A Much Needed Apology - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

12-07-2005, 03:39 PM

Wouldn't you know it, the very thing I so staunchly support, has snuck up and bit me in the @$$. That makes me a world-class hypocrite. This very upsetting. I was wrong to divulge certain details about someone who I regard very highly. It doesn't make sense.

Not only do I owe this person an apology, I also owe all the readers and visitors an apology for disrespecting the privacy of others. This seriously troubles me. Contrary to what I wrote in ''Scared Sober'', I'm not liking myself right at the moment.

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10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

I am so incredibly wrong by my behavior. Please forgive me.
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**best** · 12-07-2005, 03:45 PM

As we repent, we are forgiven.
Lesson learned and hopes of not repeating it seem to be your goal.
Sure looks like repentance to me.

abtchonamission · 12-07-2005, 03:48 PM

I don't know who you're apologizing to, or for what - but it looks good on you. You may not like yourself much at the moment...but me - I like the person I'm seeing here quite a bit. Takes a special person to apologize, even more special when it's so obviously meant.

CAPTAINZING2000 · 12-07-2005, 03:54 PM

OUCH,

Don't know what you did. Nice thing about recovery, it opens our eyes up to our mistakes.

We can still say things we regret in the heat of the moment.

Takes a mature person to admit they made a mistake. It gets easier all the time to make amends.

**historyteach** · 12-07-2005, 04:29 PM

Teshuva.
In the Jewish faith, there is no "sin" per say. There is "missing the mark."
We perform teshuva when we "turn around; try again."
You have recognized that you've missed the mark, and you're turning around to try again.
That's amazing growth.

Thank you for sharing it with us, and in doing so, modeling excellent recovery behavior! It's worth emulating!

Shalom!

abtchonamission · 12-07-2005, 04:37 PM

I like that teach...sounds so much nicer than saying "I f'd up." I simply missed the mark, so I turned around and tried again. Much, much better.

CAPTAINZING2000 · 12-07-2005, 04:39 PM

Trish

that sounds so becoming from you

12-07-2005, 05:41 PM

Thanks Everybody. {{HUGS}} It all boils down to the nature of our disease. Not even realizing it, we can still end up hurting the people we love the most. Besides hurting ourselves. That's what makes me furious.

Thanks for the kind words. I should not say to whom this apology is for, except for this...

Tsereth hash-Shachar, Na'Ariel Adonai.

**CarolD** · 12-07-2005, 06:39 PM

Whatever you did...went by me Barry.

sigh....out of the loop again!

Keep your head up....done and done.

12-07-2005, 07:25 PM

Thx Carol. Hopefully, this chantra will redeem me.

Tsereth hash-Shachar, Na'Ariel Adonai.

''The Splendor of the Dawn, and handmaiden of the Lord.''

bella · 12-07-2005, 08:54 PM

have no idea what you did, but it seems like you are genuinely appologetic. that is really all that matters. hearts motive. glad you came out and acknowledged it. says a lot for who you have become.

12-07-2005, 08:58 PM

Thank you, karmabella.

CAPTAINZING2000 · 12-07-2005, 09:10 PM

Just remember, you haven't any control over this person unless they give it to you.

Had a guy bring this up at the meeting tonight. I asked him if, he needed to make amends to this guy and he said, no he didn't have to make amends but, he was going to call the guy up and talk about the issue at hand

Chance · 12-07-2005, 09:21 PM

HUmmmmmmm I don't know what is going on but then again I really don't need to hope that you are ok with you.

Love Vic

Wolfstarr · 12-07-2005, 09:49 PM

((((Midas))))

You are recovery at it's finest....

12-07-2005, 10:31 PM

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Originally Posted by CaptainZing

Just remember, you haven't any control over this person unless they give it to you.

Oh yeah. I realize this. That's the last thing I need, is trying to control the uncontrollable.

Thx Vic.

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Originally Posted by Wolfstarr

You are recovery at it's finest....

Thx Wolfie.

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Originally Posted by Ladyonamission

I like the person I'm seeing here quite a bit. Takes a special person to apologize, even more special when it's so obviously meant.

Thank You.

Some good things come in threes...this is the third time around...I don't want to lose this time.

Tsereth hash-Shachar, Na'Ariel Adonai.

''The Splendor of the Dawn, and handmaiden of the Lord.''

stormyautumn · 12-07-2005, 10:32 PM

Hmmmm little confused, I read the post but didn't see anythig wrong with it, but then again I'm blonde, hope everything works out..

12-07-2005, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Stormy

Hmmmm little confused, I read the post but didn't see anythig wrong with it, but then again I'm blonde, hope everything works out..

Thx. It's the thought that matters.

12-08-2005, 09:02 PM

Well...I heard from the ''primary intended recipient'' of my apology. Issue status downgraded to condition zero. My resolve? I need to be more careful, and I need to practice what I preach. That's my resolve.

Thank You Everyone, for all the kind words.

namommy · 12-09-2005, 06:24 AM

I don't know what it is you said, but I do know you made your amends rather well.

It takes a lot of humility to 'swallow it' and make amends. Kudos to you for that.

I admire your courage, strenght, honesty, and humility. Awesome recovery.

12-09-2005, 03:53 PM

Thx very much, namommy. Thank you.

12-07-2005, 03:45 PM	#2 (permalink)
best Don't get undies in a bunch Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: South Shore MA Posts: 7,184	As we repent, we are forgiven. Lesson learned and hopes of not repeating it seem to be your goal. Sure looks like repentance to me. __________________ * I asked God to spare me pain. God said "No", Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to me. Recovery Related Acronym B. E. S. T. = Been Enjoying Sobriety Today?

