Horrible afternoon

[Lily]

Hi All,

today I had a horrible afternoon and could use some prayer. We own a dairy farm and a guy whom I'll call John is renting from us. John milks 65 head and recently hired a guy (Steve) to help him. Well, this guy(Steve) was just arrested for sexual assault on someone younger than 13 and when I looked at his arrest record I found out he (Steve) is a repeat offender and a registered sex offender. After talking w/ my husband about this I told the guy(John) who is renting from us we do not want him (Steve) on our property anymore. Then my husband told me that he learned this guy (Steve) is also a peeping tom and was peeping on a woman down our street.

So the facts are this: my husband works 2nd shift, he is gone 3-12PM daily. I do not want a repeat sexual offender on my property, not to mention I have a 5 yr old.

So....the renter (John) told me I was being judgemental and not loving. He used a bunch of scripture to back up why we need to love. I then told him yes, we need to love the sinner but hate the sin, but I still wouldn't want an ex-bank robber to manage my finances.

So, he basically gave us a 6 month notice. I think he was being stubborn. I called my pastor and he 100% agreed with me on this.

What do you guys think?

Thanks, Sheila

[cmc]

Using good judgement is not the same thing as being judgemental. I hope things will all work out for you to find a replacement for John's position.

In the meantime we can all pray for your safety and peace of mind.

Thank God nothing bad has happened to you or your child....it's good to have things out in the open so you can stay safe.

[CarolD]

You most definately made the right decision on Steve.
Perhaps John will simmer down before the deadline.

Prayers for you and your family John and his.

[Katecan]

In agreement with cmc and Carol.

Prayers on there way up.

[best]

I think you need to bypass John and place a no trespassing order with the police against steve. Where John doesn't agree with your wishes, you need protect yourself. Don't count on him to do it for you.

[sayaprayer]

stick to what you feel is best, remember that god intercedes in places that we often need to. you are not being judgementel not at all. at the end of the day you are looking out for your family and that is part of gods great grace, decerment. hold on sister, do not be discouraged. blessings to you and your family.

[Lily]

Thanks you guys for all of the support. When hubby came home last night from work he had flowers. (it was our 6 yr anniversary meeting face to face, we met on a Christian website after having both been widowed) Anyway, he told me if our farm renter pulls out it is not the worst thing in the world and not to worry about it and that we are doing the right thing. :-) I am going to call today to find out how we can legally handle this as well, as last night I found him on the WI sex offenders website.

love and blessings to you all! Sheila

[katie44]

You definitely made the right decision! I would not have this sexual offender on my property. Very sick man particulllary with a 5 year old on the premises. Thank goodness you found out. You will find another farmer. Some things are just meant to be.

[BUTTERFLY-7]

[sugarssweetpea]

I agree with all the rest. I have been clean from drugs and alcohol for 7/6 years respectively, & am a Christ follower, but no way would I expect anyone to put me in charge of drugs and or alcohol for any period of time. It is just being cautious & protecting your own. Being wise with what God has given you.

[Lily]

Today I was very bummed. I found out that the guys first sexual case was his 10 yr old neighbor boy. This happended in 1999. This was a repeated offense of the little boy. It was plead down to a 3rd degree so the little boy could avoid testifying in court. The latest case of this guy was his girlfriends daughter who is 14 yrs old. My husband & I were appauled.

The guy that milks here his heard has still not spoken to us. My husband & I have not gone out there to speak w/ him. They have a tenative meeting set up for next Saturday. I am just feeling sad about the information I learned.

I am also sad about the fact that there is a break in what has been a great working relationship w/ our renter guy for 3 years and now he wants to pull his boys out of our AWANA program.

The guy has a hearing on May 13th at 3:00PM.

Anyway....that is what the happenings are.

Pray I wouldn't obsess on this anymore tonight.

Sheila

[best]

Originally Posted by Sheila77

and now he wants to pull his boys out of our AWANA program.

and I can hear him now... WWJD and using mixed logic to justify his actions of pulling the boys out.
A repentive person (someone that turns from their evil ways) would be welcomed back into the fold.
Repentive a repetative are not the same words.
Prayers that John sees the truth in this as well as prayers for peace in your spirit.

[Lily]

Well, what a difference a day makes!

This morning my husband and my son went outside to plant some blue spruce trees and John was out there, so they made small talk. John was just bringing a cute little calf out of the barn.

So I went out and decided to apologize to him for the way I had talked to him. He told me he is the one who should be apologizing for not respecting our decision. So we talked, and he agreed that steve should not be on our property, then I did tell him what the sex offender site manager told me about the 10 yr old boy and he was shocked. He had no idea because this guy was trying to lead everyone to believe it was a situation where he was 18 and his girlfriend was 17 and that is a totally different catagory and situation all together.

So thank you SOOO much for your prayers. I am no longer bummed, I am relieved.

My girlfriend Katie who was just diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer on March 8th though did meet JESUS early this morning. She is home. She was a true woman of faith and a fighter and very loving toward her family. Her husband Jake and children Jake Jr. 8 months and 2 little girls 4 & 6 will miss her greatly.

Lastly ~ tonight when our teams went out sharing the gospel, 5 ppl made professions of faith and trusted in Christ alone as their savior. The 2 whom we had the awesome privilege to pray with were Nick and Youa. Please pray these 2 ppl would read the word and grow in their faith and find a good bible believing church.

have a great night. Thanks again. Sheila