this is so stupid

[spacegirl]

I'm 36 years old and I'm fit and healthy. I work part-time in a paper-shop and today a young guy came in and wanted a bottle of cider.

'No' I said. You're too young;. I was only trying to do the right thing.

I thought that was it but as I left the shop (less than an hour ago) he and some friends were waiting outside and he punched me in the face and broke my nose. I know I'm being a big girl for getting upset over this but I feel awful. My bf came home from work as I needed some money to send a card to someone so it's not like I can call him twice and make him come back home a second time! I'm trained in Martial arts and I should not have let this happen. My nose is broken and I feel really upset. It just happened so fast.

pfft! my nose is bigger than my head right now! Of all things I was wearing a white blouse and it's covered in blood. My manager just called the police and I said 'no it's ok' as we live close to the shop so I don't want to cause any more trouble. Jeez! I'm 36 and a black-belt and I just got my arse kicked my a 15 year old! Oh God My nose is really hurting right now!

[BigSis]

WHAT!!!!!

Did you call the cops? File a complaint? That is outrageous! Have you seen the doctor?

First things first... get medical attention and file a complaint with the authorities.

You are not being a "girl" when someone assaults you and breaks your nose and what? You weren't "man" enough to use your martial arts against three thugs?

I'd love to hold the little ba$tard while you practiced a few of those high kicks...

That was uncalled for and ridiculous... punching someone for not selling a cider? Good lord, I am surprised he didn't just show up with a gun and rob you. That mentality of his is very dangerous. God help the next clerk who cards him...

PS (I saw you added some info) ... I would urge you to call the police back and file that complaint. A lesson learned at age 15 is much easier than the one he will learn at age 21. A little jail and community service? Or a few years in a real prison. Please don't pass this off. His actions were terrible.

Incredible.

[liveweyerd]

File that report!

[spacegirl]

I can't stop crying. I feel bloody lousy. I think pressing charges would be a bad idea as he would be out the same evening and as I live close to the shop he would find me.

I'm kind of wanting to see a doctor as my face is hurting like mad and my nose is broken but I'm just a bit upset right now and don't feel like leaving the house. Sorry I'm a right wuss aren't I. My bf will be home in another couple of hours. I'd better clean myself up.

[liveweyerd]

Then he can take you to the Dr????

[spacegirl]

He would force me to go to a doctor if I told him, tbh I won't be able to hide it from him as my nose is totally squashed. I'm panicking now. I would like to get this sorted but I'm kind of scared of doctors and I'm scared that that little sh*te will come back for me if I get him into trouble. My nose hurts like mad. I look like shrek right now. I think I might be over reacting but I feel so upset and overemotional about this. It happened so fast.

[spacegirl]

I've just called NHS direct and booked a taxi to the Queens Medical Centre. He didn't hit me in the eyes but under my eyes are turning black. He only hit me once.

I'm going to take this seriously. My face really hurts. I feel like such a fool for getting upset but this was the most unexpected thing ever.

[liveweyerd]

You were ATTACKED and that is a very traumatic thing!
Please be honest with your bf, it makes the relationship so much more real and open, richer and healthy.

[liveweyerd]

Good for you! It is serious and medical attention and treatment is needed.

[margo]

(((((((((Molly)))))))))) I'm so sorry to hear about this, but relieved to hear you have gone to get medical attention. Your reaction is understandable - no doubt you were in shock. It's outrageous that you were assaulted this way. I do understand how you feel about possible repercussions if you file charges, or that nothing will happen to that kid, but assault is a serious charge and he shouldn't be allowed to get away with what he did to you. And I'll bet this isn't the first time he's done something like this. When you've had time to get over the initial shock, have another think about filing charges. And if you do, make sure the police take photographs of your injuries. Give us an update when you can. I'm really sorry you're going through this.

[Turtle]

This isn't your fault, so don't feel stupid. Get yourself help and get better!

[historyteach]

First, let me just say how very sorry I am that you were attacked...
And I am aware of the card you are talking about...you are so very, very kind...you did NOTHING to deserve this action...
I too am outraged by this vicious attack!

I'm glad you are getting medical attention. With a broken nose and two black eyes, you won't be able to hide it from your b/f. Tell him the truth.
And BigSis makes a great point; better to learn now at 15 than serve jail time at 21.
He does have a very sick mentality, and he must face up to it. The courts will force him into anger management, probably. And he needs it.
Please don't protect him from the consequences of his actions....That only hurts a youngster...

Take good care of yourself. Do somehting good for you today...you've earned it.

Shalom!

[indigo]

Spacegirl get yourself fixed up and as live said file the report. Hope you are feeling a little better after such a horrible occurance.
Annie

[Ann]

It's not your fault, and I'm glad you are getting medical attention. This was a viscious attack, and I understand your hesitation but I urge you to think seriously about filing charges. He could to this again to someone else, he could come in the shop and intimidate you again, he needs to know there are consequences.

I'm sending bug huge hugs because it stinks that someone could do this to you.