12-07-2005, 03:48 PM	#3 (permalink)
abtchonamission Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: In the mountain air Posts: 1,349	I don't know who you're apologizing to, or for what - but it looks good on you. You may not like yourself much at the moment...but me - I like the person I'm seeing here quite a bit. Takes a special person to apologize, even more special when it's so obviously meant. __________________ Faith... When you come to the end of all the light you know and you are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing one of two things will happen: there will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught how to fly.

12-07-2005, 03:54 PM	#4 (permalink)
CAPTAINZING2000 ZING Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: ILLINOIS Posts: 5,571	OUCH, Don't know what you did. Nice thing about recovery, it opens our eyes up to our mistakes. We can still say things we regret in the heat of the moment. Takes a mature person to admit they made a mistake. It gets easier all the time to make amends. __________________ LIFE IS GOD'S GIFT TO YOU WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE IS YOUR GIFT TO GOD

12-07-2005, 04:29 PM	#5 (permalink)
historyteach To Life! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 8,261	Teshuva. In the Jewish faith, there is no "sin" per say. There is "missing the mark." We perform teshuva when we "turn around; try again." You have recognized that you've missed the mark, and you're turning around to try again. That's amazing growth. Thank you for sharing it with us, and in doing so, modeling excellent recovery behavior! It's worth emulating! Shalom! __________________ IMAGINE

12-07-2005, 04:37 PM	#6 (permalink)
abtchonamission Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: In the mountain air Posts: 1,349	I like that teach...sounds so much nicer than saying "I f'd up." I simply missed the mark, so I turned around and tried again. Much, much better. __________________ Faith... When you come to the end of all the light you know and you are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing one of two things will happen: there will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught how to fly.

12-07-2005, 04:39 PM	#7 (permalink)
CAPTAINZING2000 ZING Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: ILLINOIS Posts: 5,571	Trish that sounds so becoming from you __________________ LIFE IS GOD'S GIFT TO YOU WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE IS YOUR GIFT TO GOD

12-07-2005, 05:41 PM	#8 (permalink)
Midas Guest Posts: n/a	Thanks Everybody. {{HUGS}} It all boils down to the nature of our disease. Not even realizing it, we can still end up hurting the people we love the most. Besides hurting ourselves. That's what makes me furious. Thanks for the kind words. I should not say to whom this apology is for, except for this... *Tsereth hash-Shachar, Na'Ariel Adonai.*

12-07-2005, 06:39 PM	#9 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Dallas, Ga. USA Posts: 16,000	Whatever you did...went by me Barry. sigh....out of the loop again! Keep your head up....done and done. __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery!

12-07-2005, 07:25 PM	#10 (permalink)
Midas Guest Posts: n/a	Thx Carol. Hopefully, this chantra will redeem me. *Tsereth hash-Shachar, Na'Ariel Adonai.* ''The Splendor of the Dawn, and handmaiden of the Lord.''

12-07-2005, 08:54 PM	#11 (permalink)
bella Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Hog Country Posts: 167	have no idea what you did, but it seems like you are genuinely appologetic. that is really all that matters. hearts motive. glad you came out and acknowledged it. says a lot for who you have become. __________________

12-07-2005, 08:58 PM	#12 (permalink)
Midas Guest Posts: n/a	Thank you, karmabella.

12-07-2005, 09:10 PM	#13 (permalink)
CAPTAINZING2000 ZING Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: ILLINOIS Posts: 5,571	Just remember, you haven't any control over this person unless they give it to you. Had a guy bring this up at the meeting tonight. I asked him if, he needed to make amends to this guy and he said, no he didn't have to make amends but, he was going to call the guy up and talk about the issue at hand __________________ LIFE IS GOD'S GIFT TO YOU WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE IS YOUR GIFT TO GOD

12-07-2005, 09:21 PM	#14 (permalink)
Chance JUST DO IT!! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Here Or There Posts: 7,097 Blog Entries: 9	HUmmmmmmm I don't know what is going on but then again I really don't need to hope that you are ok with you. Love Vic __________________ With Love and Respect Vic Life isn't yesterday or tomorrow it is in the now.....

12-07-2005, 09:49 PM	#15 (permalink)
Wolfstarr Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Deeeep South Posts: 745	((((Midas)))) You are recovery at it's finest.... __________________

12-07-2005, 10:32 PM	#17 (permalink)
stormyautumn Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Indianapolis Posts: 944	Hmmmm little confused, I read the post but didn't see anythig wrong with it, but then again I'm blonde, hope everything works out.. __________________ "If life is a bowl of cherries; what am I always doing in the pits" - Erma Bombeck

12-08-2005, 09:02 PM	#19 (permalink)
Midas Guest Posts: n/a	Well...I heard from the ''primary intended recipient'' of my apology. Issue status downgraded to condition zero. My resolve? I need to be more careful, and I need to practice what I preach. That's my resolve. Thank You Everyone, for all the kind words.

12-09-2005, 06:24 AM	#20 (permalink)
namommy Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Never, Never land Posts: 2,711	I don't know what it is you said, but I do know you made your amends rather well. It takes a lot of humility to 'swallow it' and make amends. Kudos to you for that. I admire your courage, strenght, honesty, and humility. Awesome recovery. __________________ I came into this program to save my a** and found out it was attached to my soul. --Anonymous

12-09-2005, 03:53 PM	#21 (permalink)
Midas Guest Posts: n/a	Thx very much, namommy. Thank you.

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