Mother who would like answers and your prayers!
Posted 01-18-2008 at 07:44 PM by sweetpea40
Hi everyone,
I am new to this site..First of all let me say I am a mother of an addict. I love my son very much and he is a wonderful person. One month ago today, he put himself in rehab..That was a very proud moment for me...He is still there and his drug of choice is pain pills..I don't know if you have heard of Cornerstone of Recovery, but that was his choice of rehab..Everyday I talk to him, he seems to get stronger. This past week he moved into an appartment that is part of Cornerstone. He is doing great!! I am very proud of him..MY question is, he has 2 more months to go in this rehab facility, can someone tell me how long it usually takes Or maybe some stories of their recovery? I am very interest in any advise you have for my husand and me!! I know you all have been there and I just need some advise on how I must handle him when he arrives from rehab. Keep in mind my son lives with me and he is 21 yrs old...I know that he will have to change his friends, cell phone number, and ect. He knows this as well, but I guess I just want to get your advise on experiences you have had or are having now. I am open for all opinions and advise. Many prayers sent your way and Thanks so much!!
I am new to this site..First of all let me say I am a mother of an addict. I love my son very much and he is a wonderful person. One month ago today, he put himself in rehab..That was a very proud moment for me...He is still there and his drug of choice is pain pills..I don't know if you have heard of Cornerstone of Recovery, but that was his choice of rehab..Everyday I talk to him, he seems to get stronger. This past week he moved into an appartment that is part of Cornerstone. He is doing great!! I am very proud of him..MY question is, he has 2 more months to go in this rehab facility, can someone tell me how long it usually takes Or maybe some stories of their recovery? I am very interest in any advise you have for my husand and me!! I know you all have been there and I just need some advise on how I must handle him when he arrives from rehab. Keep in mind my son lives with me and he is 21 yrs old...I know that he will have to change his friends, cell phone number, and ect. He knows this as well, but I guess I just want to get your advise on experiences you have had or are having now. I am open for all opinions and advise. Many prayers sent your way and Thanks so much!!
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:prayingMy prayers to you. My parents NEVER set limits on my brother with addiction problems. They just kept giving him money and not facing the issues. Stay strong. The same addiction sure isn't pretty when the 21 year old becomes 51. The brother is struggling for his life now and the father finally sees how enabling DIDN'T help.
Barbara Eden said if she could turn back time after her son died, she wouldn't be afraid to snoop sometimes or confront things that were uncomfortable.
Get good advice and stay strong!Posted 01-18-2008 at 08:07 PM by someonessister
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Thanks someonessister!!
That is one thing I can honestly say, I never enabled my son..Never gave him money and always would confront when I had seen or found something. Sometimes I would feel guilty for snooping or confronting...I would feel awful when I would see him struggling with his debts, but I would never give in or would I let him know that it bothered me. I prayed and continue to pray for my son. I thank you so much for letting me know that I did the right thing, sometimes I question myself on being so tough and strong when it comes to helping him. It's a mothers nature to protect and nurture their children and so often I was tempted to help, but I didn't.. Thanks again! I will keep your brother and family in my prayers.Posted 01-18-2008 at 09:50 PM by sweetpea40 -
Hey sweetpea40--First of all your son is lucky to have you to snoop, and pray for him. I have put my mother through alot and sometimes I wonder why she continues to be there.I took it forgranted that I was blessed with a strong mother who knew that her daughter was still in there just being contaminated. so many people don't have mothers like your son and I. I went through re-hab (6months) and in 2 months I was back at it. I left and went to a different state and that worked. it seemed without those triggers or people and places around I din't want to use. I am currently doing that know I live in a rual area and its just as close to another town as it is my hometown and for the last month i have done really well stayin away from my town. so my advice is stay away as far as he can from people places and things that remind him. [B]REMEMBER ADDICTS HAVE A MASTERS DEGREE IN MANIPULATIO!!!!!!!! So be cautious in the end he will be thankful. I wasPosted 02-19-2008 at 07:34 PM by back2one
