Penny for your thoughts number 59

[kj0975]

Rita that is so sad its gotta be hard for your mom especially not being able to let go. She will be in my thoughts today.

[anvilhead]

special loving thoughts for you and your mom today, rita. hugs

[cookconfay]

Rita....prayers, hugs & thoughts for ya'll today....

[liesagain]

cindi is ok she is just taking the day off

[cookconfay]

Thanks for the update Lies....how are you doing today?

[anvilhead]

i imagine she holds onto the pain, fearing if she lets that go, she lets HIM go...perhaps tell her gently that she can better honor his memory and spirit with joyful memories...........

sorry the protein drinks weren't up to snuff.......i've yet to find peanut butter flavored ones, but i'll keep an eye out!

[Japic05]

lies, if I remember correctly she doesn't have the home computer fixed yet? right?

so like me her only computer access is either at work or from a friend's computer.

ok, so Cindi when you check in - know we are sending out big Mafiaoso warnings for everyone to let you have a wonderful day, filled with peace, love & joy - praying you are able to rest & take good care of YOU.

If it doesn't work out that way, I'll head to FL with the NoNo!!

[anvilhead]

i wonder if the NoNo would work with Bucky????? probably not, he'd just eat it........boy did my motivation just pfizzle! making round 2 of java...did get some dishes moved from right side of sink to left, bed's made....showered........considering it's not even 8 i guess i'm doing ok....????

[Japic05]

Originally Posted by anvilhead

i imagine she holds onto the pain, fearing if she lets that go, she lets HIM go...perhaps tell her gently that she can better honor his memory and spirit with joyful memories...........

yea, several of us (my brothers & I) have tried to talk to her about this and about the way she is on the anniversary of her parent's deaths - for us, it is just about acceptance those things we cannot change - this is one of them, she's 66 yrs old and just not open to another way. Just like she still feels like she HAS to be working 24/7 at her house, even when she is hurting (has disc injuries in neck & back) She can't just sit and do nothing - relax enjoy reading a book, drinking coffee, has to be doing just to be doing . . .

And I remember being that way - my 1st sponsor gave me the task of coming home one afternoon a week and sitting, doing absolutely nothing - no housework, no cooking, no laundry, nothing - the first time I tried I lasted about 15 mins. the next week, maybe 30 - That innerself just screams you are a worthless person unless you are busy. I'm sure that is probably why she has to work.

She probably still hears the guilty of her parents (which they were great at the guilt trip) "you never do enough for us", "your brother and sister did this for us, what about you", blah, blah, blah - which is why she still feels so much pain and carrys out those obiligations and grief. My heart is sad for her but I am powerless over it.

Luckily for me - Recovery has taught me to serve eviction notices on Mr. Nasty Guilt Monster, I do what I can for my Mom now and it's a very comfortable amount for me and for her. Mr Guilt may try to wiggle it's way in my mind when I lose my Mom - but I have the tools to get the eviction notice out again and get him out of "Ritaville"

[anvilhead]

i still struggle with the "need" to be doing "something".....about the only time i was good at being a vegetable was when, well, i did serious bodily harm with drugs and couldn't do more than hold down the couch cushions.....now ole hank on the other hand has doing nothing down to an art form.......it'll irk me sometimes but i think i'm just jealous!

[kj0975]

Scott has that doing nothing thing down too. Maybe its a man thing. If Scott is smart today he will be home cleaning the house and he will not be relaxing. Well I can dream right. I am on strike at home. I work just as much and there is NO outside work to do on the house so he can do the inside too. I am not from the world of thats a womans job. Nope he lives there too, I am his fiance not a maid. Ok off my soap box...... Maybe I should just give him a jingle to see how the cleaning is going

[anvilhead]

i'd need to get myself a pair of hipwaders if i went on strike around here....at least hank doesn't generate tons of mess.......and i am a much better house cleaner!

