I wish I was a V-Rod

[skinner]

My boyfriend got a V-Rod in June. He joined a V-Rod forum, which is fine, except for the fact that he would rather talk to a bunch of strangers than me.

We have a long distance relationship(300 miles apart). This is new to both of us. We have been having "issues" as of late becuase I am needy (yes, codependent) and he is SOOOOOO not.

He works a TON and travels a TON and always uses that as his excuse for not being able to call more often or e-mail or whatever. Well, being the sneaky codie I am, I also checked out the V-Rod forum and it's amazing how he ALWAYS manages to have time for that........complete strangers......but not me......the woman he repeatedly says he loves and is in love with.

So, I wish I was a V-Rod for two reasons:
1. Perhaps then I would posess that certain quality to maintain his love an affection.
2. Then I wouldn't hurt when he decides to replace me with something else because I wouldn't be human therefore I wouldn't have feelings to GET hurt.

Yep, I'm having a sad day.........but things always get better........I just needed to "vent" I guess. Thanks to those of you who "listen"

[Gooch]

I for one am glad your not a V Rod.

for 2 reasons..

I prefer old school Harleys

and if you were a V Rod you wouldn't be here posting.


Hang in there. Long distance relationships can really be good material to get over the "neediness' and jealousy issues. Only speaking for myself.

[skinner]

Gooch -

THANK YOU!!!

I too consider this long distance thing as soooooooo good for me BECAUSE I am so needy!!! It is WAY difficult for someone like me (us?) to be alone so much but because he and I have made a committment to each other............I am FORCED to spend time alone. I don't have him to "run to" each and every time I "need".

I look at this relationship as a wonderful tool to help me be ok with me.........it sure isn't easy..........but I'll make it!!

By the way............c'mon now........the V-Rod ROCKS!!!

[Gooch]

that V Rod just plain has too many cylinders.. ya only need 2 .. well maybe 3 if your real power hungry.

[bikewench]

yoikes.... !

that bike has cylinderitus...


.. Skinner...
A guy don't have to be 300 miles away to not have any time for ya.. ;o)
But.. if I'm busy doing my thing... I really don't notice what I'm not getting... cause I;m not looking in the first place...

[BillJ]

Skinner,

If the V-Rod is a recent acquisition, it makes sense that he's spending more time with it. Boys and their toys, right? The new will wear off eventually.

And BTW, the V-Rod may "rock," but old dogs like me can't bring ourselves to call it a real Harley!

As for your admitted neediness: my E,S&H is that, when I had a complete, full life of my own, I no longer needed a woman. I learned to be okay with being alone, and found out I genuinely like the man I've become in sobriety.

Then, when I met a woman I wanted to be with - a woman who'd gone through the same learning process I'd gone through - it was because she made my already good life a little better; not because I "needed" her. We started out long-distance, and have been married (and sharing the home we bought together) for almost six years.

We have a lot in common - a love of God and family, a thirst for social justice, and an avid interest in music, to name a few. We even enjoy working crossword puzzles together!

However, we're not joined at the hip. We live our own lives. For instance, she's not an avid rider (occasional, but not frequent), and yet I'm free to take road trips without her, because she knows riding is one of the ways I fill my spiritual cup.

By the same token, there are things she needs to do for herself (like the women's retreat she hosted this past weekend, or the conference I'm sending her to in early September), and I support her in those things.

We're partners, where we might once have been hostages.

[best]

Wow! What wonderful insight.
Nothing more needs be said... Just Wow!

[skinner]

Best :

I am with you on this one!!