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05-28-2008, 01:56 PM
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He uses hand tools KJ for his jobs mostly or gets them out for the job. Involuntary committment on strictly alcohol is very very difficult. He had volunteered for an assessment went to a few outpatient sessions and decided hes not hurting anyone when drinking, technically he's hurting himself the most right now. I talked to him a few times this afternoon, it seems he has had a good day, rather than what I predicted. Passed out some flyers, worked out, did some laundry,studied a little. He hasnt been to the pawn shop (owned by coworker's husband). The boys went to neighbors after school. Called to see if they could go home. Neighbor was talking to AH too, she's in her backyard and says the kids mine and hers were in the new sprinkler thing in the yard
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05-28-2008, 07:22 PM
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soooo, he of the amazing healing powers is MUCH better today! his shoulder still hurts and his range of motion is limited parallel to the shoulder and above but he worked a full day and isn't crippled. we talked about this and he agrees that even IF it is feeling better he still needs to have it looked at and take appropriate measures....he is of course making the most of this "injury" - from time to time it hits me just how much i do around here, how much of a load i carry.....he thoughtfully left me some work sweatshirts to wash from his car....they were right by his lunch box OUTSIDE the front door on the little porch......can't get the sh*t IN the house, unload his own lunchbox, or god forbid run the laundry down to the machinery that DOES the laundry...but dang it, he gets his @ss to work every day, even when he's virtually one armed, and he comes home every day right on time.....i'd rather have lunchboxes and work clothes by the front door than an empty driveway......... soon i'll be heading up to the teriyaki joint........hank claims he needs to eat, but isn't "going anywhere" - a quick survey of the occupant load in this house indicates if HE ain't going, i get to........ the neighbors were out on the dock, got to see the little baby madison....gosh she's growing quick...asked if they needed bucky's help with any more gardening, nope we're good thanks!!  hank re-upped trent with more trout pellets....while he and bucky were on the dock i got the kitchen floor swept and grabbed the carpet swiffer......and hold onto your shorts kids....the kitchen is...CLEAN. all dishes done, most put away, counters bleached and wiped down....even rinsed the cherry tomatoes!!!! serious moral victory.....miss renee and her beau went to the M's vs Red Sox game last nite....Mariners won! finally! praise God. he was supposed to go with a buddy tonite, but the buddy bailed so she gets to go again!!! it's weird here in seattle, it's like a satellite Red Sox Nation, nayz said m's fans were out numbered but she did her best to REPRESENT!!! tonite we have our ace, eric bedard, against the sidewinder timmy wakefield........hopefully with little miss good luck charm the mariners can get a two game winning streak going! now he's thinking maybe just order pizza........makes my life even easier....what a champ huh? Last edited by anvilhead; 05-28-2008 at 07:42 PM. |
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05-29-2008, 06:47 AM
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thanks for the pictures - he is precious!! kj - I do love having the computer at the house - hope to have time this afternoon to hang out on it - life is always busy, busy, busy in my world. Here's to a great day - regardless of what the world tries to throw at us!!
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05-29-2008, 06:57 AM
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| Just plainly tired  Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: crossroads
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Hey guys well I am at work reluctantly but here I am. My mouth is still sore the doctor gave me vicodin for the pain. I didnt want it but he said I need to take it. if I take one it doesnt work I need to take two at night so I could fall asleep and then pain gets a little more numb. Abf is still using... he said last night to me that he is going to stop everything, drugs, beer and cigarettes.... not holding my breathe. I am trying to seperate myself as much as I can while he is still home. He still working and giving money... on the surface if anyone sees him he looks fine. His family chooses not to see how bad its getting, his brother who relapsed several months ago after being cleaning for about 4 or 5 years is going down fast. He is starting to steal from my sister.. well she thinks he might be cause things are missing from her home. I wonder if he is stealing or is it her home is such a mess she cant find the things she believes is missing. As for me I am doing so so to be honest... I have my moments where I feel like I am going crazy then I have my other moments where I feel serene. hugs to you all
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05-29-2008, 07:08 AM
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Good Morning. I feel rested, got about 11 hours sleep, went walking this am, starting to see difference in my waist line. YAH. All critters cared for and sent boys off to school, only 1 more week left for this year. AH was up already starting to mow and do other yard work for us and neighbor and made me a vegetarian ceasar pita for lunch. (Those are my favorites these days.) Kids all gearing up for their weekend away, each separately, little D with MIL, Dar with my sister and Garrett with my mom. Theyll have fun.
