Is Trauma Terminal?

[cmc]

May 6, 2009

by Charles R. Swindoll

Matthew 11:28-30

The definition reflects devastation:

Trauma: An injury (as a wound) to living tissue caused by an extrinsic agent . . . a disordered psychic or behavioral state resulting from mental or emotional stress.

Like potatoes in a pressure cooker, we twenty-first century creatures understand the meaning of stress. A week doesn't pass without a few skirmishes with those "extrinsic agents" that beat upon our fragile frames. They may be as mild as making lunches for our kids before 7:30 in the morning (mild?) or as severe as a collision with another car . . . or another person. Makes no difference. The result is "trauma"---a two-bit word for nervous. You know, the bottom-line reason Valium remains a top seller. Our emotional wounds are often deep. They don't hemorrhage like a stabbing victim's, but they are just as real and just as painful . . . sometimes more.

Years ago, a stress test carried on by Dr. Thomas Holmes and his colleagues concluded that an accumulation of two hundred or more "life change units" in any year may mean more disruption---more trauma---than an individual can stand. On their scale, death of a spouse equals one hundred units, divorce represents seventy-three units . . . and Christmas equals twelve units! That helps explain the idea behind "something snapping" inside certain people when the final straw falls on them. Our capacity for trauma has its limits.

Joseph Bayly could certainly understand. He and his wife lost three of their children---one at eighteen days (after surgery); another at five years (leukemia); a third at eighteen years (sledding accident plus hemophilia). In my wildest imagination, I cannot fathom the depth of their loss. In the backwash of such deep trauma, the Bayly couple stood sometimes strong, sometimes weak, as they watched God place a period before the end of the sentence on three of their children's lives. And their anguish was not relieved when well-meaning people offered shallow, simple answers amidst their grief.

Eyes that read these words might very well be near tears. You are trying to cope without hope. You are stretched dangerously close to the "200-unit" limit . . . and there's no relief on the horizon. You're bleeding and you've run out of bandages. You have moved from mild tension to advanced trauma.

Be careful! You are in the danger zone, emotionally. You're a sitting duck, and the adversary is taking aim with both barrels loaded, hoping to open fire while you are vulnerable. Bam! "Run!" Boom! "Think suicide."

Listen carefully! Jesus Christ opens the gate, gently looks at you and says:

"Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you'll recover your life. I'll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me---watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won't lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you'll learn to live freely and lightly." (Matthew 11:28-30 MSG)

Nothing complicated. No big fanfare, no trip to Mecca, no hypnotic trance, no fee, no special password. Just come. Meaning? Unload. Unhook the pack and drop it in His lap . . . now. Allow Him to take your stress as you take His rest. Does He know what trauma is all about? Remember, He's the One whose sweat became like drops of blood in the agony of Gethsemane. If anybody understands trauma, He does. Completely.

His provision is profound, attainable, and right. He's a master at turning devastation into restoration.

Look again at His invitation in Matthew 11:28-30, and accept it with all your heart.









Excerpted from Come Before Winter and Share My Hope, Copyright © 1985, 1994 by Charles R. Swindoll, Inc.

[rayofsunshine]

Thank you, CMC. You know, I have a lot of stress factors in my life right now.
STBexAH has been gone almost 7 months... calling every once in awhile... but
basically MIA, no support for the kids, no seeing the kids... just lost in addiction.

Stole everything of value from the basement, including kids motorcycle & fishing rods.
Learned this weekend that a couple weeks ago, the heath dept condemned the drug dealers trailer he was staying at (with no power) and they tore it down. So I guess he is homeless. The car he was driving is broke down. (Thank you Lord!) Several months have went by with nothing stolen, but sometime in the past few days, one of the kids bikes we keep on the front porch is missing. (There was 2, the other is still there.)

My son is on the verge of failing school, was depressed with suicidal thoughts, been dealing with taking him to a therapist several times a week, etc (He's on medication now and doing good. Thank you Lord!)

Learned a few weeks ago,the company I work for is closing soon. I've already been looking at selling my house because I'm struggling with payments on just my salary. Thought my neighbor wanted to buy it cause he told me in the past to let him know 1st if I ever wanted to sell before I contact a real estate agent. Upon talking to him, he basically wants it give to him around what I owe. Now, I'm looking at fixing it up some, and putting on the market. I've got decent equity and need a profit so I can move forward.

In the meantime, my parents were in a bad auto wreck a couple weeks ago, the Lord was with them, cause they walked away with barely a scratch. My sister couldn't understand why I said "No" when she wanted me to go see the car.

I just couldn't take one more thing at that moment.

Thanks, CMC. I love this part of your post... I just prayed for this.

Allow Him to take your stress as you take His rest.

[cmc]

Originally Posted by rayofsunshine

Thanks, CMC. I love this part of your post... I just prayed for this.

Allow Him to take your stress as you take His rest.

(((((ray)))))
:praying

Ray, you cut right to the heart of it. I definitely can relate to this thread too.
I'm praying for some relief from the stress I am out of control over and for guidance from God relating the rest of it.
That relief can range from removal of the problem to me being able to surrender it without trying to take back control.
I'll be praying for you, the kids, AH and all that's going on with you right now and appreciate your prayers as well! I haven't stopped by our old "Loved Ones.." thread lately but remember all the good support and ESH there.

[IO Storm]

:praying:

For you both..my sisters.