Anxiety

[sugarssweetpea]

I am up late tonight b/c I am having some anxiety over something that happened this afternoon. My almost 3 yr old fell into the pond today. I was pulling weeds by the dock & they (my 4 & 2 yr olds) were sitting at the edge of the water playing. I could see them. I was keeping an eye on them. A small bucket they were playing with went into the pond. I heard one of them say something about it. I looked up & saw my son stand up & lean forward to try to grab it. I yelled J..... NO!!! And in he went. I ran across the beach & into the water & got him out. The first thing he did was cry for me to get the toys. By that time, both of the toys were in the pond. I let my flip flops go off my feet & he grabbed one & was freaking out about me getting the other one. We got out of the pond & went onto the dock to pray. My 4 yr old was crying at this point as well. He said that he thought J was going to sink. I cannot get the image out of my head. Lots of anxiety over it. We prayed & I am very grateful to God that my son is still here with me. It is just really scary. My 4 yr old is having a hard time getting the image out of his head as well. He told my husband that the thing that upset him the most was seeing J's eyes. He could see the fear in them. The image of him floating in the water is so hard to get out of my head.

[serenityqueen]

I cannot imagine how truly horrifying that was for you.

I have a 19 year old son and at times when I would hear something like this happening that ended tragically, I would think to myself how truly Blessed I am to have him in my life. There was just a story on the news about four young men about my son's age who were tragically killed in a car accident over the weekend. I could let myself run with this in my mind and be so fearful everytime he got into his car or anyone elses car. But I can't obsess about something that I have absolutely no control over. I have to give it to God.

I wish I had some words of wisdom or comforting saying that I could share right now to help you and your sons.

Just continue to thank God that they are here with you. Do your best to protect them from harm and remember this . . . Everything happens according to God's Plan.

I will Pray for you and your Family tonight.

God Bless & Thank God . . . Just for Today,
Judy

[cmc]

I'm so glad that your son is safe. Even when young children know how to swim they still are too immature to use proper judgement. I bet that an adult could have just as easily fallen in by reaching out for something in the water too.
Can your kids swim? My oldest learned at the same time as their younger brother who was 1 1/2 years old at that time. There are videos for children about how to stay safe around water.
Again...I am so glad to hear that things turned out okay.

[best]

Let the little one know that Jesus was watching over them both and then let him know that how you heard him talking is what God used to get you there as needed.

With my 4.. I can only say that it has been the Lord watching over them that has kept them safe. My own actions as a child... Only by God's grace am I here today as well.

Jesus keeps watch and protects us all.

[sugarssweetpea]

I prayed & thanked God for watching over them. I also talked to them later & told them that Jesus was there with us. Jesus helped him hold his breath & not get any water in his lungs & Jesus helped me to get to him fast.

They do not know how to swim. My 4 yr old can go in a pool with floaties by himself, but not the 2 yr old. I never let them in the pond deeper than their ankles. The level is down now & it gets deep fast. I talked to him about not ever reaching out & trying to save a toy. I told him if a toy ever goes in there again, to just let it go, we could go to Wal Mart & get a new one, but we could not go to Wal Mart & get a new him. I really do not think that he is going to want to go near the pond for awhile. I am going to focus on getting them places to teach them to swim. I want to get one of those metal frame above ground pools they have at Wal Mart or Toys R Us for like $400. It's just getting the $400. Have to figure something else out until then. I have a couple of friends with pools, but hate to impose all the time. We'll see. Maybe the Y.

Thank you guys for all of your prayers.

[sugarssweetpea]

My 4 yr old told me this morning that he still could not stop thinking about J in the pond. I told him that every time he thinks about it he needs to thank God that he is still with us. I told him that I cannot stop thinking about it either & that is what I do. He said that he could have jumped in after him & grabbed him by the shirt & got him out. I asked him if that was what was bothering him, that he did not jump in. He said yes. I told him that he did the right thing staying where he was & NOT jumping in b/c he has only been in the water with floaties & that he does not know how to swim & if he would have jumped in, then I would have had to rescue both of them. I think he is feeling better now. He seems like it. They are playing well together this morning.

[best]

I would say you did right in handling that one.
Even Paramedics have rules they must follow to keep themself safe.
Your son did the right thing. Good job.

[Lily]

Praise GOD they are all okay. when my son was 5 months old he lept out of my arms into a freezing cold pool... it is just scary all the way around. I am just so thankful it turned out okay for them all, they are all okay, just a bit shakin' up...

Cast all your cares on HIM for he cares for you! You are a good mom and don't let the devil beat you up and also remember not to "fix" too much on what could have happened....think about whatever is lovely, whatever is true, pure, of good rapport etc.... noble....think on these things. blessings, Sheila

[dave47]

Glad you were on hand Sugar, you both did the right thing and are obviously a very caring mother.

[rubycanoe]

something similar happened to me but it was several years ago and with my brother. our family was at another families cottage on a lake. I think all the parents were drinking or partying, and all of the other kids had wandered off. I was about 9 and my brother was about 2. all of a sudden I see him floating face down in the water!! I raced to him and grabbed and thank God it was only for a second and he was fine. But I was so scared and shy I don't think I ever told my family about it. I am so grateful that he is okay, and yes it is traumatic, but it was an accident. Maybe the kids can have life jackets on if they are near the pond/dock? prayers and hugs