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05-29-2008, 07:25 AM
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oh what a precious baby! i'm surprised he isn't glued to Nana Palm's arms!!! so so sleep but feeling pretty good....hank got a good solid night's sleep, his shoulder is still sore, but much improved. he's doing a good job of keeping his right arm tucked in against his waist when not in use. so now he's thinking he'll just rent an appliance dolly from the uhaul around the corner and we'll get the old fridge moved out to the porch (really add the ghetto flair, dont ya think???) and he seems to think we can get the new fridge moved........he's gonna see about grabbing a "recruit" from work.....undoubtedly everyone will suddenly have something important to do, like go to the dry cleaners or something....i DID get him to park his butt in his chair and ice his shoulder for 15 sminutes.....he's so funny, is 15 minutes up yet???? no mr tse-tse fly, not yet.... my boss and some of the other faculty are off to a big meeting so it should be fairly quiet at work, and if i don't stroll in til 9 that will be just fine! we did go with pizza last nite.....the super combo thingie, really good....we swapped out the black olives for jalepenos. sent one slice in hank's lunch, and i'll be grabbing the rest thank you very much! not exactly a WARM day.....we've got a big push of marine air so there's thick high clouds, no rain tho, just hi's in the 60s.... |
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05-29-2008, 08:01 AM
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| Just plainly tired Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: crossroads
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I am trying to eat a roll of butter but keep getting pain... arghh
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05-29-2008, 08:04 AM
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Well Cindi what are you going to do on your weekend with no kids? I hope something fun and relaxing. Anvil... glad Hank's shoulder is feeling better... maybe its just a pulled muscle or something. Jewelz.... you sound tired and fed up girl. My thoughts and prayers are with you. One day at a time is all we can do. So praying you have a peaceful day. Palm... what a precious baby...thank you for sharing the pics with us. Well the morning has started off well. I did not want to get up this morning so slept a bit later. AH was supposed to get some work from one of his friends today but the guy is not going out to that property, so he's home with the kids. I'm actually happy about that. My sis-in-law has her hands full and apparantly Jake has been giving her a hard time. It does seem my talking to him about it has helped but I just really don't like imposing upon her. Made it to my meeting last night... the topic was communication. Big Big issue in our home that we will constantly be working on. In a bit of a quandry today. The bank sent me some papers of two options to review on modifying my mortgage. The first only adds approximately 2,000 to the principle. The second adds about 8 thousand to the total principle but a much lower monthly payment. I am waiting to hear back from the Bankruptcy attorney to discuss a Chapter 13 instead of a Chapter 7 that might allow me to pay back the rearages to the Condo Association in a longer period of time with a much lower payment. Not sure about the other debts though and if I have to pay those back or if they are completely discharged. I'd love to save my home but I also have to think about my Plan B. If AH and I decide to split I still would not be able to afford to keep the place on my own not without the help of child support and taking on a second job on a Saturday. The loan modification is only for 3 years then the interest rate goes back to where it was and I begin paying on the new modified mortgage loan... or could still sell it if in three years the market changes. There are alot of if's in this deal and the biggest if is my relationship. Every other week we're calling it quits then go back to the counselor or talk it out... whatever I do I have to make sure I can afford to stay or start over on my own. Please say some prayers this morning for me to have discernment and guidance during this decision making. Hugs to all and have a great day.
