WHEN does God give us a break? - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

daddysgirl29 · 06-02-2006, 07:45 AM

I found out last night that I'm being laid off. AGAIN. This makes the 3rd time in a row. I'll admit that the first time was my fault - b/c I was drinking so much I called in sick a lot. But then I got my act together, put myself through treatment (which I'm STILL paying bills on), and got sober. Then my dad dies, then my dog dies, then I get into a car accident. Then I get laid off twice. I just don't get it.

I'm SO low right now I just wanna give up. No, I don't want to drink, but I want to throw in the towel and frickin run away somewhere. This is BOGUS. I know there are SO much worse things going on right now, but I'm SO sick and tired of worrying about paying my bills. I live alone - can't depend on anyone else, and find myself being kicked in the teeth time and time again. I just can't do it anymore..

Sorry to vent, but when do I get a break?

Jazzman · 06-02-2006, 08:17 AM

It took guts and tremendous strength to get yourself sober DG. If you can do that, you can do ANYTHING! I have faith in you and you WILL get another job.

I lived in fear of getting laid off every quarter for 3 years before it finally happened. It sucked. But I would rather know what my plan is than keep wondering if I needed to formulate one, the "in limbo mode" was horrendus and sucked the life out of me. It could always be worse.

Know do what you always do and get your butt out there and survive!

**cece1960** · 06-02-2006, 08:17 AM

((((Daddysgirl))))
Been where you are.
There have been times in my past that I could not possibly see through the fog that surrounded me, and get a view of all the brightness that was hiding behind it.
Sometimes we have to kick and scream and curse and vent to be able to move on and get a plan.
So...scream at the top of your lungs.
Then take a deep breath and give some of this up.
One step at a time, things can fall into place.
Look at all you've accomplished recently!
There's another job, a better one, waiting just around the bend...I just know it.
Cece

frankie_b · 06-02-2006, 08:22 AM

Never be sorry for venting....vent away.
Whatever has come your way, and you've had one heck of alot on your plate,
you are living sober, Living proof of coping with life on life's terms.
That is huge!!!
I've been there....down and wanting to run for shelter, for comfort, for release, for change, for the sake of getting away from too much of too much.
But where?
Talking with and being with friends who can just be with me, listening, caring
whether in a meeting or elsewhere help me. In isolation, my mind and heart
get no release. Please do not isolate.
Keep venting, letting it all out. We care!
Hugs

janeeyre · 06-02-2006, 09:31 AM

(((DG)))

splendra · 06-02-2006, 09:31 AM

((((D'sG))))

I am sorry for your losses. I really don't think though that God is trying to punish you though or not give you a break....

These kinds of things happen reguardless of if we are clean or sober. My dad died while I was still drinking it has been 30 years since he passed. I think it was about 5 years ago that I realized that I was stuck in a phase of my grief over his death. I think I was stuck in denial for many years cause I did not want to feel the anger I felt over him not taking good enough care of himself. He was only 48 years old when he died of cancer. I was my dad's girl all the way too. We all process our losses in our own way.

There are answers for you. The answers are waiting for you to ask the right questions. Maybe you are doing a kind of work that is not really what you want to do and by getting laid off the universe is urging you to look at what your real talent is or at what you really want to do. If everything was in harmony for you at these jobs maybe you would not have gotten laid off. The universe is always in favor of your highest good even if it seems painful. The pain is meant to urge you to seek a cure(doing what You want?) Maybe, there is something that you want that truely would bring you great joy that you just have not gotten around to doing?

I found that I can hear my HP a little better sometimes thru my pain than I can if I think everything is going my way...

c'est la vie · 06-02-2006, 10:04 AM

My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials.
Knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience.
-James 1, 2-3

We're here for you to lean on and to vent. You have proven to yourself that you have the inner strength to get through difficult times and here you have one more chance. God must think you have really big shoulders.

cwohio · 06-02-2006, 10:34 AM

((DG)) lots of wisdom shared above. i think splen said it best.

nothing to add except i send big hugs to you and will give you a "live" one if we get to meet up! you made it over the biggest hurdle - this is a sprint in comparison even tho you feel all raced out!

MNGirlyGirl · 06-02-2006, 10:36 AM

((DG)) -- so sorry for your losses. That is a huge burden to bear. If you believe in God, he can help you lift that burden. But first you must let go of it. Stay strong in your recovery ... .this will all serve you well some day.

do you attend AA? There is so much support there. Please try going if you don't already.

daddysgirl29 · 06-02-2006, 10:59 AM

Wow!! I was in my office packing up and pouting (and saying words that I will apologize to God for tonight...) and just logged back in to find these WONDERFUL replies!! Thank you all so much.... You've made me look at things from a diff't angle, and though my eyes are full of tears now, I HEAR YOU!!

