Pennies for your thoughts part 66

[finallyout]

Good morning all!
Lies - so glad your son is back home with you, what a relief that must be!! will be keeping him in my thoughts.

amy - sending prayers up for your friend and his family.

connie - you and I both had late nights last night, glad you had a nice time, I did too, for the first time in a long time.

anvil-if you were my neighbor and i heard the mower going at 6am on a SAT, i'd flatten your darn tires LOL!!! make one of those yummy breakfasts your so good at first then proceed with the heavy equip!! can you come do my lawn too? it looks like a mini jungle out there.

so i'm at work today, with a killer headache, but i had such good time last night i don't even care that i'm sooo exhausted. ah got up and went to work, a good sign financially but nothing more. if i could just turn off my feelings for him, boy would my life be easier. oh well.

[anvilhead]

i just "made" 13.45 doing laundry!!!! 2nd load in, only 2 or so to go AND, drum roll please, the kitchen is CLEAN! i should take a picture huh? hank's got fish porn on......bucky is outside terrorizing something....it's still early and a bit chilly for yardwork.....i may be doing bathrooms soon.......i'd LOVE to mop the entry way floor cuz it is anything but pristine but i need him and him OUT of the house or it's an effort in futility!

"house needs paintin', grass needs mowin', going fishin'" - that's the fish porn jingle!

connie, do try and find some down time today ok? your @ss is NOT on fire, so you don't need to RUN!

finally, glad you had a good time, boy do you deserve it. good to hear that AH is working.......always keep in mind he has the ability to make GOOD or BAD decisions.....which he chooses is up to him.

no breakfast just yet, we're still doing coffee and getting it together....hank's planning a run to the hardware store, needs "stuff" to finish the deck and god knows what else. he looks so cute, all scruffy from sleeping.........

NOW the NOAA forecast is partly sunny and 73??? i think they just make it up.......cuz that is four different forecasts for the day. i bet tomorrow they'll get TODAY right?! it's pretty dang picturesque right now i tell ya!

[finallyout]

anvil - i've given up on the mopping, as soon as you clean it, they come back in and mess it all up again anyway! my new preferred method is to take an old towel, spray some cleaner on floor and wipe up with the towel, for larger areas just use your feet on the towel so you don't have to bend over LOL - i never said i was suzy homemaker!!

[anvilhead]

well i've been coaxed into a trip to the lumber yard/hardware store! weeeee! i know, i DO have all the fun. is ANYBODY interested in a dog? man what a butthead we have today....oh wait, that's not a real selling point is it? active, that's what we'll call him......at least he'll enjoy going on a bye-bye......

[cookconfay]

Ok, my little one is officially possessed. She is screaming, throwing a fit, wallering around like some kind of alien, trying to cry, wanting a blanket, not wanting a blanket, wanting in my lap, not wanting in my lap, even with the threat of NOT being able to swim today at all, she will NOT STOP. WTF? I can't take one more f*cking second of this crap. She's overtired, she's out of control today, I can NOT get her to lay still, I can NOT get her to take a nap, I can NOT get anything done, I can NOT handle this situation at all right now. She is in her room and will NOT STOP screaming at the top of her lungs. This has officially been going on for over 30-45 minutes. I know it's 95% because she is so tired, but what in the hell do I do?

Please pray for her and pray for her to start listening to me, pray for me to be able to PARENT her.

[Jewelz]

Cook, If shes safe in her room just let her scream all she wants.. eventually she will stop.. she will get tired of screaming and yelling and will give up. I know its hard and tough but you could do it.

Take it easy.. okay?

[cookconfay]

wow....she finally calmed down and slept about an hour! WHEW, but here I am still don't have one flower in the ground, bags of dirt, concrete pavers, edgers etc piled up around the front porch you can hardly get up the steps! I guess I'm gonna skip church tomorrow so I can work on making some kind of a dent in that stuff!

[Impurrfect]

Well, my friend Randy has had almost a complete recovery from his stroke, but found out he may have major heart problems, so I'm still praying.

I'm in a funk..don't know if it's PMS or just a lot of little stresses ganging up on me. I've finally gotten used to NOT having to be stressed to feel "normal", so am trying to let go of what I can't control (which is most of it!). Work is just not going well...little or no tips, too many people working.

I keep reminding myself that "this, too, shall pass"

[liesagain]

Finally, you dont have to be suzy homemaker........its enough whatever you do........dirty floors well they can always wait a day or two longer........relax enjoy your day

Anvil, have fun on the shopping trip .............the last pic i saw of the deck it already looked beautiful, you two should have your own home remodeling business

Impurrfect glad to hear your coworker/friend is better............take it easy you've had a long week....

Connie---cant give parenting help right now but I want to say hang in there this should pass and YOUR A GOOD MOM to Gracie...........hugs

hope everyones having a good weekend

Wendy...........did I ever get a chance to tell you thank you so much for the card? It was great and made my day ..............sorry if I didnt tink to mention it before...........

hope everyone has a great day.......................

