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THE KING · 10-17-2009, 12:01 AM

ok here is the situation it's far fetched In know and it was origfinally posted on a dating site (plenty of fish)

O and yes it's ALL true
ok I just don'yt even know if this is the pright place to post this or even how to begin this, it's gonna sound REALLY screwed up and your gonna think tht I am lying but I kid you not this is 100% THE TRUTH.

Ok so I got this buddy of mine who has this pregnant girlfriend that is according to him his entire world. he's ALWAYS talking qabout how much he loves her and wants to be with her I mean it's almost to much it's ALMOST kinda sick but thats OK he loves her and I am happy for him.

anyway he's my best friend, so much so thaat when she is born he has asked me to serve as an uncle/godfather figure. BTW he is NOT the real dad but he was able to put aside the fact taht she is pregnant (along with other things which we won't get into but he accepts all of it and loves her for who she is.)

good guy right? ya he is except for one thing.

I am a single guy (obiviously or I wouldn't be here) he comes to me and basically says

"you know man I can't believe your still angle, your a damn good looking guy, your charsmatic, your confident, you know what you want in life you should be able to have any woman you want."

I respond with "Ok thankyou but whats your point, what are you getting at?"

"When my Girl gets up here ( O ya she isn't currently in fort mac she is sick and in the hospital and he doesn't want her traveling while she is sick and pregnant.)

"when my girl gets up here I swant you to take a shot at her, I bet she jumps in bed with you just like that"

"what? what the hell are you serious you want me to try and sleep with your wife?"

"ya man go ahead I know you can do it"

"maybe but why are you OK with this?"

" come on man I know you can do it an you know it to"

"yes but again WHY are you OK with this"

"caause man your my best friend why not?"

and yes you DID read this right the soon to be father of a baby girl has ASKED me to try to sleep with his wife, I SWARE thats not sa lie.

THIS after he asked ME to be her GODFATHER

and the strangest part is not only does he want me to do this he KNOWS I could he said it himself

his exact quote was "I know if you want her you could have her so go for it."

so I guess what it comes down to as a parent can ANYONE mothers, fathers whatever can ANYONE tell me what the hell could be going through his mind to ask me to be the god father and THEN ask me to sleep with his wife?

hqas this ever happened? this can't be right

I don't even know if this is the right place to post this but I figure sense he is going to be a parent soon that I should seek advice from other parents

and I mean if he REALLY wants me to do this does that make it OK to try? I don't know I have always believed you NEVER EVER knowingly touch another man's wife but what if the husband asks you to do it?

I know this story is hard to believe but I sware EVERY word is true

THE KING · 10-17-2009, 02:26 AM

O and BTW not really contemplating this at all just wondering why he'd even ASK

**Ann** · 10-17-2009, 04:50 AM

And this guy is your friend because???

I don't know why he would say it but he sounds like a sick puppy to me.

You asked for a parent's input so here goes....

My son made bad choices in women and I used to tell him "You can get all the women you want...if you set your standards low enough".

Set your standards higher, King, the field may be smaller but the choices are more likely to match your own values.

Just a mama's thought.

***MsPINKAcres*** · 10-19-2009, 03:17 PM

Just wanted to tell you -
You deserve Healthier Friends and a healthier female companion

The reasoning behind his thinking/ her thinking - doesn't really matter - from my point of view -

As a parent of 5 daughters - I would HATE to think that one of my son-in-laws thinks this about one of my daughters and encourages this type of treatment of my precious daughters.

NO my daughters are not perfect - yes they have made horrible choices in their life - but I would hope and pray that their "guy" would love them beyond that and want the very best for them.

As his best friend to "hit" on them is not the very best.

I believe YOU can find healthier people to be friends with - after all YOU deserve much more respect and dignity than this TOO!

HUGS, (hope, unity, gratitude and serenity)
Rita

LovesToTravel · 10-24-2009, 04:32 PM

I'm thinking he doesn't trust his girl and needs a really good excuse to get away from her cuz jeez she slept with his best friend. I also think that he is not sure of himself...run....run....

What man sleeps with another man's pregnant girl? And who asks me to!
He is out to get you!

GrizeldasMum · 10-24-2009, 04:55 PM

That man has no respect for his wife, himself or you. I know you have no intention of granting his wish but I think you need to find some nicer buddies. If his wife was my daughter I'd even want you to tell her.

Redux · 10-27-2009, 03:21 PM

I don't think he's really your friend. I think he's using you. I think he wants to get you to do this so he can have a reason to dump this woman.

I'd stay away from him and definitely HER. There is nothing about this whole situation that could be even remotely described as "OK".

**hydrogirl** · 10-27-2009, 06:41 PM

Eeewwwwww......just sayin'. (about your 'friend', that is).

teke · 11-18-2009, 09:33 AM

he's your best friend who loves his pregnant wife, i'd sure hate to think about how he'd treat his enemies. very disrespectful to you, the wife and himself. not ok at all. makes me think, what do he REALLY think of you? not that it matters though, obviously he don't seem to know you very well, to be called a 'BEST FRIEND".

glad to think your standards are higher than his.

