Should I go....

[NeedingHelp7]

I belong to a christian recovery group, but stopped going because my husband goes. We are separated. Now I miss it, wonder if I should go anyway. My little one misses it too, the singing, playing with the other children, etc...

NH

[IO Storm]

Check your motivations for going to the same group. You need to go for yourself first

and foremost. I do not know the cause for the separation. Seek godly counsel about

this quick and then get into a good group for yourself and your little kids.

:

Love,

IO

[best]

If dad is acting correctly and is able to see the children, there would be an interaction between the two of you no matter what group you each go to.
You both need the freedom to express your needs in a group but you both need to get along because of the children as well.
If the group splits up so you can have your freedom of expression without him being there (away in another group) I would say that you both could grow in other areas by learning to be in the same room together.
Set boundaries for yourself if you go to the same group would be a good idea.

Only you can make the choice. It can work with boundaries and the group splitting into smaller groups or a lot of patience and understanding from you both.
Just don't forgo the support of a group. If need be...seek another if you feel that is the better choice.

[cmc]

Will you be able to express yourself freely if he is there?
Will your child feel confused at seeing you together going to church and then going your separate ways afterwards? That could be alot for a little one to deal with.

I'm not sure what type of recovery you are using but in my situation, happily married with a son and spouse as qualifiers--I would not want them there for my home group meeting. I have on many occasions attended open AA and NA meetings but only when welcome by the other person.



You said you stopped because he goes there....that tells me that _you_ are or were uncomfortable going- maybe you have answered your own question.

[angelgirl]

Hello NH..

I agree with Best. If the group is split into smaller groups, ( even if it's not in the beginning), then I would go for it. Love and support in your life, and your child/childrens life is very important at a time like this.

But I also agree that if it is not possible for you to go back for whatever reason, please reach out, and seek a new recovery group.

Prayers,
Becky

[CAPTAINZING2000]

Why Shouldn't You Go??

[NeedingHelp7]

Thankyou friends,

A few months ago I had stopped going to this group because I was feeling uncomfortable as to where my AH and I were going in our marriage. The groups do seperate into 2, women and men, making it more comfortable to express myself.
It's a Celebrate Recovery group.

Will your child feel confused at seeing you together going to church and then going your separate ways afterwards? That could be alot for a little one to deal with.

This is what concerned me also, but he spends most of the time in the play room.
We have been living seperate for over a year now, saying goodbye at the end of a visit is at times difficult on us all.

Love and support in your life, and your child/childrens life is very important at a time like this.

I agree angelgirl. Thankyou for the hug.

Why Shouldn't You Go??

Thats a good question Captain.



NH

[best]

Originally Posted by NeedingHelp7

A few months ago I had stopped going to this group because I was feeling uncomfortable as to where my AH and I were going in our marriage.

Just so you know what the Lord can do and has done...

I was separated for a little over 2 years. The Lord worked on my heart and changed me and I started to find a solid recovery. We got back together the month before our 25th and celebrated our 25th together. The past 7 + years have been the best of all 32.


Best<<< Jesus inside<<< made all the difference.

[NeedingHelp7]

Congratulations best!!! It's so wonderful to hear that!! I keep being told to think about the positive!!

Happy 32!!

Please pray for us,
NH