Splendra - what you said left me in awe. Thank you...

**Peter** · 06-02-2006, 11:23 AM

When does God give us a break?

I don't think he does. God is constantly putting us in situations where we are forced to learn and grow.

megamysterioso · 06-02-2006, 12:45 PM

(((DG)))--- you have had a tough time of it lately and am sorry that you feel like you need to hibernate for a while (that's what I call it! just wanting to lock yourself in a room for a month w/TV, bed, food and forget about it).

Jazz is right about your guts and will to stay sober. If you can accomplish that, you can do anything you choose. I know it's a tired saying, but it is so true that everything happens for a reason.

I was laid off from the last job I had along with about 3,000 others. If I wouldn't have gotten the boot there, I would have never found this local job I have that I love. Hang in there and this will lead you to greater things. It's a neverending journey my friend.

Sugasnaps · 06-02-2006, 01:49 PM

Awww crap DG

I'm sorry about your job.

I've been laid off before too and man it really does suck. I remember all those feelings! UGH course then I drowned em with booze only to awaken the next day still laid off and feeling worse than ever.

I'm so proud of you... so so so proud of you that you aren't reaching for the ol' pal alcohol. I'm so proud of you that you know in your heart that it's not the answer for you.

Please let me know if there is anything I can do... I'm here for ya sobertwin.

~hugs~

Suga

Grimnar · 06-02-2006, 02:58 PM

A -

Thinking of you darling.

Let me know if I can help in any way ok?

Not sure if my company has any work for what you do but one never knows.

((((BIG HUGS))))

- Dave

PaperDolls · 06-02-2006, 03:36 PM

((((DG))))

I'm so sorry for all of the crap you've been going through lately. I don't think I can add anything better than what is posted above this but I wanted to know I'm thinking of you. Sending good thoughts.

You had to be really strong while trying to get sober and this will require it again. Now you know that that strength is inside of you, ready to get you through yet another bump in the road of life.

Love,
doll

leviathon · 06-02-2006, 11:21 PM

we are all rooting for u DG. Keep on getting it out and when you are ready, you will find your true calling.

Hugs, Levi

2dayzmuse · 06-02-2006, 11:41 PM

I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this. I can so relate to your fear from losing your job. That was my biggest obstacle when I was first getting sober. A single Mom, I would agonize over lack of money and how I would pay the bills. You know what? Things worked out. I had faith in a bigger plan and held out in hopes of finding it, and it found me. It literally came to my door. It is so hard to understand when you are standing in the midst of all the chaos, but when you are able to step back and look in, it a such a rewarding feeling to see the path that your HP has paved for you. Have faith...

ru4outoo · 06-03-2006, 12:55 AM

In alot of ways I know how you feel, I was unemployed when I quit, bills pilling up ect. I found a job but not that great, the place I work got bought out and there are rumers of a massive layoff. I am struggling financially barely able to pay the utilities and rent but to me that is okay as long as I stay sober. I am watching my parents struggle financially too and I feel so bad because in a way I feel responsable, but to me it isnt worth drinking over. I believe my HP has a plan for me and it is in his hands not mine and I accept that. Hang in there, it will get better.

***Time2Surrender*** · 06-03-2006, 01:26 AM

Hang in there Alissa. God can and will give you all your hearts desires. Keep the faith.

OVERIT · 06-03-2006, 06:47 AM

(((DG)))

I am really sorry about your job. I really am. I will send mucho thoughts and prayers your way.

xoxoxo

Ang

jcade · 06-03-2006, 07:04 AM

Let me share this with you. I lived alone and was a drunk and a user and didn;t have anything. Barely made my bills worked in a God awful place making pizza it was an hour and a half walk each way to work. One night a guy next door let me ride his bike and to say the least i flipped it in a curve and broke me legs in 10 places.

I had no support so I looked at it really hard and found a way to make it. And you can too. First thing you need to do is go down and get food stamps I think they will give you 150.00 a month if your single. Then goto the catholic churches and talk to the preist at each one they will pay your rent and utilities I guarantee it.

If you need more groceries goto the baptist church and ask to visit their pantry good source of canned goods.

I beleive in you! As do these kind people! They supported me for 3 months until I got back on my feet! I am praying that a hedge of protection surrounds you with all the Love and well being I can give!

And I know you will be ok!

With Love and Understanding,
John

leviathon · 06-03-2006, 11:08 AM

DG, I know from my own experience that the universe never gives you bigger challenges than you can actually handle. You can do this girl.

