http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/blogs/stagebear/ Online Support Groups for Addicts, Alcoholics and their Family, Friends and Loved Ones. Wed, 15 Feb 2012 22:34:28 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/images/misc/rss.jpg http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/blogs/stagebear/ http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/blogs/stagebear/2489-open-letter-our-multiple-personality-poster.html Fri, 21 Aug 2009 21:21:34 GMT Dear Friend:
I call you "friend" because I feel I have come to know you so well. You pop up here in multiple guises, ostensibly seeking help. You know the drill.
As a clinician, I don't much buy into Multiple Personality Disorder. It makes for good films but not so much in real life. I much prefer your actual diagnosis, Borderline Personality Disorder.
I've outed you in the forums more than once. My reasons are simple, there are good people here who want only to reach out to others. They spend real energy on their responses and deserve better. I was helped a great deal and remain to help assure others can get a foothold on recovery here when needed.
Your m.o. is pretty obvious: you come aboard as a new user, you plead your case rather eloquently for one so allegedly new to addiction. You pepper your original posts with potentially inflammatory statements and always end with a baiting question: "Does this sound like addiction?" "Do you think I need help?" and invariably end with something like "I'm open to all incite (sic)" Additionally, you frequently intentionally misspell words depending on your chosen "personality" but you fail to recognize that the words you misspell are quite ordinary and then go on to spell some of the most difficult words correctly.I mean give me a break: following "addickted" (sic) with "hypocritical"? Funniest of all, you'll sign out as the original poster, sign back in as another user and give yourself advice. Those moments are especially precious.
So here's the deal: I will continue to report you as I spot you. I will out you when necessary. You're not going to make this a playground for your pathology. I feel rather like Jimmy Stewart in "Rear Window". And I know I'll be called to task for posting this. I chose to blog it rather than make it as forum post for that very reason.
Enjoy your day. ]]> Stagebear http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/blogs/stagebear/2489-open-letter-our-multiple-personality-poster.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/blogs/stagebear/1910-understanding-certain-posters.html Wed, 04 Mar 2009 21:05:09 GMT Some folks who post here...one or two specifically...seem to fit the NIMH definition of Borderline Personality Disorder. Read below, then maybe reading their bullsh!t will be less stressful: While... Some folks who post here...one or two specifically...seem to fit the NIMH definition of Borderline Personality Disorder. Read below, then maybe reading their bullsh!t will be less stressful:

While a person with depression or bipolar disorder typically endures the same mood for weeks, a person with BPD may experience intense bouts of anger, depression, and anxiety that may last only hours, or at most a day.5 These may be associated with episodes of impulsive aggression, self-injury, and drug or alcohol abuse. Distortions in cognition and sense of self can lead to frequent changes in long-term goals, career plans, jobs, friendships, gender identity, and values. Sometimes people with BPD view themselves as fundamentally bad, or unworthy. They may feel unfairly misunderstood or mistreated, bored, empty, and have little idea who they are. Such symptoms are most acute when people with BPD feel isolated and lacking in social support, and may result in frantic efforts to avoid being alone.

People with BPD often have highly unstable patterns of social relationships. While they can develop intense but stormy attachments, their attitudes towards family, friends, and loved ones may suddenly shift from idealization (great admiration and love) to devaluation (intense anger and dislike). Thus, they may form an immediate attachment and idealize the other person, but when a slight separation or conflict occurs, they switch unexpectedly to the other extreme and angrily accuse the other person of not caring for them at all. Even with family members, individuals with BPD are highly sensitive to rejection, reacting with anger and distress to such mild separations as a vacation, a business trip, or a sudden change in plans. These fears of abandonment seem to be related to difficulties feeling emotionally connected to important persons when they are physically absent, leaving the individual with BPD feeling lost and perhaps worthless. Suicide threats and attempts may occur along with anger at perceived abandonment and disappointments.

People with BPD exhibit other impulsive behaviors, such as excessive spending, binge eating and risky sex. BPD often occurs together with other psychiatric problems, particularly bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety disorders, substance abuse, and other personality disorders. ]]> Stagebear http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/blogs/stagebear/1910-understanding-certain-posters.html