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harleyrunt · 03-02-2008, 06:20 PM

What a bad weekend!!!! My cousin was killed in a bar room fight. Can you believe it a bar room fight. He was hit and he hit his head off of the concrete floor when he went down. We are all still in shock. It just really sucks!!! Alcohol and the running of mouth over something stupid and someone is dead. I hope this is a lesson to all of the young 20 somethings in the bar Friday night. It is just so sad. I guess we will be getting the bike around for a old PA March ride to bury one over our brothers.

toad · 03-02-2008, 08:14 PM

Sorry to hear about your cousin.....it was an accident, the fight might not have been an accident but hitting the concret was. I know it is a tuff time to stay sober, but if you succeed you will be grateful for that alone. My prayers are with you...........toad

**best** · 03-02-2008, 08:17 PM

Prayers are with you.

recoveringnky · 03-03-2008, 06:21 AM

Anger and resentment are poison to us. I'm praying for you and all of those involved!
Hugs,
Kym

Rarly Harley · 03-03-2008, 02:44 PM

HR: No, life isn't fair. It just is. As tough as this time is for you and your loved ones, please remember that your HP is stronger than any negative emotion, or urge to drink/use. Also, a lot of people will be watching you through this difficult time. You may be the only example of the power of recovery that some people may ever see. Ask your HP to help you and you will be OK. We are all here for you too and I'll be sending up prayers for you and yours...

The_Hammer · 03-04-2008, 03:50 PM

Prayers up HR. I can't tell ya how many brothers I have had to bury over drunken stupidity and pure evil 1% lifestyle. Like Rar said, it is exactly what it is and we all either learn from it or burn from it.

Freedom1990 · 03-08-2008, 12:38 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. Now that I look back at all the bar room brawls I witnessed, I was lucky to have escaped unscathed.

I pray your heart heals in time.

Jazzed_N_MD · 03-09-2008, 04:22 AM

I figured this is good a place as any. Life just is, people suck!! I got an employer that is what we black folks call, a ******. His life is so dishonest, he feels that everybody is out to get over on him so he has to get everyone else first. It doesn't matter who, but he goes after the closest and easiest right off. Freinds, family, co-workers and in his case, employees.

I drove for this guy for 2 weeks. His equipment failing the whole time. I even came out my pocket to get the job done and on time. During the trip, he goes to court and gets 2 years, doesn't really matter what for, he's gone and I have a chance to get a fair deal. I counted truck finances each time I stopped for fuel and again 4 times at the yard before turning in my paperwork. Everything was dead on perfect!! A week later, I have to keep calling just to find out if I can come get my pay. When I get there, the games begin. His wife dances around the reciepts trying to bring my attention to change from one of the fuel purchases asking "where's this money?" Well, it worked to a point whereas I walked out of thier house with instead of $940.00, only $500.00. (Rent already late, no gas money for the work week and another bill doesn't get paid)

I know it's only money and isn't worth my freedom, physically or spiritually. I know I have to leave it at that....BUT!!!

I dont know what I will do, I only know what I want to do. I want to confront this person directly with what I know weather I can prove it or not. I want to put down my recovery way of living and let the that old soldier handle this.

Sometimes when life just is and people suck, ya gotta make a choice....

Thanks for letting me vent.

chris k · 03-09-2008, 07:23 AM

Sorry to hear about that Jazzed. It might be time to look for a new job.

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Originally Posted by Jazzed_N_MD

I figured this is good a place as any. Life just is, people suck!! I got an employer that is what we black folks call, a ******. His life is so dishonest, he feels that everybody is out to get over on him so he has to get everyone else first. It doesn't matter who, but he goes after the closest and easiest right off. Freinds, family, co-workers and in his case, employees.

I drove for this guy for 2 weeks. His equipment failing the whole time. I even came out my pocket to get the job done and on time. During the trip, he goes to court and gets 2 years, doesn't really matter what for, he's gone and I have a chance to get a fair deal. I counted truck finances each time I stopped for fuel and again 4 times at the yard before turning in my paperwork. Everything was dead on perfect!! A week later, I have to keep calling just to find out if I can come get my pay. When I get there, the games begin. His wife dances around the reciepts trying to bring my attention to change from one of the fuel purchases asking "where's this money?" Well, it worked to a point whereas I walked out of thier house with instead of $940.00, only $500.00. (Rent already late, no gas money for the work week and another bill doesn't get paid)

I know it's only money and isn't worth my freedom, physically or spiritually. I know I have to leave it at that....BUT!!!