Levi

***Nina Kay*** · 06-03-2006, 09:13 PM

((((((((((((((Loving Hugs For DG)))))))))))))))))))))))

((((((((((((((Supportive Hugs For DG))))))))))))))))))))))))))

(((((((((((((((Understanding Hugs For DG))))))))))))))))))))))))

daddysgirl29 · 06-05-2006, 09:23 AM

Thank you everyone. I'm can only 'chat' for a minute b/c I can't sit at my computer for long except to send out a few resumes. I appreciate the posts and especially, the PM's. You are my sense of hope, and have proven that true friendships know no time or space.

I love you,
DG

**Done-With-It** · 06-05-2006, 11:17 AM

D!G!

I havea n idea,
Let's start up a girl rock and roll band!

We'd seriously rock
and we'd be famous and make lots of money!

((((....))))
Sorry I haven't been around much,
but I did get your pm's.

I'll send you an email,
maybe I can give you some money
ideas that may help.
If not I'll send you a plan to we
can start up this rock and roll band!

Hang in there girl,
You will get through this!

LuvYa!

DWI

06-02-2006, 07:45 AM	#1 (permalink)
daddysgirl29 Still learning; ever grateful Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: VA Posts: 842	WHEN does God give us a break? I found out last night that I'm being laid off. AGAIN. This makes the 3rd time in a row. I'll admit that the first time was my fault - b/c I was drinking so much I called in sick a lot. But then I got my act together, put myself through treatment (which I'm STILL paying bills on), and got sober. Then my dad dies, then my dog dies, then I get into a car accident. Then I get laid off twice. I just don't get it. I'm SO low right now I just wanna give up. No, I don't want to drink, but I want to throw in the towel and frickin run away somewhere. This is BOGUS. I know there are SO much worse things going on right now, but I'm SO sick and tired of worrying about paying my bills. I live alone - can't depend on anyone else, and find myself being kicked in the teeth time and time again. I just can't do it anymore.. Sorry to vent, but when do I get a break? __________________ daddysgirl29 _____________________________________________ When in doubt, look up!

06-02-2006, 08:17 AM	#3 (permalink)
cece1960 Forum Leader Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: PA Posts: 1,216	((((Daddysgirl)))) Been where you are. There have been times in my past that I could not possibly see through the fog that surrounded me, and get a view of all the brightness that was hiding behind it. Sometimes we have to kick and scream and curse and vent to be able to move on and get a plan. So...scream at the top of your lungs. Then take a deep breath and give some of this up. One step at a time, things can fall into place. Look at all you've accomplished recently! There's another job, a better one, waiting just around the bend...I just know it. Cece __________________ The great thing in the world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are going. - Oliver Wendell Holmes

06-02-2006, 08:22 AM	#4 (permalink)
frankie_b Living in the light Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Sweet Home Serenity Posts: 704	Never be sorry for venting....vent away. Whatever has come your way, and you've had one heck of alot on your plate, you are living sober, Living proof of coping with life on life's terms. That is huge!!! I've been there....down and wanting to run for shelter, for comfort, for release, for change, for the sake of getting away from too much of too much. But where? Talking with and being with friends who can just be with me, listening, caring whether in a meeting or elsewhere help me. In isolation, my mind and heart get no release. Please do not isolate. Keep venting, letting it all out. We care! Hugs __________________ Frankie Follow your dreams

06-02-2006, 09:31 AM	#6 (permalink)
splendra the girl can't help it Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: splendraville Posts: 4,771 Blog Entries: 3	((((D'sG)))) I am sorry for your losses. I really don't think though that God is trying to punish you though or not give you a break.... These kinds of things happen reguardless of if we are clean or sober. My dad died while I was still drinking it has been 30 years since he passed. I think it was about 5 years ago that I realized that I was stuck in a phase of my grief over his death. I think I was stuck in denial for many years cause I did not want to feel the anger I felt over him not taking good enough care of himself. He was only 48 years old when he died of cancer. I was my dad's girl all the way too. We all process our losses in our own way. There are answers for you. The answers are waiting for you to ask the right questions. Maybe you are doing a kind of work that is not really what you want to do and by getting laid off the universe is urging you to look at what your real talent is or at what you really want to do. If everything was in harmony for you at these jobs maybe you would not have gotten laid off. The universe is always in favor of your highest good even if it seems painful. The pain is meant to urge you to seek a cure(doing what You want?) Maybe, there is something that you want that truely would bring you great joy that you just have not gotten around to doing? I found that I can hear my HP a little better sometimes thru my pain than I can if I think everything is going my way... __________________ nice has a hisssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

