these little steps toward grace

[kerinj]

we have to remember these things......
we are children of God, living on planet Earth. We don't learn to fly by skipping steps.
we are guided and led.
we don't have to be anything we're not.

we see the lesson in everything we have gone through, suffered through, endured. we see that we have gone through it simply to get to that lesson. we took as much time as we needed. we have been cracking though all the barriers and breaking down the hardened wall around our hearts and souls. we spent so much of our lives building up this wall, convincing ourselves it was necessary and safe. now we can laugh at ourselves- seeing that as much time as we spent building that wall we now need to spend tearing it down.
safety is not having any wall between our heart and spirit.
safety is being free.
(melody beattie)

[Dean62]

Originally Posted by kerinj

safety is not having any wall between our heart and spirit.
(melody beattie)

Thank you for the beautiful quote. This one is just screaming to be shared.

[BUTTERFLY-7]

that was so Beautiful sometimes I have to
remind my self about that cause this little Bird
once was lost and with Broken Wings that for
no one to hurt me ever again I putt those walls and
barriers to not let no one in but I like the part in were
you said safety is not having any walls between our heart
but that safety is Been Free my Question? is the following


How do I get to that place of been safe but free at the
same time

[kerinj]

i think sometimes we just have to let ourselves be vulnerable to get hurt and dissapointed- nomatter how much we don't want to take that chance; and no matter how scared we are of it- because if we never open ourselves up to it we will never know what blessings we might recieve. it is not always hurt and sometimes we just have to take that chance. i think that is really being free- although it is a really hard thing to do.

i read this today and it really struck me-
"there are three things that we must come to terms with in our deep heart. first, we must have life. second, we cannot arrange for it. third, it is on it's way. life is a battle and a journey." (John Eldredge)
i really like that because to me that means that we just have to live life and have faith- it says we can't "arrange" for it. we can't plan every thing out because things happen beyond our control. i like the quote by john lennon "life is what happens to us while we are busy making other plans." life happens whether we are ready for it or not. we have to open ourselves up to recieve blessings and try not to hide so much from them. i am the worste; seems i am always worried about something or another- but i am trying to let myself be free from those worries. God has shown me nothing but love and i owe Him my trust.
God bless everybody and have a great day!!!!!

[Dean62]

Originally Posted by BUTTERFLY-7

How do I get to that place of been safe but free at the same time

We open our Hearts to Jesus now, today. We let Him in our Home and then He takes our hands and leads us Home to our Father in Heaven.

To let Christ in is to know freedom from fear. Joy, Peace, Love, His great gifts. Follow Him to find all three. He wants you to feel the thrill of protection and safety Now.

The 12 steps are about removing the walls between our heart and spirit. That is the difference between not drinking and recovery.

[BUTTERFLY-7]

Originally Posted by Dean62

We open our Hearts to Jesus now, today. We let Him in our Home and then He takes our hands and leads us Home to our Father in Heaven.

To let Christ in is to know freedom from fear. Joy, Peace, Love, His great gifts. Follow Him to find all three. He wants you to feel the thrill of protection and safety Now.

The 12 steps are about removing the walls between our heart and spirit. That is the difference between not drinking and recovery.

I understand all that and believe me I'm grateful for
taking the time to reply I just don't know how to
handle Pain I'm very sensitive very, sensitive ,
my point is that I use to trust in people specially church folks, and that's were my disappointment came about
I could understand the people that don't have the
Love of God, or his knowledge,but people that
suppose to guide you to eternity,Man I just can't
understand that I been hurt allot by this Disease
as it is, and people in the world, and family members,
and the Body of Christ too, I'mis too much
to handle, or bare with, I need healing not more Pain

thats why I put them walls, I find it hard to trust in anything that moves,cause just when I'm getting
ready to trust, and open up Bum! I ended up getting
betrayed or back stabbed,or Hurt.

[Dean62]

Hi Butterfly. There are many posts I don't respond to because I only know what has worked for me and of course what didn't work for me. I don't have all the answers I was just trying to help with the one question.

So if you would like I can try and help by sharing what I know works for me. First though just let me tell you I am also way to sensitive for my own good. It's ridiculous. Last week I went into a major depression because I took something way to personal, something that others just shrug off. Just like you getting depressed because people were not responding to your posts......I'm that way too butterfly. I prayed and the depression lifted. Depression in the past usually lasted longer then just a day and a half. Butterfly I am 45 and have spent my life turning to alcohol to solve my problems. It has only been in the last 2 years that I started turning to God.

You say your point is you don't trust in people. We have established that we are too sensitive and are easily hurt by other people. I'm not talking about other people. I'm talking about my heart, my spirit, my connection to God and the walls I put up to block that connection. I don't blame other people for the walls I have put up blocking the spirit of light from me.

The walls between heart and spirit are self, pride, ego, fear. Remove the walls between heart and spirit (self) and find freedom in the will of God. You admit to putting them up yourself. It is our self imposed prison walls that keep us from freedom. Remove the walls and let God love you.

I also want healing not more pain. Living in the spirit, living Gods' will for me is healing. Putting God first is freedom on a spiritual level. Things of this world, people, bring me pain. Living in this world alone without God is very painful for me. Thats why I had to numb myself with alcohol and pills for so many years.

First things first Butterfly. If you want to heal stay close to God.

Thats how it works for me.

[BUTTERFLY-7]

so my Question is how do I over come Pain if I take
them walls People are going to hurt me I ratter be safe than
sorry

[cmc]

Butterfly, walls keep people out- maybe if you think of making a boundary between yourself and others that would be similar to a fence you can judge by their actions whether to let them into your life. If they are not worthy of your trust you won't know until you try to get to know them first.

I get to decide if and when I will let someone into my life. Keeping everybody out doesn't do me or anyone else any good. Sure, there is a risk involved but I can choose if and when to give my trust.

Alanon is a good place to learn about setting proper boundaries.

[BUTTERFLY-7]

you are right cmc