10-17-2009, 12:01 AM	#1 (permalink)
THE KING Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Toronto, Canada Posts: 257	ok to all the parents on this site I need help ok here is the situation it's far fetched In know and it was origfinally posted on a dating site (plenty of fish) O and yes it's ALL true ok I just don'yt even know if this is the pright place to post this or even how to begin this, it's gonna sound REALLY screwed up and your gonna think tht I am lying but I kid you not this is 100% THE TRUTH. Ok so I got this buddy of mine who has this pregnant girlfriend that is according to him his entire world. he's ALWAYS talking qabout how much he loves her and wants to be with her I mean it's almost to much it's ALMOST kinda sick but thats OK he loves her and I am happy for him. anyway he's my best friend, so much so thaat when she is born he has asked me to serve as an uncle/godfather figure. BTW he is NOT the real dad but he was able to put aside the fact taht she is pregnant (along with other things which we won't get into but he accepts all of it and loves her for who she is.) good guy right? ya he is except for one thing. I am a single guy (obiviously or I wouldn't be here) he comes to me and basically says "you know man I can't believe your still angle, your a damn good looking guy, your charsmatic, your confident, you know what you want in life you should be able to have any woman you want." I respond with "Ok thankyou but whats your point, what are you getting at?" "When my Girl gets up here ( O ya she isn't currently in fort mac she is sick and in the hospital and he doesn't want her traveling while she is sick and pregnant.) "when my girl gets up here I swant you to take a shot at her, I bet she jumps in bed with you just like that" "what? what the hell are you serious you want me to try and sleep with your wife?" "ya man go ahead I know you can do it" "maybe but why are you OK with this?" " come on man I know you can do it an you know it to" "yes but again WHY are you OK with this" "caause man your my best friend why not?" and yes you DID read this right the soon to be father of a baby girl has ASKED me to try to sleep with his wife, I SWARE thats not sa lie. THIS after he asked ME to be her GODFATHER and the strangest part is not only does he want me to do this he KNOWS I could he said it himself his exact quote was "I know if you want her you could have her so go for it." so I guess what it comes down to as a parent can ANYONE mothers, fathers whatever can ANYONE tell me what the hell could be going through his mind to ask me to be the god father and THEN ask me to sleep with his wife? hqas this ever happened? this can't be right I don't even know if this is the right place to post this but I figure sense he is going to be a parent soon that I should seek advice from other parents and I mean if he REALLY wants me to do this does that make it OK to try? I don't know I have always believed you NEVER EVER knowingly touch another man's wife but what if the husband asks you to do it? I know this story is hard to believe but I sware EVERY word is true

10-17-2009, 04:50 AM	#3 (permalink)
Ann Forum Leader Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: By The Lake Posts: 25,173	And this guy is your friend because??? I don't know why he would say it but he sounds like a sick puppy to me. You asked for a parent's input so here goes.... My son made bad choices in women and I used to tell him "You can get all the women you want...if you set your standards low enough". Set your standards higher, King, the field may be smaller but the choices are more likely to match your own values. Just a mama's thought. __________________ “Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” ~Winnie the Pooh~

10-19-2009, 03:17 PM	#4 (permalink)
*MsPINKAcres* Living in a Pinkful Place Join Date: May 2006 Location: Louisiana Posts: 5,818	Just wanted to tell you - You deserve Healthier Friends and a healthier female companion The reasoning behind his thinking/ her thinking - doesn't really matter - from my point of view - As a parent of 5 daughters - I would HATE to think that one of my son-in-laws thinks this about one of my daughters and encourages this type of treatment of my precious daughters. NO my daughters are not perfect - yes they have made horrible choices in their life - but I would hope and pray that their "guy" would love them beyond that and want the very best for them. As his best friend to "hit" on them is not the very best. I believe YOU can find healthier people to be friends with - after all YOU deserve much more respect and dignity than this TOO! HUGS, (hope, unity, gratitude and serenity) Rita __________________ ". . . let the understanding, love and peace of the program grow in you One Day at a Time." From the Al-Anon Suggested Closing It is very difficult to have a pity party when celebrating all the gratitude I have in my life!

11-18-2009, 09:33 AM	#9 (permalink)
teke grateful rca Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: atlanta, ga. Posts: 4,660	he's your best friend who loves his pregnant wife, i'd sure hate to think about how he'd treat his enemies. very disrespectful to you, the wife and himself. not ok at all. makes me think, what do he REALLY think of you? not that it matters though, obviously he don't seem to know you very well, to be called a 'BEST FRIEND". glad to think your standards are higher than his. __________________ GOD LOVES YOU AND SO DO I

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10-17-2009, 02:26 AM	#2 (permalink)
THE KING Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Toronto, Canada Posts: 257	O and BTW not really contemplating this at all just wondering why he'd even ASK

10-24-2009, 04:32 PM	#5 (permalink)
LovesToTravel Member 2 Hand Poker Champion! Flash Poker Champion! Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Michigan Posts: 1,945 Blog Entries: 23	I'm thinking he doesn't trust his girl and needs a really good excuse to get away from her cuz jeez she slept with his best friend. I also think that he is not sure of himself...run....run.... What man sleeps with another man's pregnant girl? And who asks me to! He is out to get you!

10-24-2009, 04:55 PM	#6 (permalink)
GrizeldasMum Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Edinburgh, Scotland Posts: 8	That man has no respect for his wife, himself or you. I know you have no intention of granting his wish but I think you need to find some nicer buddies. If his wife was my daughter I'd even want you to tell her.

10-27-2009, 03:21 PM	#7 (permalink)
Redux Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 54	I don't think he's really your friend. I think he's using you. I think he wants to get you to do this so he can have a reason to dump this woman. I'd stay away from him and definitely HER. There is nothing about this whole situation that could be even remotely described as "OK".

10-27-2009, 06:41 PM	#8 (permalink)
hydrogirl Forum Leader Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Paris, I wish....... Posts: 3,069 Blog Entries: 1	Eeewwwwww......just sayin'. (about your 'friend', that is).

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