I dont know what I will do, I only know what I want to do. I want to confront this person directly with what I know weather I can prove it or not. I want to put down my recovery way of living and let the that old soldier handle this.

Sometimes when life just is and people suck, ya gotta make a choice....

Thanks for letting me vent.

Rarly Harley · 03-09-2008, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Jazzed_N_MD

I dont know what I will do, I only know what I want to do. wtf2 Thanks for letting me vent.

Jazzed: Thanks for sharing that Bro. I've been there on several occasions in my recovery. What has saved my ass (and the other guy's), is not trying to figure out what to do next when the **** hits the fan, but what kind of person God wants me to be, at that particular moment. I know from experience that if I trust Him completely when one door closes, He will open up another one in His own time, that will lead to better things....

slash · 03-09-2008, 10:28 AM

prayers sent for you and yours. I am so sorry, brother.

Jazzed_N_MD · 03-09-2008, 11:24 AM

(with an ironic chuckle) After venting with the question still looming, I took my butt to my regular Sun morn meeting. Wouldn't ya know, the topic ended up on "Powerlessness/Power". I'll keep venting as long as I need to until it goes away. But I know that no action from me towards them will make the situation better. I cannot make them do any more than what they decide to do.

I am powerless over their actions. I can however decide not to let them get me again. Before I did the trip, I was broke and unemployed. After all is said and done, I will walk away only out about $135.00, I still recieved $805.00. That's more than what I had in the beginning. Now I know.

p.s. I also know that they haven't sent the truck on another trip since I came back. Seems that they cant find a driver willing to work for them.

I know it's not completely right but...:rof

The_Hammer · 03-09-2008, 11:28 AM

Jazzed-In my humble opinion, ya got two choices. You can honestly confront the man and let him know in a proffesional manner the position this has put you in.

Or you can lay out the ultimatum after having done the above. Secure employment elsewhere, (this takes a great deal of acceptance and reliance on your HPs ability to do what ya can't do for yourself), then say; "Hey, OK, you keep the cash you stole from me, I'm clockin out and I will ruin your name in small claims court." Mainly, the deal here is rely on HP!

toad · 03-09-2008, 12:37 PM

God has something better for you..........wait and see. You might have been on the road for this jerk and missed it completely............Don't let him live rent free in your head, let only those that love you to hang out there.

Thanks for sharing, I am inspired by how you handle the everyday ups and downs.

Hurricane · 03-09-2008, 12:41 PM

If some of these jerks only knew how God was saving them.
Hang in their Jazz.

dollhouse · 03-09-2008, 01:14 PM

Harleyrunt, Iam very sorry to hear about your loss. Sometimes bad thing happen for good reasons only our HP knows......... Jazzed, I hear you buddy. I seem to get ripped off alot. I now know that I have to deal with them. Not always easy. But through recovery I can not always be kind. Have to do the things I need too...

Jazzed_N_MD · 03-10-2008, 09:02 AM

The "thanks" button doesn't work on my puter so,....

Thanks to everybody for your support! ! !

Freedom1990 · 03-12-2008, 01:16 PM

HR, just checking in to see how you are doing and keeping you in my prayers in Kansas.

BillJ · 03-17-2008, 08:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by harleyrunt

What a bad weekend!!!! My cousin was killed in a bar room fight.

Knowing what we do about sober living - the peace, freedom, and joy it brings - makes it that much harder to watch a loved one suffer and die from our disease. If only they'd made some meetings. If only they'd surrendered to a Higher Power. If only...

No rhyme or reason to it - it just sucks - but we're blessed to have a fellowship of love and support. We don't have to face these losses alone.

Prayers up for you and your cousin, HR.

