As Good a Start as Any
Posted 02-22-2008 at 10:08 PM by AbsentFriend
I just posted this in the newcomers forum, and figured I'd put it her for my own memory.
Found this place a few days ago and just started posting. I am:
Sick and tired of family secrets, and being punished for being honest.
Setting boundaries with my family, finally.
Angry with my alcoholic/constantly fighting/unavailable parents, and am passive-aggressively using their credit card to pay my rent.
Amazed that my little brother decided on his own to stop drinking altogether, after his binges led frequently to blackouts, losing control of his car, and once, a suicide threat.
Hopeful that my other little brother will move out of our parents' house and recover from his anxiety.
Able to tell my story matter-of-factly to a friend of 2 years, while she is the one with tears in her eyes.
Grateful for a friend of 20 years that always responds when I reach out, no matter how long it's been.
A 10-month member of a therapy group, and relative newcomer to ACA groups.
A 4-month girlfriend of an NA member who has been clean for 1 year, 4 months. I never expected that MY recovery would be causing the most stress in our relationship.
Alternating between hope and exhaustion.
Found this place a few days ago and just started posting. I am:
Sick and tired of family secrets, and being punished for being honest.
Setting boundaries with my family, finally.
Angry with my alcoholic/constantly fighting/unavailable parents, and am passive-aggressively using their credit card to pay my rent.
Amazed that my little brother decided on his own to stop drinking altogether, after his binges led frequently to blackouts, losing control of his car, and once, a suicide threat.
Hopeful that my other little brother will move out of our parents' house and recover from his anxiety.
Able to tell my story matter-of-factly to a friend of 2 years, while she is the one with tears in her eyes.
Grateful for a friend of 20 years that always responds when I reach out, no matter how long it's been.
A 10-month member of a therapy group, and relative newcomer to ACA groups.
A 4-month girlfriend of an NA member who has been clean for 1 year, 4 months. I never expected that MY recovery would be causing the most stress in our relationship.
Alternating between hope and exhaustion.
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Way to go...sounds like you are off and running..
SheilaPosted 03-16-2008 at 07:45 PM by Lily
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I don't know why, but that just cracks me up. Hey, you learn from the best, right?Quote:am passive-aggressively using their credit card to pay my rent
Wow, you and I are at very similar places right now. For some reason it seems anger is a fleeting stage for most people when it comes to their parents, like you should hurry up and forgive already.Quote:Angry with my alcoholic/constantly fighting/unavailable parents
It hasn't been for me. I have no interest in forgiving my AF, who told me recently that 'he can't be responsible for what he doesn't remember". That's it. He's decided he's not responsible for anything I bring up with him. What he did to me is very much my problem to own. So I guess in the end it's still my problem to get over. Fine, but I'm not going to insult myself with forgiveness for someone who will hurt me again.
How about you? I'll search your blog for more, but how is your anger? Do you feel any guilt for not being more forgiving?Posted 02-22-2009 at 03:16 PM by dothi