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05-29-2008, 08:11 AM
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Im sorry for all the stress AJ. This weekend we are going back to Universal and Islands of Adventure as have a second day free. We decided to go back with no kids and be able to eat at a nice place and hang out at City Walk that night. Itll be fun to ride the roller coasters and no worrying about childswap
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05-29-2008, 08:18 AM
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aj- prayers of clarity said for you so that you will have your HP's best in your life. Jewelz - hope the mouth feels better soon - sounds like you need a nice bowl of homemade potato soup, maybe then some of the leftover banana pudding at my house. Take care of you. I finally had to share with the many A's in my life that I couldn't hear the "i'm quitting, I'm never doing that again, no more using/drinking/gambling, etc." promises. In their hearts i'm sure they meant well - but I told them that was uncomfortable for me and I could hear "best intentions" lines anymore - I could only base my thoughts and decisions on actions. I couldn't be there encourager, cheerleader, moral support or whatever - it wasn't healthy for me - I told them I lifted them up in prayer, cared for them but could not be the one they told those things to anymore. It was NOT pretty the first couple of times - but eventually they are starting to do that less & less - of course Ash isn't talking at all - so who knows what she is doing? her God does & He'll take care of her is what I'm trusting in. Anvil - glad that Hankster is healing up pretty well - refrigerator on the porch - yep - you could look like us - two houses, one about to fall down, sofa on the front porch cause the kids won't come pick it up - TPT is what we look like (that's trailer park trash) oh well - I'm from Louisiana - I'm suppose to be that way - right? I cook & eat all those crazy wild animals so I'm suppose to have a little "redneck/cajun/woodys" look to my home. he he he
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05-29-2008, 08:24 AM
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gosh AJ, me personally i'd be VERY wary of any loan instrument that has an adjustable rate. i'd look good and hard at what i can afford, in such a depressed market and a less than certain relationship. i'd seek the path of least resistance, the one that FEELS the most right.....and provides YOU with the most security
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05-29-2008, 08:28 AM
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Wow.....sorry for all ya'lls crap! Ya'll know how I feel about the guys and the disease..... I hate any of you have to deal with it! Today, is Thursday....geez could a 4 day week PLEASE be longer????? I have so much to do at home before my flowers that I didn't get planted die....hmpffffffffff And Saturday is not looking like I will be able to accomplish anything but running......whew.. Starting to really think about this deal with my dad....yeah it's cool he's found someone and that he will be happy and not alone, but and this is highly selfish of me....not to mention he's 76 for God's sake....but what about all the projects at my house that aren't done yet???? See I'm such a twit. Next dilemma.....my 30 yr high school reunion is this year. I've not been to ANY of the others. So....part of me wants to go and a LOT of me doesn't but here's the thing....maybe there would be someone there I should meet up with???/ (yeah the sickest one! :rof ) And it could be a good motivator to possibly start sticking with my Weight Watchers better......maybe I could lose 20 lbs or so by then.....sigh Ya'll have a good 'un...............
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05-29-2008, 08:53 AM
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Get those flowers plenty of water Connie. Remember when I was showing work on my yard? Apparently my gladiolas and freescia were planted too late in the season cause the plants look great but NO flowers at all. My gerber daiseys are nice and dark green too, but the flowers have ceased and I dont think they are coming back. Fortunately with some over cast days theres a little life in my grass left and my hibiscus are blooming great. Id like to get a few rose bushes and about 100 bags of mulch to finish up, and a fan for the Florida room/sun room. Although I still love every morning sitting there as the sun comes up and feeding my turtles (trout chow pellets actually)
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05-29-2008, 09:39 AM
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| Just plainly tired Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: crossroads
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you know I am in more pain than I was yesterday. I wish my cubicle was hidden so I could just take a nap.
__________________ The thing we feel most guilty doing or the thing we hate to do the most is probably the right thing to do where the addict is concerned. It is the hardest thing of all to do. And if you don't know what to do .. then best to do nothing (safer ground). Thank you Passion |
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05-29-2008, 09:41 AM
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I'm not in pain really but I do want to take a nap!! And...we're fixin to go eat at the country club for this gal in the office's birthday....boy, I'll be yawning and nodding the rest of the damn day!!
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