A sponsors 12 steps

[lionsstripe]

A Sponsor’s Twelve Steps

1. I will not let you stay and wallow in limbo.

2. I will help you grow, to become more productive, by your own definition.

3. I will help you become more autonomous, more loving of yourself, more free to continue becoming the authority of your own living.

4. I cannot give you dreams or "fix you up" simply because I can't.

5. I cannot give you growth, or grow for you. You must grow yourself, by facing reality, grim as it may be at times.

6. I cannot take away your loneliness or pain.

7. I cannot sense your world for you, evaluate your goals, or tell you what is best for you in your world, you have your own world.

8. I cannot convince you of the crucial choice of choosing the scary uncertainty of growing over the safe misery of not growing.

9. I want to be with you and know you as a rich and growing friend, yet I cannot get close to you when you choose not to grow.

10. When I begin to care for you out of pity, when I begin to lose trust in you, then I am toxic, bad and inhibiting for you, and you for me.

11. You must know my help is conditional. I will be with you, hang in there with you, as long as I continue to get even a slightest hints that you are trying to grow.

12. If you can accept all of this, then perhaps we can help each other to become what God meant us to be. mature adults, leaving childishness forever to little children.

[Rarly Harley]

Originally Posted by lionsstripe

A Sponsor’s Twelve Steps

1. I will not let you stay and wallow in limbo.

2. I will help you grow, to become more productive, by your own definition.

3. I will help you become more autonomous, more loving of yourself, more free to continue becoming the authority of your own living.

4. I cannot give you dreams or "fix you up" simply because I can't.

5. I cannot give you growth, or grow for you. You must grow yourself, by facing reality, grim as it may be at times.

6. I cannot take away your loneliness or pain.

7. I cannot sense your world for you, evaluate your goals, or tell you what is best for you in your world, you have your own world.

8. I cannot convince you of the crucial choice of choosing the scary uncertainty of growing over the safe misery of not growing.

9. I want to be with you and know you as a rich and growing friend, yet I cannot get close to you when you choose not to grow.

10. When I begin to care for you out of pity, when I begin to lose trust in you, then I am toxic, bad and inhibiting for you, and you for me.

11. You must know my help is conditional. I will be with you, hang in there with you, as long as I continue to get even a slightest hints that you are trying to grow.

12. If you can accept all of this, then perhaps we can help each other to become what God meant us to be. mature adults, leaving childishness forever to little children.

LS: These are very, very cool, my Brother. I am currently working with a sponsee on # 8. That's big ticket.....

[BillJ]

When I first approached my original sponsor, to ask if he'd work with me, he said "I don't have time to help you stay sick, but if you want to recover I'll do everything I can." I did, and he did.

[lilbit]

I can apply these guidlines to just about any relationship...helps seperate the good from the bad...from the ugly.
Got me thru a ruff spell one day...and THEy are ALWAYS a joy to see!

Stay Sober...just for today!

LOVE YOU!
The Bitz

[toad]

Pretty good stuff..............from one hillbilly to another..........thanks