changing my thinking

[jumpin jack]

I have been clean + sober for almost 10 years but my actions do not show that sometimes. I say things that get me in trouble.I say things too quickly without thinking that I might be offensive.I put this under christians in recovery but I'm not sure I qualify as a christian. Anyone have any e. s. h. on changing their thinking so they do not say mean things anymore? I hope some day to be a christian.

[best]

Originally Posted by jumpin jack

I hope some day to be a christian.

Do you accept Jesus as the Lord and Savior of your life? If yes...you are a Christian.

By reading the bible I learned where I had errors in the way I was doing things.

What I like about the 12 steps used in AA... they make for a nice listing of tools that help us grow. Take the tools of the 12 steps and the lessons found in the bible...along with prayer and we can start on a path of growth.

Psalm 139: 23 Search me, O God, and know my heart;
test me and know my anxious thoughts.

24 See if there is any offensive way in me,
and lead me in the way everlasting.


Makes for a good start and ending of every day.

When we start each day asking for His guidance and end each day reflecting on things that we did and look for areas that we see a need to improve... we then ask... Lord...Search my heart and help me see what I do not see or know of.

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I was taking anothers inventory and wrote a poem.
What I should have done was used the steps and worked through things. I did end up doing so because God opened my eyes along the way.
I wrote the poem. I did the proof read. I corrected my spelling and read it again and again. Upon reading it one of the times, it was like God placed a mirror in front of me and asked me who was in the mirror as I was reading.
The words of the poem still guide me to this day when I think on them ...now 9 years later.

Though I say I am a Christian
My actions had people say...

Who cares

The only inventory I should be taking is my own and when I do...I find growth.

Just from what you posted... You are doing what needs be done.
Seek and you shall find is what is writen

[rayofsunshine]

Welcome JumpinJack... read this today and thought it might be helpful to you.
May God Bless you as you continue to work on you!

If you realize that your tongue is out of control, seek God's forgiveness and allow Him to change the attitude of your heart and your mouth, so they will be pleasing to Him.

“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, 0 LORD, my strength and my Redeemer” (Psa. 19:14).

[jumpin jack]

thank you best and rayofsunshine !!

[cmc]

jumpin jack,
Nothing to add here but a warm welcome to the forum and that I hope you will continue to visit! Congrats on the ten years!!

[namommy]

I struggled with my mouth. I shot it off so quickly and not thinking about how harsh I was sounding.

Someone pointed out to me that not only were my words harsh, my tone was harsh and I am somewhat intimidating. I am tall 5'10" and have a large frame. I carry myself straight which makes me seem even bigger. I have a way about me that seems 'tough'. And people take me the wrong way. I had to be very mindful of how I approached things.

recently, I asked God to help me with the little things, and one of those things was my mouth. I asked God to give me a little 'nudge' when something was about to shoot out of my mouth that shouldn't. I joked that I was starting to bruise.

I've learned to stop. Pause. Say a quick "God, please help me out here." then think before I open my mouth. It's working.

People used to say "Laurie's such a b*tch, don't get in her way, she'll get right in your face." Just tonite, someone came up to me to talk to me about the house. She said that she's really glad that the house is going so well, and alot of people are saying how nice I am and how helpful I have been. I can't believe the transformation. It took time, patience, and persistent prayer.

Hope this helps.