[liveweyerd]

Rita, I am so sorry about your ex, the father of your girls. I was trying to think of something good or wise to say.

I have had a really good, for me, week......a full week with hearty laughter and 3 very productive days. maybe soon we can see our home again! LOL

the leave his laundry to him thing never works for me......I just have to accept that my hubs is not domestic and be glad for the things he does.

[finallyout]

wow what a beautiful sunday it is here. its already 80 degrees and sunny, i hope this weather holds out for our picnic tommorrow. went to the store and got lots of yummy stuff to make pasta salad and strawberry shortcake. screw the diet! now i'm at work and its dead here, gonna be a long day.

had a long talk with ah last night, i do think his remorse is genuine, just not sure if its cuz he got arrested or cuz he used in the first place? i made it clear that this kind of life was not acceptable for me & the kids and that if he doesn't follow thru on the outpatient treatment and meetings and working, or if he uses again, he has to move out asap and i said i would use force if necessary. he said he understands and he knows the kids deserve better. so with all that said, i will just keep putting one foot in front of the other and take care of me and the kids and pray that he follows thru, but of course, i'm not holding my breath on his promises anymore. its just all so sad to me.

amy- glad your friend is doing better, i hope work picks up for you.

connie - my theory is to just let em scream. every kid is different but for mine when their over tired, i give them some milk and sit with them while they lay down, i make sure the tv is off and everything is quiet and eventually they fall asleep. its tough, i know, i usually have a 2yr old and a 3yr old screaming and then my 8yr old whinnig cuz the babies are giving him a headache! i really do live in a crazy house!

live - glad you had a good week!

alright, i guess its back to working now for me, ughh

[cookconfay]

Ok, skipping church today....shame on us. But.........gotta get at LEAST this front yard spiffed up. I'm not even mowing & edging! I am just trying to pick a few weeds that are scattered about, put down some concrete scalloped edger thingies, throw a few flowers down, got 2 bushes trimmed yesterday just gotta clean up the debris under them.....and clean off the porch? You'd think a person could get that done in a day huh? We're down to the 3rd day of a 4 day weekend and nope, not all done yet. So much for having that AND the back yard seeded in spots etc etc...

I blame it all on little one. She takes precedence you know....:rof

Anyways, maybe we'll make some headway........

Ya'll have a good one.

[anvilhead]

connie, i knew eventually her little body would just wear out! take it easy on the yard stuff today, rome wasn't built in a day and neither was connie's garden!!!!

gosh what a jam packed day we had! two trips to two different hardware stores, trip to met market for some grub, i pulled a ton of weeds and whacked at bushes and ferns, filled up the big yard waste bin. got the weed whacker out and hit the middle yard and as far up the drive as the cord would let me. the got the blower out - boy i may never sweep again. hauled the blower out to the patio and got that all clean and tidy too. hank mowed the front yard along the drive and the middle yard - it was roasting by that time but that didn't slow him down - he virtually RUNS will mowing!

a friend couple came over and we all played and kayaked and fed the fishies, hank grilled up burgers and dogs..........fed the troops and by then i kinda ran out of gas. the boys built a fire in the fire pit/bbq and hank finally came to bed about midnight. bucky ran hard all day!! swam out after hank in the kayak, frolicked, was a pest. it rained over night so everything smells all fresh this morning.......i give up relying on the weather forecast, so we'll see how the day goes.

kenny and nicole are still snoozing downstairs, imagine i'll be feeding the group before too long.....sausage biscuits eggs country gravy. gonna devote the day to R&R....house held up pretty well to all the activity.......hank got a fish hook in his finger, with the fish STILL on it! but today it's hardly noticeable and he says it doesn't hurt. man has amazing healing powers!

oh look fish porn! we're in the boundary waters now.........life is good!

[kj0975]

HI everyone. Finally hope AH is sincere and if hes not make sure you follow through. Amy sorry to hear about your friend hopefully everything works out with him. Connie overtired kids are NOT fun but hopefully today is a better day. Lies sorry to hear about your son but at least he is open to treatment and it gets under control with the right meds. Anvil damn you wore me out. I tried lunest once and I like it. didnt knock me out didnt like the funny taste it gave me but I didnt care I got some sleep.

Sorry I have been MIA been so busy. Just sent scott out fishing and had a minute to catch up. Off to do the dishes and finish laundry.

[cookconfay]

Well built a flower bed, planted some stuff in it, seeded and put dirt on the North side of my front yard.....cleaned up and watered rest of flowers yet to be planted, now going out to dad's and spending the night, he lives 30 miles away.....

Little one put some grass seed down in the flower bed for me....grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, I know I know she's only 4 and she wanted to help, but dang it.....seems I can't get nothing done, I'm not motherly when it comes to letting her help, when I'm covered in dirt and mud, mama mama mama.....it drives me crazy sometimes, then I go through the guilt of never having everything "done" so I can just sit down with her....sick I tell ya, I just want to run the F*ck off.