06-02-2006, 10:34 AM	#8 (permalink)
cwohio Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Litterbox City Posts: 6,141	((DG)) lots of wisdom shared above. i think splen said it best. nothing to add except i send big hugs to you and will give you a "live" one if we get to meet up! you made it over the biggest hurdle - this is a sprint in comparison even tho you feel all raced out! __________________ *Learn to write your hurts in sand. Learn to carve your blessings in stone! - Unknown*

06-02-2006, 08:17 AM	#2 (permalink)
Jazzman Occasional poor taste poster Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Back of the class, Northern VA Posts: 1,515	It took guts and tremendous strength to get yourself sober DG. If you can do that, you can do ANYTHING! I have faith in you and you WILL get another job. I lived in fear of getting laid off every quarter for 3 years before it finally happened. It sucked. But I would rather know what my plan is than keep wondering if I needed to formulate one, the "in limbo mode" was horrendus and sucked the life out of me. It could always be worse. Know do what you always do and get your butt out there and survive!

06-02-2006, 09:31 AM	#5 (permalink)
janeeyre Guest Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 1,526	(((DG)))

06-02-2006, 10:04 AM	#7 (permalink)
c'est la vie Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: in a better place Posts: 1,397	My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials. Knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. -James 1, 2-3 We're here for you to lean on and to vent. You have proven to yourself that you have the inner strength to get through difficult times and here you have one more chance. God must think you have really big shoulders.

06-02-2006, 10:36 AM	#9 (permalink)
MNGirlyGirl Good Clean Fun!! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Plymouth, MN Posts: 937	((DG)) -- so sorry for your losses. That is a huge burden to bear. If you believe in God, he can help you lift that burden. But first you must let go of it. Stay strong in your recovery ... .this will all serve you well some day. do you attend AA? There is so much support there. Please try going if you don't already. __________________ -- The good news is that your feelings come back...The bad news is that your feelings come back.

06-02-2006, 10:59 AM	#10 (permalink)
daddysgirl29 Still learning; ever grateful Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: VA Posts: 842	Wow!! I was in my office packing up and pouting (and saying words that I will apologize to God for tonight...) and just logged back in to find these WONDERFUL replies!! Thank you all so much.... You've made me look at things from a diff't angle, and though my eyes are full of tears now, I HEAR YOU!! Splendra - what you said left me in awe. Thank you... __________________ daddysgirl29 _____________________________________________ When in doubt, look up!

06-02-2006, 11:23 AM	#11 (permalink)
Peter Moderator Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Leaving Sparta Posts: 2,553	When does God give us a break? I don't think he does. God is constantly putting us in situations where we are forced to learn and grow.

06-02-2006, 12:45 PM	#12 (permalink)
megamysterioso One brief hour... Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Anywhere, USA Posts: 1,413	(((DG)))--- you have had a tough time of it lately and am sorry that you feel like you need to hibernate for a while (that's what I call it! just wanting to lock yourself in a room for a month w/TV, bed, food and forget about it). Jazz is right about your guts and will to stay sober. If you can accomplish that, you can do anything you choose. I know it's a tired saying, but it is so true that everything happens for a reason. I was laid off from the last job I had along with about 3,000 others. If I wouldn't have gotten the boot there, I would have never found this local job I have that I love. Hang in there and this will lead you to greater things. It's a neverending journey my friend. __________________ I fell off the jetway AGAIN!! Jim Carey- "Dumb and Dumber"

06-02-2006, 01:49 PM	#13 (permalink)
Sugasnaps Living and Loving. Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Saratoga, California Posts: 476	Awww crap DG I'm sorry about your job. I've been laid off before too and man it really does suck. I remember all those feelings! UGH course then I drowned em with booze only to awaken the next day still laid off and feeling worse than ever. I'm so proud of you... so so so proud of you that you aren't reaching for the ol' pal alcohol. I'm so proud of you that you know in your heart that it's not the answer for you. Please let me know if there is anything I can do... I'm here for ya sobertwin. ~hugs~ Suga __________________ "Gimme sum suga baby!"

06-02-2006, 02:58 PM	#14 (permalink)
Grimnar I bite. Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: USA Posts: 494	A - Thinking of you darling. Let me know if I can help in any way ok? Not sure if my company has any work for what you do but one never knows. ((((BIG HUGS)))) - Dave __________________ Sometimes, perhaps most of the time, surviving in life is about not doing what we want to do but rather doing what we need to do.

