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Old 11-07-2009, 01:10 PM   #1 (permalink)
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sorry to do this AGAIN but I need one more peice of advice

ok the question I have is mostly for the women and that is is this just lunch or do you think she sees this as a potenial date

the story of how this starts is a tough one, on oct 26 my dad passed away at the age of 48 from a suspected heart attack (not buying the heart attack)

almost istantly one of my best friends contacted me and told me then when I got back from the funeral she was going to pick me up and buy me lunch so we could sit down and talk (so not only is she driving but she's paying I feel bad about her paying but she wants to so I cant stop her)

anyway being the type of person that I try to be and that my father was, and knowing how rough she has had it in her life I messege her and tell her that yes we will do lunch but that it DOES NOT have to be all about me, if there is anything she wants or needs to talk about she can open up because no matter what I myself am going through I'd ALWAYS have time to listen to her.

It is at this point I start thinking she sees this as more then just a lunch between friends because it is at this point she messeges me back and says how muh she appciates that and how she has so much she wants to tell me, she talks about how her heart is dedicated to my feelings, she talks about how I am the greatest person she has ever kown and how lucky she is to have a friend like. me and how she trusts me more then anyone els in this town.

so after I hear this from her I sit back and I have to wonder how do I play this? like a date? or like I originally thought it was, just a lunch between friends which I STILL feel like an ******* for having her pay for this.

Maybe she's jut trying to build me up after the death of my dad but they way she talks sometimes I don't know

guess I'll see next saturday
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Old 11-07-2009, 01:30 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Her message to you called you friend. I think that answers it.
Sometimes friendship can become something more, but with what you have described I think it would be a mistake and possible injurious to the friendship to presume and treat it as a date.
I have many male friends whom I love and appreciate. And I tell them so.
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Old 11-07-2009, 01:55 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I'm not treating it as a date more wondering if she is
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I don't think she's treating it as a date, but it does sound like she may have feelings for you.
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guess I'll find out tonight
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Old 11-15-2009, 05:54 PM   #6 (permalink)
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why 'play' any of it?

when the quiet moment hits, just ask, hon.
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Old 11-18-2009, 07:39 AM   #7 (permalink)
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just asking sounds like a good idea and so do the "just friend idea". why try to figure it out ahead of time, why not just go with the flow. maybe by the time the date is over, you'll have a better idea of whats it all about.

try not to feel too bad about not paying, she invited you. sometimes if we do the inviting, then we really expect to do the paying. it maybe something she just want to do, if not, you'll probably know that too by the end of lunch. sorry about the loss of your father.

if you are willing, let us know how it goes.
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