[kj0975]

Scott doesnt have a problem living in his own filth either......... It will get to a point though where he will wave the white flag and admit defeat and clean. I want a club sandwich for lunch with lots of bacon!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE BACON!!!!!!!!!! There I go again drooling on the keyboard!! LOL

[kj0975]

Scott has 3 older sisters who pretty much raised him. One year they dressed him up as a woman with a mop and apron and hung a sign on him that said a womans work is never done and made him march in the kiddie parade dressed like that. Gotta love that LOL. That poor kid was torchered.

[anvilhead]

ooo a BLT sounds fab.........except we're missing the B the L and the T! got some jimmy deans hot sausage thawing, i'm hoping my master chef cooks me breakfast! hmm, wonder if we have any country gravy? best go check the larder............

[Palm Tree]

Rita...sorry your mom is hurting so much.......praying for her.....

[anvilhead]

ok finally, i'm ready to trade you straight across - NO 2 yr old can be as frustrating, bullheaded, and aggravating as this son of satan.....his time on the planet is getting shorter by the minute! hank just took him the car to head to the hardware store........ya'll know what that means???? time to vacuum........woo hoo

[Japic05]

hmmm country gravy - love that stuff - could just eat it with a spoon - over stuff is good - but even by it's self is good for me too - hey how about a protein shake that taste like biscuits & gravy - with a side of bacon - NOW that's what I'm talkin about!!

as you can tell my appetite is returning - It's Friday so everyone, all the food places, are serving FISH - bleck - it will be that way until Lent is over - at least some of them serve shrimp that's good - I love shrimp - wish our Long John Silver's hadn't closed - some popcorn shrimp and corn on the cob would be good too.

[Jewelz]

Ok its this time a year again.... does anyone have any idea for a science project thats due in two weeks and for a fourth grader??

[Japic05]

well Jewelz - being in SW LA - one of the girls did it on Crawfish - Hubby was working at a Seafood place at the time - had managed to save her the shell off a crawfish that had molted - she was 5th grade about that time -

did pretty well - did make it to any of the district or state fairs - but got an A - that's all that really matters.

think outside the box - don't go with the typical solar sys., volcano, evolution,
do you have one of those science type "kid zones" stores nearby? We don't here, but in New Orleans, next to the Aquaramin of the America's and some of the bigger malls they have stores with science stuff, animals growth patterns, , also there is a web site called "www.sciencemadesimple.com" that came up when I searched kids science projects - maybe that might help.

I'll be Cindi would have great ideas - with all the stuff her & the boys do.

[kj0975]

Well my bacon wrap stunk. They used bacon bits who uses bacon bits? I wanted big ol strips of bacon!!!! WTF. So lunch wasnt that good. I have a full belly and heavy eyes right now this day is going way too slow for me, all fridays go too slow.

[Jewelz]

I hate science projects even when I was a kid. We were thinking of doing a model of an eye... still not sure. It cant be too difficult or too simple..

[anvilhead]

can i be done with the frustrating part of the day now please???? sheesh. simple thing, go to shared credit union branch thing, get cash or cashiers check for truck. how hard can THAT be? well first the cash limit is 500....need more than that. in order to produce cashiers check need first and last name of party.....Jeff isn't good enough? back home, call Jeff, holler at hank, haul dumb dog back in car, what the heck, stop at petco for the undeserving wretch, off to shared branch, wah lah......

hank got the fence thing done so bucky can't make a water escape....he's trying to scrape up the moss and sweep the back patio....bucky loves to attack the broom.......which makes the sweeping part moot. oh good, now there's much barking - that dog is NOT going to see another sunrise i fear........don't take it personal, says the dog whisperer......well tell ya what cesar, whisper THIS....bite me. grrrrr

[kj0975]

Anvil he is just a baby........ I think if he got fixed he would calm right down he has alot of testosterone flowing through him and no where to dump it... LOL

[anvilhead]

He Is Fixed!!!!!!! its just a rough bucky day........they say another year or so and he'll be a good dog......sigh......