06-02-2006, 03:36 PM	#15 (permalink)
PaperDolls Miss Grumpy Pain in the Pants Join Date: May 2004 Location: Midwest Posts: 5,097 Blog Entries: 10	((((DG)))) I'm so sorry for all of the crap you've been going through lately. I don't think I can add anything better than what is posted above this but I wanted to know I'm thinking of you. Sending good thoughts. You had to be really strong while trying to get sober and this will require it again. Now you know that that strength is inside of you, ready to get you through yet another bump in the road of life. Love, doll __________________ Sober Date: 07.07.2008

06-02-2006, 11:21 PM	#16 (permalink)
leviathon Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Somwhere over the rainbow Posts: 1,202	we are all rooting for u DG. Keep on getting it out and when you are ready, you will find your true calling. Hugs, Levi __________________ Hope springs eternal!

06-02-2006, 11:41 PM	#17 (permalink)
2dayzmuse Paused Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Washington Posts: 5,083	I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this. I can so relate to your fear from losing your job. That was my biggest obstacle when I was first getting sober. A single Mom, I would agonize over lack of money and how I would pay the bills. You know what? Things worked out. I had faith in a bigger plan and held out in hopes of finding it, and it found me. It literally came to my door. It is so hard to understand when you are standing in the midst of all the chaos, but when you are able to step back and look in, it a such a rewarding feeling to see the path that your HP has paved for you. Have faith...

06-03-2006, 12:55 AM	#18 (permalink)
ru4outoo Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 238	In alot of ways I know how you feel, I was unemployed when I quit, bills pilling up ect. I found a job but not that great, the place I work got bought out and there are rumers of a massive layoff. I am struggling financially barely able to pay the utilities and rent but to me that is okay as long as I stay sober. I am watching my parents struggle financially too and I feel so bad because in a way I feel responsable, but to me it isnt worth drinking over. I believe my HP has a plan for me and it is in his hands not mine and I accept that. Hang in there, it will get better.

06-03-2006, 01:26 AM	#19 (permalink)
*Time2Surrender* Community Greeter Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Hillsboro,Oregon Soon to be Washington State Posts: 6,334 Blog Entries: 3	Hang in there Alissa. God can and will give you all your hearts desires. Keep the faith. __________________ "Jack and Diane" painted a picture of my life and my dreams, Suddenly this crazy world made more sense to me Well I heard it today and I couldn't help but sing along Cause everytime I hear that song...

06-03-2006, 06:47 AM	#20 (permalink)
OVERIT Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Good Ole' Rocky Top! Posts: 3,541	(((DG))) I am really sorry about your job. I really am. I will send mucho thoughts and prayers your way. xoxoxo Ang

06-03-2006, 07:04 AM	#21 (permalink)
jcade Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Down South Posts: 63	Let me share this with you. I lived alone and was a drunk and a user and didn;t have anything. Barely made my bills worked in a God awful place making pizza it was an hour and a half walk each way to work. One night a guy next door let me ride his bike and to say the least i flipped it in a curve and broke me legs in 10 places. I had no support so I looked at it really hard and found a way to make it. And you can too. First thing you need to do is go down and get food stamps I think they will give you 150.00 a month if your single. Then goto the catholic churches and talk to the preist at each one they will pay your rent and utilities I guarantee it. If you need more groceries goto the baptist church and ask to visit their pantry good source of canned goods. I beleive in you! As do these kind people! They supported me for 3 months until I got back on my feet! I am praying that a hedge of protection surrounds you with all the Love and well being I can give! And I know you will be ok! With Love and Understanding, John __________________ Someone once asked me was I from the North or the South? I said I don't know I am Bi-Polar

06-03-2006, 11:08 AM	#22 (permalink)
leviathon Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Somwhere over the rainbow Posts: 1,202	DG, I know from my own experience that the universe never gives you bigger challenges than you can actually handle. You can do this girl. Levi __________________ Hope springs eternal!

06-03-2006, 09:13 PM	#23 (permalink)
*Nina Kay* Accepting Myself As Is Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Here @ SR. Posts: 2,072	((((((((((((((Loving Hugs For DG))))))))))))))))))))))) ((((((((((((((Supportive Hugs For DG)))))))))))))))))))))))))) (((((((((((((((Understanding Hugs For DG)))))))))))))))))))))))) __________________ Acceptance is key to my Serenity. Nina Kay

06-05-2006, 09:23 AM	#24 (permalink)
daddysgirl29 Still learning; ever grateful Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: VA Posts: 842	Thank you everyone. I'm can only 'chat' for a minute b/c I can't sit at my computer for long except to send out a few resumes. I appreciate the posts and especially, the PM's. You are my sense of hope, and have proven that true friendships know no time or space. I love you, DG __________________ daddysgirl29 _____________________________________________ When in doubt, look up!