A Different Slant.

I posted this awhile ago and received a lot of negative feedback. People accusing me of blaming others for my drinking. Nowhere in this post do I see blame. My husband and I went to a party last weekend where no-one was drinking, and as we left the party, he said 'wow, it sure does make it easier NOT to drink, when nobody else it'. I just looked at him. He proved my point. He is not an alcoholic, but even he thinks it is easier to obstain from something when it isn't around....guess that's why they say 'outta sight, outta mind'. That isn't always the case, I know. Jus sayin.
I made the reply to some of the negative feedback that it is also easier for me not to eat chips and chocolate cake if no-one else is. BUT, if my hubby is sitting beside me eating it, man is it hard to obstain.
I don't understand why some jumped so hard on this post and why they were so quick to accuse me of blaming others. It was simply a new way for me to look at things. I will do anything to stay sober, and if to stay sober, I have to think about things this way, then I will.
Anyways, I liked this post so much that I choose to put it in my blog so that I could re-read it. For me, it helps.


I heard something on T.V. the other day that really got me thinking.
Someone said that she believed that Addiction was a plague of today.
Thinking about that has been interesting. I started to think about how I am 'sick' with my disease. I then thought that if nobody else around me drank, if nobody in the world drank, would I have such a hard time staying sober myself. I don't think so. I know for a fact, that it is much easier for me to stay sober when others around me ARE NOT drinking. It is when everyone else is having drinks that I really struggle.
Then I thought, most people drink too much. I know all my friends and family do. Most of them. I know very few people who have just one, maybe two drinks and then stop. Most people over-drink. They may not 'misbehave' when they drink, but they get good and drunk. Doesn't that make THEM sick?
Why should I think of myself as the one who is sick when I am clean and sober? Maybe I should think about everyone else as sick. They are the ones who over-drink and in their own ways are dependant on alcohol.
When I think about it that way, it makes it easier for me to deal with not drinking while others are. Thinking that they are participating in this Addiction Plague. Thinking that they are sick and that I am not makes it a bit easier to not pick up.
I'm NOT saying that this is THE WAY IT IS.....I'm just sharing with you a different slant on 'being sick' which has helped me handle not drinking around others who are drinking.