Confused Christian

[mama3]

I so want to do what God wants me to do, I am a Christian, but I am so tired. I am almost to the point that I am numb and really have a 'don't care anymore' outlook. I feel guilty about feeling this way.
I get confused about staying or leaving my "A". I get different messages it seems from different people. The way I interpet the Bible, God does not want me to be abused but the unbeliever has to be the one to call it quits (?)

[best]

Ghandi would say stay and take the abuse.

The Lord says do what is right and good.
Staying if the abuse is physical is not right and good.
Ghandi is but a man... God is God.

I would rather listen to God.

Your thoughts on the unbeliever calling it quits is a situation that is way down the road (if it ever reaches that point) If a time comes to deal with that, deal with it at that time.
Just for today, deal with what is before you today.
Physical abuse... get out and get safe.
Emotional abuse... get to Anon meetings and gather up the tools that help us deal with such in the best way possible.

[cmc]

Here are a couple of things you have said in another forum:

He continues to make me "pay" for having him arrested.

You didn't 'have him' arrested. He got himself arrested.
You've separated once, and are giving it another chance. Do you think his words and/or actions, now that you have allowed him back into your life, are appropriate, kind or loving? Are these actions revealing anything more than he is treating you the same or worse now that he is back? There is nothing in the bible that I have ever read that says a married woman or a man must endure abuse.

I swore I would never marry someone who drank and I have done it more than once!!!
Sometimes I think I am "more sick" than they are.

There came a time in my life when I realized that _I_ had issues with codependency and not placing a proper value on my safety and serenity. I simply wasn't taking care of the things that God had entrusted me with.

Counseling, Alanon and coming to places like SR offered me a way to live a life of peace. It doesn't happen overnight but it can happen. I believe that God has a plan for me, and I believe it's a good plan. I believe He has a good plan for you too.

Best is right about taking care of immediate needs first. Emotional abuse can often lead to physical abuse and in itself causes harm in many ways.

I hope you will continue to read and post here and on the other forums at SR too. There are many people who have lived through (or are still) the same as you are now.

Please read the sticky threads in the Friends & Family section about abuse, I think you will find it very helpful.

I'm glad you stopped by and hope you will continue to visit.

God bless you.

[mama3]

Thanks guys....you are great!!!