03-02-2008, 06:20 PM	#1 (permalink)
harleyrunt Harley Rider and Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Hughesville, PA, Posts: 78	Sometimes Life Just Sucks What a bad weekend!!!! My cousin was killed in a bar room fight. Can you believe it a bar room fight. He was hit and he hit his head off of the concrete floor when he went down. We are all still in shock. It just really sucks!!! Alcohol and the running of mouth over something stupid and someone is dead. I hope this is a lesson to all of the young 20 somethings in the bar Friday night. It is just so sad. I guess we will be getting the bike around for a old PA March ride to bury one over our brothers. __________________ It's not the size of the dog in the fight, it's the size of the fight in the dog!!!

03-02-2008, 08:14 PM	#2 (permalink)
toad Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: mountain grove, missouri Posts: 1,075	Sorry to hear about your cousin.....it was an accident, the fight might not have been an accident but hitting the concret was. I know it is a tuff time to stay sober, but if you succeed you will be grateful for that alone. My prayers are with you...........toad __________________ Tet Vet PGR member 2007 Road King Classic 96 C.I. Six-speed Vivid black God......... Let You........... be enough for me.

03-02-2008, 08:17 PM	#3 (permalink)
best Don't get undies in a bunch Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: South Shore MA Posts: 7,184	Prayers are with you. __________________ * I asked God to spare me pain. God said "No", Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to me. Recovery Related Acronym B. E. S. T. = Been Enjoying Sobriety Today?

03-03-2008, 06:21 AM	#4 (permalink)
recoveringnky Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: The beautiful mountains of Kentucky Posts: 604	Anger and resentment are poison to us. I'm praying for you and all of those involved! Hugs, Kym __________________ Kym P. Keeping it Simple Life is too short for drama & petty things, so kiss slowly, laugh insanely, love truly and forgive quickly.

03-03-2008, 02:44 PM	#5 (permalink)
Rarly Harley Have we seen a person fail... Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: S.S. Marie, Ont. Can. Posts: 710	HR: No, life isn't fair. It just is. As tough as this time is for you and your loved ones, please remember that your HP is stronger than any negative emotion, or urge to drink/use. Also, a lot of people will be watching you through this difficult time. You may be the only example of the power of recovery that some people may ever see. Ask your HP to help you and you will be OK. We are all here for you too and I'll be sending up prayers for you and yours... __________________ Rarly 2002 FLHTC "Annie" " as we let our own light shine, we unconciously give other people permission to do the same"... Nelson Mandela

03-04-2008, 03:50 PM	#6 (permalink)
The_Hammer Beat, but not beaten.... Join Date: May 2006 Location: Fremont, NE Posts: 729	Prayers up HR. I can't tell ya how many brothers I have had to bury over drunken stupidity and pure evil 1% lifestyle. Like Rar said, it is exactly what it is and we all either learn from it or burn from it. __________________ Blessings, Jimmy

03-08-2008, 12:38 PM	#7 (permalink)
Freedom1990 Zoo Crew Keeper Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Kansas Posts: 1,611	I am so sorry for your loss. Now that I look back at all the bar room brawls I witnessed, I was lucky to have escaped unscathed. I pray your heart heals in time. __________________ DeVon & the Zoo Crew "Blessed is the person who has earned the love of an old dog." ~Sydney Jeanne Seward

03-09-2008, 04:22 AM	#8 (permalink)
Jazzed_N_MD Biker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Delmar, MD (Eastern Shore) Posts: 431	Suitable place to vent I figured this is good a place as any. Life just is, people suck!! I got an employer that is what we black folks call, a *****. His life is so dishonest, he feels that everybody is out to get over on him so he has to get everyone else first. It doesn't matter who, but he goes after the closest and easiest right off. Freinds, family, co-workers and in his case, employees. I drove for this guy for 2 weeks. His equipment failing the whole time. I even came out my pocket to get the job done and on time. During the trip, he goes to court and gets 2 years, doesn't really matter what for, he's gone and I have a chance to get a fair deal. I counted truck finances each time I stopped for fuel and again 4 times at the yard before turning in my paperwork. Everything was dead on perfect!! A week later, I have to keep calling just to find out if I can come get my pay. When I get there, the games begin. His wife dances around the reciepts trying to bring my attention to change from one of the fuel purchases asking "where's this money?" Well, it worked to a point whereas I walked out of thier house with instead of $940.00, only $500.00. (Rent already late, no gas money for the work week and another bill doesn't get paid) I know it's only money and isn't worth my freedom, physically or spiritually. I know I have to leave it at that....BUT!!! I dont know what I will do, I only know what I want to do. I want to confront this person directly with what I know weather I can prove it or not. I want to put down my recovery way of living and let the that old soldier handle this. Sometimes when life just is and people suck, ya gotta make a choice.... Thanks for letting me vent. __________________ Mykl (aka-Jazz) SRMC-Club Area Rep-MD When you feel it, you will know!*

