anger at God??

[chero]

I want to ask you guys a question. Yesterday during my counselling session(with christian counselor) it came flooding out of me about being angry at God for a lot of stuff. It was so strange. I didn't even know how deep my anger went. But I was immediately angry at a question she asked me.

So, today, I've been thinking about it-alot. I know it can't be right to be mad at God; nor does it make any sense-I mean He's God. But, how do you get past it?

I mean really get over it? I don't want to be angry at God but I don't want to stuff it all inside and pretend until I'm ready to blow up again. You know??

Any advice?

[cmc]

Chero,
I'm not proud to say that I've been there, done that. I never set out to purposefully be angry at God but when some bad things happened- that I knew He could have prevented or fixed....I lost my faith. I didn't leave my faith, but just had to re-adjust.

The scripture has alot of promises in it... and I had singled out all the ones that "I" liked! There are also some promises of having trouble in this life and that we are to endure and overcome them.

All I can tell you is that I do my best to make my heart right with God. One of the worst things that I can do to -myself- is to hold a resentment agains anybody...even against God. It breaks my fellowship with Him and I miss out. I happen to believe that He understands it when we are sad and/or disappointed, struggling with things that don't make sense.

If I follow the bible's instructions, I will repent of my sin...if I am choosing to sin. I can then just do my best to have a good and thankful heart and trust Him.
One more thing that I had to resolve and that was I _do_ believe the God is good all the time...and it's me with the problem- not Him.

In other words...I am His problem and He can take care of me whether I'm mad at Him or not- His love and forgiveness of my humanity are infallible.

[best]

Ask Job

I don't think he was all of to happy when he said... Would have been better if I wasn't born.

His complaining goes on but even in his complaining, he still fully understands who God is and knows where he stands in relation to his salvation.

Job23:
3 If only I knew where to find him;
if only I could go to his dwelling!

4 I would state my case before him
and fill my mouth with arguments.

5 I would find out what he would answer me,
and consider what he would say.

6 Would he oppose me with great power?
No, he would not press charges against me.

7 There an upright man could present his case before him,
and I would be delivered forever from my judge.

8 "But if I go to the east, he is not there;
if I go to the west, I do not find him.

9 When he is at work in the north, I do not see him;
when he turns to the south, I catch no glimpse of him.

10 But he knows the way that I take;
when he has tested me, I will come forth as gold.
Two things... God is big enough to handle our human behaviors and the more important ...
With Jesus as our salvation... we will come forth as gold.


In my life if I look back and think.... Why did You let this happen Lord?
Every area that I could try to ask such of has the same answer for me...
I am stubborn, pigheaded, and opinionated... everything I went through was of my own doing or an area that I needed to learn something from. In the end result I find the answers for "me". If I had to live Job's life...I wouldn't like it one bit but I am sure we will all like the end result when we are brought to the Lord's side up in heaven one day.

[shockozulu]

Great post and scripture Best. Thanks.

I get mad at God. I have to remember that although God is not human, I am and I have human feelings. I then actually confront God, just like they did in the OT. It really helps me to 'see' where God is coming from and my anger is starting to get out of my system.

I also always remember that God loves me, and is looking out for me, angry or not.

[caileesnana]

I have been mad at God too, alot of times. Once I was screaming at Him. I believe He knows my hurt and pain and knew why I was angry, and loves me anyway. I am His child.

[splendra]

One thing about being angry with God is that it keeps your mind on God...

[Nuudawn]

I read something somewhere that stated something along the lines of...

I have a very intimate relationship with God...I get angry at him..and he forgives me.
I found great peace in that.

[GlassPrisoner]

You beat me to it best. Yeah. Job was pretty p***d off at God.

I can't remember even beng mad at God. It was mostly the Ex, the Boss, life in general, but not God.

[Cynay]

Ahhhh sweetie... why not get mad with God.

I think of God alot like I think of my father.... but God is perfect... Im not.

But my Father loved me no matter what, he tried to show me right from wrong and I did not always listen, he actually spanked me a couple times in my life.... what I had the hardest time with is when I disapointed him... Now that one hurt because I was a daddys girl.

Im also a Gods Girl... he is also my father and even though he is perfect he knows that I can not be.... maybe he spanks me here or there to show me... but never, not once was anything I have gone through not done with love for me. Im a Mom and I can tell you hurts like heck when my daughter makes a mistake and hurts.... but I still dont enable her in the mistake.

[Nuudawn]

For me... I think God was the only spirit I felt safe being angry with... I knew He/She wouldn't abandon me. That being said... my relationship with God when I was still drinking was extremely egotistical and petulant. I was angry with Him for not imposing MY will. Kinda silly in hindsight. I was not willing to take responsibility for my mess of a life... God was my scapegoat. I have evolved a great deal since then... and I have surrendered...BUT I'm also human and I STILL get upset with God from time to time ... until I work through what I'm not instantly seeing.

[namommy]

I have very close relationships with family and friends, and I get angry with them, and I can tell them I am angry without fear of them abandoning me.

I have to have a relationship with God that is better than any relationship here on earth, so I can have faith that if I get angry with God, he won't abandon me either.

I was once told, that God doesn't care how we come to him, as long as we come.

I've gone to God yelling and screaming and telling him how angry I was at him. What I got in return was a better understanding of the situation that made me angry. Once I understood, I apologized for getting mad and yelling, and made peace with God.

The greatest men in the Bible got angry with God at one point or another. Moses, Job, Noah, even Jesus. It's because we are human and don't understand the big picture.

[chero]

I don't know what is wrong with me today. I guess I need to get alone with God and just admit to Him that I'm MAD! I know he knows but UGH! Oh, I don't know.

I know I shouldn't be mad at him but it seems like I keep coming back to this same spot. Angry at God. So apparently I'm not doing something right...like letting it go, I guess?!

I just feel like I'm in such turmoil yesterday and today. I hate where my life is right now. I just never wanted to be where I am. I know everyone has moments like this but I can't seem to get past it. I'm mad. I feel let down and hurt again and again and again. I'm just so mad!

UGH!

[rayofsunshine]

Praying for peace for you, Chero. Hope you're feeling a little better today.

[best]

Originally Posted by chero

I'm mad. I feel let down and hurt again and again and again. I'm just so mad!

UGH!

When I get such feelings it is caused by one of two things.

I expect others to do something and they don't
or
I did something that I later realize I would have been better off thinking before I acted.

In neither case can I blame God.
In both cases I can blame myself.
When we expect others to do things and you add in addictions... most every time we are setting ourself up for disappointments.
What can we do about it? Learn from the past and don't make the same mistake twice.
With what you have been through for the past month, your feelings are real and normal. You are in a sad time of growth.... a mourning of sorts. The up side...it is a growth and things will get better.

So when I am mad at self... I learn and grow from my past mistakes
When I am mad at others... I seek to find forgiveness and leave them in God's hands.
When such things are a struggle to do... I ask of God... Help me.

The steps of recovery work well here.
I have a problem.
I can't control or change what is.
Lord help me where needed.

[GlassPrisoner]

Again Best, you took the words out of my mouth.

Chero, you have to look at your part in all of these situations. Very rarely, if ever, are we truely victimized.

And, as Best pointed out, when we're upset it's usually because we didn't get our way. Our will for us didn't give us the results we wanted.

Every morning I say the Serenity prayer, the 3rd step prayer, and the 7th step prayer to remind me of these facts.