I have been gone for a little while..

[angelgirl]

Hi everyone.

I haven't been around as much lately, as things have been really tough around here. It has been hard for me to get into this, but I really need support, and my family needs prayers. I really needed to come, I feel like
my life is caving in around me today/night. It has been a very hard, long couple weeks. I feel emotionally drained, and physically sick.

This is a very, very long story, but I will fill you in on some of it, so you understand a bit of why I feel like I do. I can't remember if I have talked
about this at all here or not? But that's ok.

My 13 yr old daughter and 2 of her friends, got mixed up with a guy that is 26 through one of these friends much older sister. This friend of my daughter is 14 and her sister is 28. Her sister is (was) married, and has kids. But she was having an affair, and she introduced this guy ( the 26 yr old guy I just spoke of above), she was having an affair with, to these 3 girls, ( my daughters and her friends) so she could use them as her "aliby" so her husband wouldn't know, he just thought this girl was meeting her little sister, and her friends, ( my daughters and her friends), mean while this 26 year old guy was what authorities tell me is "grooming" these girls, for what he was about to do to them, ( because that is what sexual predators do), so they tell me. He was then doing "bad" things with all three of these girls, or attempting to do "bad' things.

Well it all exploded, and I found out what was going on, through threatening my daughter that if she didn't tell me what was going on, I would take her computer in, and have the hard drive looked over, because no matter what you delete, the police can read it anyway. See, my son, ( her twin brother )
told me that they were with this 26 year old guy.. This is where it gets really complicated and long. I am not going to go into all of it, it would take a whole page..

So anyway, my daughter told me bits and pieces, and bad stuff about what he did with one of the other girls. I called her mom, and told her, and we went from there.. This all got very deep.

On top of everything that we have all been through, these girls were still infatuated with this guy, and they got very angry that my husband and I told the police, and their moms, so they "decided" that they were going to take it out on my daughter. But they have told HUGE lies to their distraught moms, and at this point, their moms believe them, (UGH ) and they are all angry, and taking out all of their anger on us!!! Ridiculous!! I can't believe what has all happened. This is such a huge mess. I am so disgusted, and angry/upset/sad/ I HAD so many emotions going on, I just don't know.. Now I am just drained, well I still have a few, but mostly just sadness and hurt at this point.. I can't believe these parents really. I am so saddened by this all.

Today we had the preliminary hearing for the other 2 girls trial, which one of the girls SCREAMED at my daughter at school on Friday, that we should NOT be at that hearing, because this one didn't have anything to do with my daughter. But we wanted to go, for alot of reasons, but the main one being that, my daughter will soon be going to court, and will have to do the same things, I wanted her to see what it would be like for her. Besides, she was friends with these girls, and was there for alot of what happened to them.. In the end, it sounds like the whole trial will be together anyway, with all of the girls. I really am asking for every one's prayers on this, as we will not only have to face everything that happened, but with these girls and their families that are misdirecting their anger at us as well. ( that is what my therapist says, they are misdirecting their anger, at US)...

This has been one of the hardest things that I have ever been through. I have been pushed to my limit. I am a mess tonight. I haven't slept either.
I need some help here,, I really need Gods help through this.. I know he is there... I know he is.. Just difficult.

I also wanted to say that, the other thing that is really bothering me is,
that when we got to court today, I realized that the guy that did this to the girls, well his mom, and grandma, and grandpa were all there. I realized that I KNEW his grandma very, very well, and I love her. She attends my church, and I worked with her for 11 years. We were a very tight knit group at work.
That really hurt me to see that she was related to this guy. I felt so sorry for her, and her husband, they are Christians, and that is their grandson, whom they love that did this.. He is looking at 100 years in prison for this, and that was before my daughters charges were introduced..... He may spend the rest of his life in prison.. I am sad for her. She loves him.. I understand that.
It just made everything messier for my emotions though.,.

This has been a big sad mess, that has affected many, many lives.
Please, will you pray that we all hold up through this. I don't know how long this will take, but I will keep you posted. Thanks so much for reading all this.

Love ya all,
Becky

[best]

Becky

Prayers are with you *HUG*

You are the parent that is seeing the truth and accepting it in full measure. The parents that are listing to the distorted truth and believing it are in a self defense mode. They don't want to know the truth so they will hold fast to denial. The grandmother... when you see her, let her know you are praying for her as well. She may be in denial as well but she is hurting also. For her it is a loss as well as shame she may be feeling. Knowing where the feelings of others come from...it is easier to understand and deal with their emotions that show as words or actions towards others.

You are doing what is right and dealing with things head on. You will get through this much better then any of the others and the Lord is at your side every step of the way.

My prayers are with you. You already know that

*HUGE HUG*

[BuDoc]

Becky, I am sorry you and your family have to go through this... I wish there was something I could say to make it all better, but alas I can't. Just know my thoughts and prayers go out to you, your family and all involved. Hang in there, I pray the comforter will soon bring you peace and serenity.

Hang loose, Doc.

[Jwife22]

((((Becky)))))

You are doing the right thing. You've probably prevented this from happening to numerous other children as well by this guy. All that being known, I can't imagine how hard it is to go through this. I'll keep you and your daughter in my prayers.

[cmc]

Becky,
You are doing the right thing- for your daughter, for her friends and for all those who will be spared from this monster's evil intentions
It takes courage to do the right thing and you have that courage. I will pray for the strength to see it through and for God to go before you... and behind as well, as a 'rear guard' mentioned in His word. (I forget where...but He 'has' your back!)
We serve a mighty God.... He is all powerful, all knowing and completely able to take this burden from you, even while you must go throught the motions of court and all that is involved, I believe that the victory belongs to God and His beloved ones.

cmc

[sugarssweetpea]

Much prayers to you Becky. Everything will be used to the good & glory of God.

[Phinneas]

((((Becky))))

Take comfort in the Truth that you are doing the right thing. Hold to your faith, it WILL see you through this.

Prayers for you, your daughter and for all involved in this tragic situation.

[emmer]

I will say a prayer for you Becky.

[toad]

You are a good mom and are doing the right thing. Many times in life we make choices that we have to be responsible for, the 26 year old man made this choice. We are praying for you and your family........also this young man and his family too............toad

[cwohio]

((becky, daughter and others)) - prayers out to you!

[rayofsunshine]

Prayers for you Becky, your daughter, and all involved.
May God give you peace and strength.

[angelgirl]

Thanks so much to everyone here. I appreciate all of you..

I am petty sick now. I believe this has all taken just a toll on my family..
I think the stress of all of it has maybe lowered my immune system.. I feel terrible.. I am going to try to get some sleep..

Thanks again for all of your prayers..

Love,
Becky

[cmc]

Hi Becky,
We will all be praying for you... and your whole family too, of course.
Please keep in touch and know you are loved!!!
hugs,
cmc

[gmadison]

My deepest prayers, Becky. I want you t think of how comforting it is to know that the Lord knows how we reverence Him.
Love,
Greg

[sugarssweetpea]

Hope you feel better Becky. Take comfort in the Lord.

[angelgirl]

Love you all.. Thanks so much.. You mean more than you know..

I know God will get us all through this time.. But you all help too..


Prayers,
Becky

[cmc]

Becky,
It's great to be in the same family!!
hugs and prayers for you,
cmc