03-09-2008, 10:28 AM	#11 (permalink)
slash Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: www.ericwhitfieldart.com Posts: 114	prayers sent for you and yours. I am so sorry, brother.

03-09-2008, 11:24 AM	#12 (permalink)
Jazzed_N_MD Biker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Delmar, MD (Eastern Shore) Posts: 431	Thanks Ya'll (with an ironic chuckle) After venting with the question still looming, I took my butt to my regular Sun morn meeting. Wouldn't ya know, the topic ended up on "Powerlessness/Power". I'll keep venting as long as I need to until it goes away. But I know that no action from me towards them will make the situation better. I cannot make them do any more than what they decide to do. I am powerless over their actions. I can however decide not to let them get me again. Before I did the trip, I was broke and unemployed. After all is said and done, I will walk away only out about $135.00, I still recieved $805.00. That's more than what I had in the beginning. Now I know. p.s. I also know that they haven't sent the truck on another trip since I came back. Seems that they cant find a driver willing to work for them. I know it's not completely right but...:rof __________________ Mykl (aka-Jazz) SRMC-Club Area Rep-MD When you feel it, you will know!

03-09-2008, 11:28 AM	#13 (permalink)
The_Hammer Beat, but not beaten.... Join Date: May 2006 Location: Fremont, NE Posts: 729	Jazzed-In my humble opinion, ya got two choices. You can honestly confront the man and let him know in a proffesional manner the position this has put you in. Or you can lay out the ultimatum after having done the above. Secure employment elsewhere, (this takes a great deal of acceptance and reliance on your HPs ability to do what ya can't do for yourself), then say; "Hey, OK, you keep the cash you stole from me, I'm clockin out and I will ruin your name in small claims court." Mainly, the deal here is rely on HP! __________________ Blessings, Jimmy

03-09-2008, 12:37 PM	#14 (permalink)
toad Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: mountain grove, missouri Posts: 1,075	God has something better for you..........wait and see. You might have been on the road for this jerk and missed it completely............Don't let him live rent free in your head, let only those that love you to hang out there. Thanks for sharing, I am inspired by how you handle the everyday ups and downs. __________________ Tet Vet PGR member 2007 Road King Classic 96 C.I. Six-speed Vivid black God......... Let You........... be enough for me.

03-09-2008, 12:41 PM	#15 (permalink)
Hurricane Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Missouri Posts: 266	If some of these jerks only knew how God was saving them. Hang in their Jazz.

03-09-2008, 01:14 PM	#16 (permalink)
dollhouse dollhouse Join Date: May 2006 Location: hamilton,ontario Posts: 39	Life sucks Harleyrunt, Iam very sorry to hear about your loss. Sometimes bad thing happen for good reasons only our HP knows......... Jazzed, I hear you buddy. I seem to get ripped off alot. I now know that I have to deal with them. Not always easy. But through recovery I can not always be kind. Have to do the things I need too...

03-10-2008, 09:02 AM	#17 (permalink)
Jazzed_N_MD Biker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Delmar, MD (Eastern Shore) Posts: 431	The "thanks" button doesn't work on my puter so,.... Thanks to everybody for your support! ! ! __________________ Mykl (aka-Jazz) SRMC-Club Area Rep-MD When you feel it, you will know!

03-12-2008, 01:16 PM	#18 (permalink)
Freedom1990 Zoo Crew Keeper Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Kansas Posts: 1,611	HR, just checking in to see how you are doing and keeping you in my prayers in Kansas. __________________ DeVon & the Zoo Crew "Blessed is the person who has earned the love of an old dog." ~Sydney Jeanne Seward

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