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01-12-2006, 10:15 AM
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Going down memory lane, thanks to recent emails from two of my best friends from high school. Thinking about what might have been. Never really a good thing to do, you know? I've often thought of writing a tale about the three of us, and the odd little "love triangle" we had.... I had a crush on one of them, the other had a crush on me - so it was unrequited love all around. Now they're both married with kidlets... just got photos of them with their families. I look at their faces and I wonder, "What if..?" Probably best that things went the way they did. I haven't been such a treat to be around for much of my adult life, whereas they're both wildly successful. Ah, nostalgia. It can be a fine thing, but also bittersweet. /end of pointless meandering... --anne
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01-12-2006, 10:26 AM
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Oh yes, I can relate. For me, it's the opposite, though. I wish I would have said no to my two long term relationships. Where would I be if I had? Better or worse off? Only god knows, I guess. All we have is today. AA teaches me that. And some days I really get it.
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01-12-2006, 10:29 AM
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Oh Anne, I remember getting a booklet of photos taken at a High School reunion that I was unable to attend. It turned out that my high-school boyfriend had married a close mutual friend of ours. That was not a good day! It's that thing 'Well, no, I didn't want him, but I didn't want him to find someone else either'. I mean, shouldn't he have been there waiting for me!!LOL. Nostalgia is definitely bittersweet!
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01-12-2006, 01:30 PM
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Anne, mine is more like Phinny's... the girl I was closest to in high school has continued with her drinking and drugging career. She has spent a few of the years since 197(something) in the county jail, married at least five times, has three drug-affected children who have also begun their drinking career. She was so cool back then - cheerleader, the voice of an angel, jock... and a guy-magnet. I just loved being around her - life was so damned exciting!! I never quite figured out where our paths split, have always been grateful that they did... but when I think about what-if, I wonder how it might have been had SHE been the one to get sober and I had continued on the path.... Leaves me melancholy and sad for all kinds of reasons.
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01-12-2006, 03:50 PM
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We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door onit. Only God knows why our lives turn out like they do. I've offten wondered how much control we do have over ourselves. We do have free will. It's so sad, it takes us so long to know what we want in life. I look back over my past love affairs and I'm glad they were there in that period in my life. I do like to hear of people reuniting with past loves and giving it another try. BTW, Ann how are you Hugs Chris
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01-19-2006, 08:56 AM
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Hey ((Anne)) -- it's never to late to change the course we are on. Hope you are well! Kathy
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01-22-2006, 11:02 AM
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Thinking about all those "what if's" will make you depressed....don't even go into that mess. The reality is you cannot go back and cannot change anything but the present and tomorrow....don't dwell on it. I'd be in a straight jacket if I started thinking about that kind of stuff...it leads nowhere. Be happy where you are...or make the neccessary changes within yourself to be happy.
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