMagoo Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Wilmington, NC Posts: 933	I am so sorry! Once upon a time, "I had a beer" would not have been an earth-stopping statement. Now -- it's everything. I hate this for you but I like and I'm encouraged that you have a plan. God has a plan too and this may be part of it. If it is, girl, you have better things waiting for you on the other side of this crushing disappointment. __________________ 'When you're down to nothing, God is up to something.'

06-02-2009, 01:21 PM	#12 (permalink)
pdsales Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 3

06-02-2009, 04:36 PM	#13 (permalink)
*cmc* Community Greeter Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: FL Posts: 13,698	Hello pdsales and welcome to SR. If you like, you might want to introduce yourself by starting up your own thread in this forum. This way more people will see your posts. __________________

06-03-2009, 08:29 AM	#15 (permalink)
CAPTAINZING2000 Psalm 118:24 Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: ILLINOIS Posts: 9,445 Blog Entries: 1	You know, only you and you alone can decide what, you're willing to put up with!! __________________ LIFE IS GOD'S GIFT TO YOU WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE IS YOUR GIFT TO GOD J - Jesus first O - Others next Y - Yourself last John 14:6

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