Useful April postings in F&F
Posted 05-03-2009 at 03:28 PM by grewupinabarn
Updated 05-19-2009 at 06:08 AM by grewupinabarn (maybe seeing the big picture, maybe just typing more)
Updated 05-19-2009 at 06:08 AM by grewupinabarn (maybe seeing the big picture, maybe just typing more)
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post2174594
When I feel something is wrong, even the damn weather, this fear is created.
Questions:
Is it 100%, or more than even 1/2, my fault
Can I accept, learn and improve on mistakes?
Can HP, if asked, help?
Another Entry, from ACOA's forum
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post2207193
There some well learned acoa lessons to unlearn,
1) Look at difficulties and discomfort as being inherently your fault in some way
2) Respond with denial and avoidance of difficulties and discomfort.
Yuck. Driving in forward and reverse, toward and away from suffering, at the same time. This is me exerting my power, and making myself powerless. 1 minus 1 = 0.
Sounds like me. It cannot be resolved by my power, but by my HP.
Quote:
Thread - Courage to Change ~ April 1 ~ Acceptance
Posted by CatsPajamas
Courage to Change ODAT in Al-Anon II 4/1
Posted by CatsPajamas
Courage to Change ODAT in Al-Anon II 4/1
Quote:
I’ve heard acceptance mentioned at meetings as one part of the “Three A’s” – Awareness, Acceptance, and Action. However, I am inclined to try to jump from awareness to action without even pausing for acceptance. My thinking goes like this: “Something’s wrong! Quick, let me fix it before I have to feel any discomfort.”
Questions:
Is it 100%, or more than even 1/2, my fault
Can I accept, learn and improve on mistakes?
Can HP, if asked, help?
Another Entry, from ACOA's forum
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post2207193
Quote:
Thread - In an Attempt to Resolve the Past
Posted by Dothi 4/25/09
"Think of how many times you've seen an alcoholic in your life be confronted with one of life's lessons, only to see them turn away in denial. Ask yourself is this one of the unhealthy coping skills that you may still be using? Do you know what a healthy coping skill would look like? Or are you still modelling what you learned growing up?"
Posted by Dothi 4/25/09
"Think of how many times you've seen an alcoholic in your life be confronted with one of life's lessons, only to see them turn away in denial. Ask yourself is this one of the unhealthy coping skills that you may still be using? Do you know what a healthy coping skill would look like? Or are you still modelling what you learned growing up?"
1) Look at difficulties and discomfort as being inherently your fault in some way
2) Respond with denial and avoidance of difficulties and discomfort.
Yuck. Driving in forward and reverse, toward and away from suffering, at the same time. This is me exerting my power, and making myself powerless. 1 minus 1 = 0.
Sounds like me. It cannot be resolved by my power, but by my HP.
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