[canuhearme]

Hey Connie, I have a secrete to this mommy stuff that worked very well so me.
My secret is pretending, pretend you like to let her help with everything you can. Sounds silly but you will wake up one day and find you do like it. I hated the nightly book reading, but I felt I had to, so I never told a soul (until now) I just pretended I liked it. Now I can't say I love to read the little red caboose, but I don't feel any stress over doing it. And I have never once thought after wards "I wasted my time". I'm proud of my self for it.
Just a though~

[Jewelz]

Connie, dont feel bad I'm not either.. I rather do the things myself and get it done right the first time.

Your a single mom doing everything you can to make things good for both of you. It's overwhelming.. and there is nothing wrong with feeling overwhelmed. Your daughter at four years old is at the age where she wants to do it.. she believes shes a little independent woman thats the age. Remember if she is going to scream and yell as long as she safe let her. When she sees thats not working in her favor she will eventually give up.

My son hes two and I swear he thinks hes a little man and in charge. Everyone gives into him.... esspecially his dad. When we are outside with his dad this boy dont want to listen, doesnt want to cross the street holding hands, wants to run in the train station, he really is something else. His father barely tells him no and when Mike screams he always gives in to him. Me on the other hand my attitude is if you want to scream go ahead but your still not going to get what you want.

So last week I had to travel on the train with Mike by myself, needed to do some jewerly shopping for my neices in an area that there are so many people. I was nervous going alone just cause how Mike is when me and his dad is together. Do you know 90% of the time the boy was an angel. He held my hand, didnt give me problems on the train and we went to four different Jewerly stores and he behaved. It wasnt till we went into payhalf that his other side came out and he started hiding in the clothes racks, LOL But all in all he behaved real good. Be stern with her, dont let her get you to give in to her yelling and screaming... and most of all dont let her see that her yelling gets to you. Those little kids are smart real smart.

be strong

hugs,
Jewel

[anvilhead]

can i give a big halle-frickin-lulliah for sleep????? oh man i had the best sleep i've had in..........eons........last nite!!! still woke up, but not til 2, and went right back to sleep. no weird dreams, no mind going a million miles an hour, just good ole sleep! that lunesta is a dang god send!

so grateful for one more day off. we devoted ourselves to as much nothing as possible yesterday and were hugely successful. we're getting it together for a much needed store run.....we made do with what's on hand yesterday but it would be a challenge today to pull a MEAL out of the cupboards!!! its early enough that the store shouldn't be too crazy, hopefully there won't be groups the size of small countries shopping as well!

i'll have to report back later.......but i INSIST that EVERYONE have a good day! relax, enjoy, do only what you want, take a nap....see ya a bit later

[anvilhead]

meanwhile back at the trout farm........nice day.....successful mission to Winco......tons of groceries, totalling $104! chasing hank thru the store is a bit like a track meet but it was so nice to go together! bucky too, but he just sat in the car, in MY seat!!! got everything stored and put away, spent the day putzing and puttering, vast majority of the dishes done, did the windows, the bathrooms, wiped down the baseboards, went and took cutting from the lilac and the whatsit with the pretty white flowers for the vase in the front room, hank cooked up bacon and eggs, took a wee bit of a nap, then he finished caulking the deck boards with that liquid nails stuff, i have conquered laundry, got the bone in pork roast dry rubbed, seared in the dutch oven with some braising liquid and sliced onions, bucky has been fairly well behaved.........so grateful for this one extra day off, EXACTLY what the soul needed!!!

not sure if ya'll have had a chance to tune into any of the mars mission.......pretty dang cool.....knowing that we have successfully landed on another planet!!?? and to see pictures of the mars surface....we've sort of given up watching the Mariners right now, it's just depressing!!!! i've got the bed stripped so it will be clean sheet night!!!

[kj0975]

Morning everyone WOW its quiet here this morning. I guess everyone has a case of the tuesday's. Had a peaceful weekend yet busy. My boss is making sure that I know its back to work today no playing around. YA Right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hes silly. Hope everyone has a great day!!

[cinderellawkids]

Good Morning, and I feel like its a wonderful morning indeed. Im glad everyone accomplished alot and no major drama deals this weekend.

Saturday we went to Universal, got a little late start but made it. Got poured oin twice but it was still great. Next weekend AH and I are going back just the 2 of us(we have a 2nd day free) Pictures are next store at the photo place so Ill share later this afternoon. Making all 3 boys there own album of memories from the trip.

Sunday, dont remember much. feet were blistered and everything ached. We bought this sprinkler thing a ball that shoots water for the kids. Thought about a pool like Connies but remembered her chemical price was high and decided, next year. Got some cleaning done, scrubbed animal enclosures, took bags of trash out of the kids room and accomplished about 12 loads of laundry, complete to putting it away and even emptied out the sock basket.

Monday, NOTHING and it was fabulous!!! I laid around on the couch all day while AH served me my meals and snacks. We watched about 10 hours of american gladiator marathon-I actually enjoyed it, and we all went to bed at 9:00

I feel so refreshed.

Lies, Im glad your son is home. Mines back to fine for now, and Im searching docs.