Hugs,

[reduced quality]

That's a terrible thing to happen to you! It's a good thing you didn't give him the cider anyway; someone reacting like that when sober must be horrid drunk. I'm so sorry that happened to you. Feel better!

[Peter]

Oh crap.

First of all I am sorry to read what happened to you.

Second I can only try to understand the barrage of emotions you must be enduring right now. The indignation of being assaulted, the disappointment in not better defending yourself when you know you can, the fear of further retribution to push the matter any further and the remorse of not seeking justice.

I too have been in situations where it seemed a more viable option to drop the matter rather than pressing charges however as your situation stands I cannot help but feel enraged that a 15 y.o child will be allowed to go unpunished for his actions when I know if he goes unchecked he will only get worse.

In lieu of police involvement is it possible to track down his guardians and talk with them about compensation or at the very least about some kind of disciplinary action ?

[daddysgirl29]

OMG Spacegirl!! That is absolutely awful and I'm turning all kinds of red w/ anger! How DARE he! You did NOTHING wrong - you upheld the law and did your job. Now the authorities need to uphold THEIR end and arrest this punk for assault!

I can understand why you're scared and you don't want him to retaliate anymore, but you can tell that to the police, and they'll take care of it. Have someone walk you to/from your car every night, OR get another job. (I know that's easier said than done). This whole event may even fall under Worker's Compensation/mental anguish or something, since it had to do w/ your job. I'm not sure of the laws over there.

Please let us know how you're doing, and DON'T feel like a fool. He was wrong and deserves what's coming to him. How anyone could attack someone as sweet as you is beyond me. grrr.....

I hope you're okay, sweetie. Please check in whenever you're up to it. We care about you and are behind you 100%.

Love,
DG

[Cynay]

Dont be so hard on yourself for not defending yourself, that happens when its a suprise and who would expect a 15 year old to be so agressive.

Im glad your getting medical attention.... hurry back and let us know your ok

[2dayzmuse]

I'm very sorry that this happened spacegirl. This is an act of violence and it is unacceptable. Don't be hard on yourself. I'm glad you are getting medical attention and you really should file charges, but understand your fear in doing do. Take care of yourself darn it. I am so sorry, this was such a thoughtless act by some ruthless punks. Don't let it drag you to far down. Try to stay ahead of the game by focusing on your recovery.

[spacegirl]

Thank you so much for the advice and nice things you've all said. I've just spoken with the police and it turns out he is not 15 (I was guessing his age) he is only 13 years old. I'm literally old enough to be his mother. I'm 6 foot tall and he was as tall as I am but he is a child and I'm a 36 year old black belt. I had my ar$e kicked by a child in other words!

I'm fine now. Thank you so much. My nose is broken and my left cheekbone is broken but apparently they can't do much about that. They took me to the front of the queue as they thought I might have head-injuries but after I'd been asked about a million times 'who is the Prime minister? What is your date of birth? What year is this?' then they decided that no head injuries and have sent me home.

I've been throwing up and feeling sick but rather than create a fuss I told them that my bf was at home waiting for me. It's not too much of a lie as he'll be home in the next hour. I look after rescue-animals (abandoned or from car accidents or unwanted) so I really couldn't be away from home for too long as they need feeding and medication and general attention.

Anyway I'm fine. Just a bit ashamed that I was knocked unconscious by a 13 year old child. His parents want to speak to me and they sound quite posh and gentle oddly enough. They seem apologetic but my head hurts and I feel a bit sick so I asked them to call me tomorrow. Oh you should see me right now! My nose is like a mile wide and my face feels like it's on fire! I've quit my job.

Thanks again guys
lots of love
Molly

[OVERIT]

Molly ~ Dear Lord~

The animals will be fine!!!!! Take care of you!!!!! You need to rest. Don't make me come over there and kick your butt! PLEASE take care.

xoxoxoxo

Ang

[margo]

((((((((((Molly))))))))))) I've been thinking about you all morning and I'm glad to see your update. Broken nose and cheekbone - you poor thing! There isn't much they can do about a broken cheekbone if it's a clean break, but the good news is that it will heal up and you'll never know the difference. I broke my cheekbone a few years and you can't tell. I'm proud of you for talking with the police - you did the right thing. I'm sorry you had to quit your job and hope you have something else that you enjoy really soon. When you're feeling up to it think about getting those injuries photographed. You musn't be down on yourself for getting injured by a 13 year old - you were not expecting to be assalted and he caught you by surprise. Get some rest, try to do something nice for yourself today, and let us know how you're getting on.

[spacegirl]

I just gave my phone number to Purdy but now I'm freaking out thinking 'where is my darn phone?'

Sorry if this sounds weak but actually I would really like to speak to somebody right now but I can't find my phone. I've looked in my bag, my coat, on the bedside table and everywhere! I can't find it! I wish someone would ring me so I would know where it is and hear another human voice!

Oh God I feel awful and I can't find my phone! *cries

[spacegirl]

um I mean (edited by MG)

[spacegirl]

Oh I said that, I've just read it back. I'm so upset right now I wish I knew where my phone was. I've just checked on my animals and they are all fine. Dammit I check those little bugger-faces every 10 seconds anyway!