Yets---VS--AGAINS

[Chance]

Ok I know that you are suppose to relate in the program, you're suppose to look at the simularities not the differences right. Well I here stories of people being in prison, DWI'S (now DUI'S), etc, etc, etc. Those for me are the YETS, I have not crossed that line thank my HP for that. But I truly believe that it is the AGAINS that I have to worry about. If I don't drink or use I AGAIN, I won't have to really worry about the YETS that people always say "Well I haven't done that yet, or I haven't done that yet...Well tell us then what you have done so maybe some of us can relate LMAO...

I know for me I got here with the 3 H's. I was Helpless, Homeless, and Hopeless, now I have been on paper (get well cards, permission slips) whatever you want to call Probation, today I am not on any of that. And then you here all this talk about treatment...Well I have never been there either, I have gone into the rooms and have done mostly what people have said to do..It is when I think that I know all the answers that is when I get into trouble..But I really would like to know, if we are suppose to look at the simularities, why do some people talk about YETS, when it doesn't even apply to them and why on earth would you concentrate on the YETS when you might want to focus on the AGAINS...

OK I just needed to get that out and I probably should have put this on a different forum also, but it is late and I am going to bed this time LOL>>>

Love Vic

[hopealwayz]

Thanks for sharing Vic!
The yets can remind us of where we will go if we try are only thinking in the terms of AGAINS. It is sneaky.

[Justme57]

Hi Vic ! Thanks for your share .
I recently had a close encounter with the "yets" A friend in AA , whom I have known well over the last 2 years , had 16 years sobriety , and she picked up for 5 months, she is back, and sharing about the yets as they happened for her . very humbling, and very moving.
She told me that the cravings she is now experiencing, and the physical symptoms are many times worse than when she first put the drink down 16 years ago.

HUGX
Lee

[Chance]

Originally Posted by Justme57

had 16 years sobriety , and she picked up for 5 months,
HUGX
Lee

See that is the answer to my riddle or what have you if she had not done it AGAIN then the YETS she would have not encountered.. I have to focuse for me on the agains, I don't want to go back and use. Just like when people in the program say that if you want to drink or use play that tape all the way through to the end, well hell I can not do that. If I play that tape all the way through I might get stuck somewhere in the middle where I did have some fun. So I usually just play the end of the tape and I really don't want to go there. But that would be an AGAIN. I don't know just a good topic I suppose, no real answer.

Love Vic

[wolflet]

i hear what you are saying, yet (lol!) at the begining of this year i found many people coming into my life that had DUI'S, or car wrecks, etc.....faceing lost liscences & classes & fines & job struggles & therapy, etc etc........i took a good long look & realized that that could easily be me dealing with all of that......but it had not happened YET & i was inspired to not let it happen (other reasons that i am here too0....it really reinforced my descisions........for me the yet in my head head was more powerful than the agains.........just me tho, not trying to start a riot

[wolflet]

oh yeah, all of that coinsided with getting pulled over with expired tags on my car & no insurance ($500 poorer)........i thought long & hard about the fact that i could have just as easily been leaving the bar instead of work!

[Chance]

Well I went to a meeting tonight again and this time I was thinking when everyone was talking that I am pretty grateful not to have some of those YETS>>>One guy has been to treatment 6 times I have never been there YET but It could happen if I choose to go back out and try it AGAIN...Also there was another guy spoke how he had all those DWI's LOL I have never had one thank God....although I should have had a bunch of things it has never happened, so today I do look at it as though YET=You're Elgible To....I have to remember that there is always another bottom just waiting for me and it would be alot worse than what I have ever faced and I have faced bottom of bottoms....

Just tonight I was thanking God MY HP for what I have...Hell today I could actually afford to buy some coke (soda LOL) it has been awhile since I have even been able to do something like that. I can not believe some of the simple things in life that most of us take for granted..like the coke thing I was always able to afford whatever I wanted and today I am grateful when I get somethings like that...but I wouldn't have them now either if I wasn't doing the next right thing...So today I am grateful for doing what I feel is right (maybe not everyones values) but to mine as of today, subject to change...

Love Vic