Struggling.

[layne]

I have a question.. new here.. I was wondering if someone with almost 3 years of sobriety.. good sobriety.. gets curious and takes a hit off of a joint.. freakin hates the feeling.. has no desire to do it again.. Seriously begins looking at the reality of where her relationship with God is to cause this to happen.. and steps up the meditation.. does this constitute a relapse?? new date.. etc..??

[cmc]

Welcome to SR. I don't have personal experience to share with you but there are several other forums here on SR where you will find plenty of people who will respond to your post.

here's a good place to start:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/substance-abuse/

[Stubborn1]

God gave us all what he calls "free will". He may have made the plant and according to the bible may have even smoked it. I personally do not smoke pot.

So it's up to you to practice free will he gave you. He hasn't let you down. He loves you enough to give you the right to make your own choices. You are his child and he knows that you have to make your own lessons.
I hope that answered your question.

[StarKist]

Exercise the "D" word...

D-I-S-C-I-P-L-I-N-E

You will be rewarded greatly first thing in the morning.

[Dean62]

It's a good thing you have no desire to use and you are clean and sober today. For me it's about quality. You have had three years of good sobriety. Weather you start with a new date or not does it really have an efect on you sobriety today? If you never drink or use again does it matter how many days you have been clean and sober?

The real important thing here is staying close to God. The other stuff isn't so important IMO.

[Jazzed_N_AZ]

Do I qualify? I have no idea for this forum.

I do not claim to be Christian yet I know Jesus walked.

I have never taken just one hit off a joint unless that's all there was. I am an addict, "one is too many and a thousand never enough". Every time I used, I had to change my date,(months even years later) when I returned to the rooms of recovery.

God always has done for me what I could not do for myself. He has also strengthened me to do better when all I could do is survive, (the situation).

I guess my opinion is that recovery is personal and the program is written. Only you can decide what your choice is. All I know is that for me, to surrender, was to end the struggle.

[best]

You run into people who count days as being more important.
You can find people who look at attitude as being more important.

Not using is what is more important.

I would look at it as a lesson learned and not worry so much about days counted.
What did you learn?
How can you stop it from happening again?

Lord I have a problem.
I can't always control the problem.
Help me daily.

[tennis71]

"To Thine Own Self Be True"

I don't think it really matters what anyone else thinks. I have heard different opinions on relapse if it wasn't your drug of choice but the over all decision is yours.

Your sobriety date is just that, your date. No one can change it and no one can tell you what it should be. That is where you need to be honest with yourself and with God.

Hopefully that is enough for you to answer the question on your own.

No matter what, take it a day at a time and keep moving forward in your sobriety.

By the way, if the post was not about you personally, just substitute the other persons name where appropriate.