Living with the pain
Posted 12-27-2007 at 07:24 AM by countrycotton
I am joining this website in hopes of having a journal to help sort out all this...
Last night my AH started drinking again and stayed out in the garage until 1 am. This morining he denied staying out that late and found fault with me instead. I once again told him that some people can drink but not him. He drinks until he passes out and last week he even started punching and kicking the walls. Lucky for me he was in the basement bedroom which has a concrete wall and he did no damage. He also was throwing things around and yelling which I am sad to say our two daughters heard this. The only think he actually broke was someything of small value and was not going to be missed. (a small wooden crate containing soap in the bathroom). This morning he left without even saying good bye. I wish he would stop drinking but looks like he will probably leave instead. Why would someone choose to loose their house, their family just so they can drink all alone? I again offered to go to AA with him and again he refused. Sometimes I think it would be a huge relief not to have to deal with this every 3 or 4 days. I am starting to wish he would go away but I worry that he will get joint custody and I can't live with the worry over what will happen to the children during his black outs and his drunken hazes.
Last night my AH started drinking again and stayed out in the garage until 1 am. This morining he denied staying out that late and found fault with me instead. I once again told him that some people can drink but not him. He drinks until he passes out and last week he even started punching and kicking the walls. Lucky for me he was in the basement bedroom which has a concrete wall and he did no damage. He also was throwing things around and yelling which I am sad to say our two daughters heard this. The only think he actually broke was someything of small value and was not going to be missed. (a small wooden crate containing soap in the bathroom). This morning he left without even saying good bye. I wish he would stop drinking but looks like he will probably leave instead. Why would someone choose to loose their house, their family just so they can drink all alone? I again offered to go to AA with him and again he refused. Sometimes I think it would be a huge relief not to have to deal with this every 3 or 4 days. I am starting to wish he would go away but I worry that he will get joint custody and I can't live with the worry over what will happen to the children during his black outs and his drunken hazes.
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my support and prayers
countrycotton: unfortunately for you there is no way that you can make this person go get help. Until he feels out of time and powerless it is going to continue to be hard times. What you can do is get some one you know to help you take pictures and document the damage he is doing. Take my advice JUDGES don't like violence in custody hearings and usually pictures and the word of another person to verify that you are not making this up goes a loooong way. Stay strong and pray for strength and guidancePHP Code::praying
Posted 01-05-2008 at 05:04 AM by Not highTEK
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Have you tried "Rebirthing"(please google it), it really helped to be aware of what was truly behind certain behaviors that were hard to change, it's much quicker than cognitive therapy and most are affordable not nearly as expensive as a PsychologistPosted 10-20-2010 at 07:27 PM by Ciccina
